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Why Self-Compassion Trumps Self-Esteem

Why Self-Compassion Trumps Self-Esteem
In this incredibly competitive society of ours, how many of us truly feel good about ourselves? I remember once, as a freshman in college, after spending hours getting ready for a big party, I complained to my boyfriend that my hair, makeup, and outfit were woefully inadequate. He tried to reassure me by saying, “Don’t worry, you look fine.” Juan Estey “Fine? Oh great, I always wanted to look fine . . .” The desire to feel special is understandable. Not very well. How can we grow if we can’t acknowledge our own weaknesses? Continually feeding our need for positive self-evaluation is a bit like stuffing ourselves with candy. The result is often devastating. And of course, the goalposts for what counts as “good enough” seem always to remain out of reach. Another way So what’s the answer? When I first came across the idea of “self-compassion,” it changed my life almost immediately. After getting my Ph.D., I did two years of postdoctoral training with a leading self-esteem researcher.

Astronomical & Nightscape Photography by Chris Cook Last Update: December 12, 2015 All the images in this site are © Copyright 1987-2015 by Chris Cook. Any use of these images without the prior written consent or knowledge of the author is strictly prohibited. Contact Chris for more information. Current Weather on Cape Cod 10 of the Biggest Lies in History" According to myth, a young George Washington confessed to cutting down a cherry tree by proclaiming, "I cannot tell a lie." The story is testament to how much respect Americans have for their cherished first president and honesty in general. Unfortunately, in the annals of history it seems there are 10 dishonest scoundrels for every honorable hero like Washington. Supposedly, the truth can set you free. But for many, deceit holds the key to money, fame, revenge or power, and these prove all too tempting. In history, this has often resulted in elaborate hoaxes, perjuries, and forgeries that had enormous ripple effects. In the following pages, we'll go over some of the most colossal and significant lies in history. Without further ado, let's delve into one of the oldest and most successful lies on record.

Kristin Neff, Ph Kristin Neff, Ph. D. Associate Professor Educational Psychology Dept. University of Texas at Austin 1 University Station, D5800 Austin, TX 78712 e-mail: kristin.neff@mail.utexas.edu Download Curriculum Vita Spring 2013 Self-Compassion Publications Publications by Kristin Neff and colleagues (in chronological order) Germer, C. Link Neff, K. link Neff, K. Link Neff, K. Link Neff, K. Link Neff, K., & Tirch, D. (2013). Link Neff, K. LInk Yarnell, L. Link Neff, K. Link Raes, F., Pommier, E., Neff,K. Link Neff, K. (2010). Link Neff, K. Neff, K. Neff, K. Neff, K. Link Neff, K. Neff, K. Neff, K. Neff, K. Neff, K. Neff, K. Neff, K. Neff, K. link Neff, K. Link Studies by other researchers with a major focus on self-compassion (in alphabetical order) Adams, C. Akın, A. (2008). Akin, A. (2009). Allen, A. Link Allen, A., & Leary, M. Link Allen, A., & Leary, M. Baer, R. llnk Baker, L. Link Barnard, L. Link Barnard, L. Link Baer, R. Link Beaumont, E, Galpin, A. & Jenkins, P. (2012). Bergen-Cico, D., & Cheon, S. (2013). Link Link Link

Concept Racing Car Design GreenGT Twenty-4 GreenGT is one of the radically eco-friendly auto companies from Switzerland. It recently released its latest new concept named Twenty-4. It is a magnificent all electric car designed by 5 students from the CCi du Valenciennois in France. The outstanding prototype is made of carbon fiber chassis as well as a fiber glass body, and is expected to take part in 24 hour Le Mans race in France scheduled in 2011 though it is still under construction. The GreenGT Twenty-4 engineers have revealed the first performance figures of the car. The electric race car is powered by two 100 kilowatts 2-phase synchronous motors, and the motors of the GreenGT Twenty-4 are coupled with a proprietary gearbox and differential. According to Christophe Schwartz, the head engineer of the GreenGT,” The GreenGT Twenty-4 design study could become our 2011 Le Mans Prototype electric racer or it could even become an electric road going supercar.

Why you should learn to lucid dream | The Journey by Robin Nixon If you’ve never experienced it then you may find it hard to understand what lucid dreaming is all about. In fact you may be thoroughly sceptical and dismiss the whole thing as silly nonsense. But I can tell you from personal experience that lucid dreams are very real and something that many millions of people regularly enjoy. Note: Due to the huge amount of interest that this post has generated I am now seriously considering writing a book on the subject, and I would welcome input from anyone with an interest. These types of dreams are hyper-real in that when you experience one it is bursting with vibrant colour, there’s often marvellous music playing in the background (if you listen for it), the air is the freshest and sweetest you’ve ever smelled, and you are the healthiest you have ever been (or could ever be). Lucid dreaming is when you experience full consciousness while dreaming. When you ‘wake up’ inside a dream you can consciously appreciate just how wonderful dreams really are.

Om Mani Padme Hum: The Meaning of the Mantra in Tibetan Buddhism Glimpsing a Few More Facets of the Mantra There are many ways to understand the meaning of the mantra. Here are a few of them: The Transformation of Speech [An excerpt from The Dharma, by Kalu Rinpoche, from a chapter on The Four Dharmas of Gampopa. ] "The second aspect of transformation [of confusion into wisdom] concerns our speech. Mere words, which have no ultimate reality, can determine our happiness and suffering. In the Vajrayana context, we recite and meditate on mantra, which is enlightened sound, the speech of the [Bhodisattva of Compassion], the union of Sound and Emptiness. At first, the Union of Sound and Emptiness is simply an intellectual concept of what our meditation should be. One of the disciples was very diligent, though his realization was perhaps not so profound. When the two disciples went to their lama to indicate they had finished the practice, he said, 'Oh, you've both done excellently. The Powers of the Six Syllables "Behold! H.H. top of page

35 Funny Marvel Disney Mashups Artwork Disney has recently announced to acquire Marvel Entertainment Inc. for $4 billion by the end of the year. Both companies have approved the transaction, leaving some details remained to confirm. The moment I heard the news, hit discussions had been drawn off by Marvel fans, and Disney fans. Artists also expressed their feelings on the news. Mickey Mouse is swinging around in Spider Man costume, and Spider Man sighing with Mickey Mouse ears. Just like what these illustrations present, some are celebrating the acquisition, some are quite worried that their beloved Marvel characters may change and lose their charm. Calm down people! Design by Freddy (Left), Replies SLOWLY (Right) Design by Edu Herrera Design by Derek Laufman (Left), Emilio J.Lopez (Right) Design by Chikinrise Design by Eduardovieira (Left), Danielle Soloud (Right) Design by CerberusLives Design by BW-Straybullet (Left), Stunna-K (Right) Design by Ninjaco Design by Jeffieb (Left), Alberto J. Design by Nyisha Haynes

102 Resources for Fiction Writing « Here to Create UPDATE 1/10: Dead links removed, new links added, as well as Revision and Tools and Software sections. Are you still stuck for ideas for National Novel Writing Month? Or are you working on a novel at a more leisurely pace? Here are 102 resources on Character, Point of View, Dialogue, Plot, Conflict, Structure, Outlining, Setting, and World Building, plus some links to generate Ideas and Inspiration. Also, I recommend some resources for Revision and some online Tools and Software. 10 Days of Character Building Name Generators Name Playground The Universal Mary Sue Litmus Test Priming the idea pump (A character checklist shamlessly lifted from acting) How to Create a Character Seven Common Character Types Handling a Cast of Thousands – Part I: Getting to Know Your Characters It’s Not What They Say . . . Establishing the Right Point of View: How to Avoid “Stepping Out of Character” How to Start Writing in the Third Person Web Resources for Developing Characters What are the Sixteen Master Archetypes?

The Doctrine is Compassion -- The Dalai Lama We can reject everything else: religion, ideology, all received wisdom. But we cannot escape the necessity of love and compassion.... This, then, is my true religion, my simple faith. In this sense, there is no need for temple or church, for mosque or synagogue, no need for complicated philosophy, doctrine or dogma. ~ Tenzin Gyatso, the 14th Dalai Lama ~ (Remembering the people of Tibet and the victims of Tiananmen Square on the opening of the Beijing Olympics ) (left button to play, right button to save)

Beginning Game Development: Part I – Introduction | Coding4Fun Articles Part I – Introduction Welcome to the first article of an introductory series on game programming using the Microsoft .NET Framework and managed DirectX 9.0. This series as aimed at beginning programmers who are interested in developing a game for their own use with the .NET Framework and DirectX. In this series, we are going to build a simple game to illustrate the various components of a commercial game. Tools: Before we start writing our first game we need to talk about the tools we will use. The most important tool for any developer is the Integrated Development Environment (IDE). Visual Studio 2005 (also known by the codename “Whidbey") is the third version of the standard Microsoft IDE for .NET Framework-based applications. The second important tool we need to create a great looking game is a graphics Application Programming Interface (API). At some point in your game development experience you are going to have to create or modify graphics. What makes a successful game? Our Game idea:

Eight Secrets Which Writers Won’t Tell You Image from Flickr by Lazurite This is not particularly relevant to the post, but I’m getting an awful lot of comments telling me, often a little snarkily, “it’s ‘THAT’ not ‘WHICH’”. The “don’t use which for restrictive clauses” rule comes (as far as I can tell) from Strunk and White. Plenty of authors, including Austen, have used “which” exactly as I use it in the title. It’s very commonly used like this here in England, so I’m guessing my comments are coming from US readers. There was never a period in the history of English when “which” at the beginning of a restrictive relative clause was an error. I thought about putting “that” in the title – but I like the sound of “which” between “secrets” and “writers”. And with that out of the way, enjoy the post! A few years ago, I’d look at published writers and think that they were somehow different from me. They were real writers. I’m going to go through eight secrets. Secret #1: Writing is Hard The truth is, though, that writing is hard.

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