The One Thing Men Want More Than Sex —RSVP to join weekly calls on Love, Sex & Relationships–How many times have we heard the phrase, “All men want is sex?” When I was 17 years old I was sure it was true. When I was 37 years old, I suspected it might not be true. This understanding has dawned on me slowly and became most evident to me in my men’s group. From the time I was a young I learned that wanting sex was synonymous with being a man. This early lesson was validated through the years: Always wanting sex is the mark of manliness for many. So, what do men want more than sex? The world of men is a world of competition. Getting taken into her body gives us a sense of peace and homecoming that goes way beyond simple sexual pleasure. Many of us remember the early school dances we attended. By the time we become adults, we’ve already been battered and bruised by the world of competition and rejection. “Always wanting sex” is part of the male persona we wear to show we’re manly. What Next? Register New Account
25 Tips on How to Make Your Boyfriend Happy Every Day Looking for ways to make your boyfriend happy? Well, that’s a really sweet gesture. After all, one of the most important aspects of a relationship is the ability for both partners to look for new ways to keep each other happy all the time. [Read: How to keep a guy interested in you in 30 super sexy ways] Wanting to make your boyfriend happy is very sweet of you. And you’ll know just how to do that right here. But always remember the one thing that makes love so special. It’s mutual. Don’t ever go out of your way to make someone happy, unless they’re doing the same for you. If you’re looking for ways to cheer up your boyfriend after a bad day, read how to cheer up your partner. How to make your boyfriend happy every day If you want to know how to make your boyfriend happy everyday in little ways that can help him realize how special and wonderful you are, use these 25 ways. #1 What first attracted him to you? #2 Help him with his life. #3 Indulge in romantic gestures. #6 Ask for his help.
The 6 Crappiest Interview Questions All artwork and content on this site is Copyright © 2015 Matthew Inman. Please don't steal. TheOatmeal.com was lovingly built using CakePHP All artwork and content on this site is Copyright © 2015 Matthew Inman. TheOatmeal.com was lovingly built using CakePHP 29 Semi-Productive Things I Do Online When I’m Trying to Avoid Real Work You don’t always have to work hard to be productive. Productivity can simply be the side effect of doing the right things. So here’s a list of 29 semi-productive things I do online when my mind is set on avoiding ‘real work.’ Check delicious popular tags like ‘useful,’ ‘tutorials,’ ‘tips,’ ‘howto,’ ‘advice,’ ‘entrepreneurship,’ etc. for interesting, educational articles to read.Watch one of the thousands of educational videos streaming at TED.com, Academic Earth and Teacher Tube.Read an online book list and find a new book to grab next time I’m at the library. Here’s another list. And another. Oh, and ever since I bought my new (super sexy) Apple iPad , I’ve been enjoying all of these sites on the go and catching looks from almost everyone who passes me while I browse. So what kind of semi-productive things do you do online in your off-time? Photo by: Colorblind Picaso Party Casino Related 30 Life-Enhancing Things You Can Do in 30 Minutes or Less April 19, 2012 In "Happiness" October 4, 2010
The Pleasure of Pain By Marianne Apostolides, published September 1, 1999 - last reviewed on June 9, 2016 Bind my ankles with your white cotton rope so I cannot walk. Bind my wrists so I cannot push you away. Place me on the bed and wrap your rope tighter around my skin so it grips my flesh. Of every 10 people who reads these words, one or more has experimented with sadomasochism (S & M), which is most popular among educated, middle- and upper-middle-class men and women, according to psychologists and ethnographers who have studied the phenomenon. article continues after advertisement For James, the desire became apparent when he was a child playing war games--he always hoped to be captured. At first the scene found him. James, a father and manager, has a Type A personality--in-control, hard-working, intelligent, demanding. As James' experience illustrates, sadomasochism involves a highly unbalanced power relationship established through role-playing, bondage, and/or the infliction of pain. Abuse Boundaries
why our relationships fail - Robin S. Cohen, Ph.D. How do we first begin to experience love? Perhaps as babies, as early psychoanalysts Fairbairn and Guntrip believed, the only way we could feel loved was by having our needs met. The language of bodily transformation was the language of love. Mommy feeds us, changes our diaper or picks us up and we feel satisfied. This feeling of satisfaction and security may be the early equivalent to feeling loved. This is not an unreasonable perspective– we do want our loved ones to be attuned to us and to care enough about us to do what they can to add to our lives. How can we negotiate this impossibly thorny paradox of love if we both believe deep down that we can only feel loved if someone loves us enough to be who we need them to be? D.W. Related Articles and Authors Tara Parker-Pope: The Happy Marriage is the “Me” Marriage Stephen Mitchell. D.W. Jessica Benjamin (multiple books) Harry Guntrip. Adam Phillips: a life in writing
The 23 Funniest Strutting Leo Pics from StruttingLeo After coming across a picture of a cartoonishly happy Leonoard DiCaprio on the set of "Inception," the internet has gone to town. "Strutting Leo," as it's been dubbed, has been photoshopped into what seems like every photograph ever taken. And for good reason: It's amazing. The Original: The 'Shops: Top 6 Sites that Inspire and Educate If you’re a professional who likes to be intellectually stimulated and you enjoy keeping up with the latest news and breaking trends, the internet provides you with an endless choice of carefully curated sites to visit. Today, we bring you six of them that we believe are leaps and bounds above the rest. These sites will not only educate you on topics ranging from business and technology to art and design, they’ll motivate you to find your own, original ideas and see them through. They’re culturally relevant, they’re idea driven and most of all, they’re deeply inspirational. TED is short for three incredibly important subjects in our modern world; technology, entertainment and design. Started in 1984, TED brings together the most brilliant minds to teach us about issues that matter. Tip: Download TED’s free iPad app to browse through 800 videos by date, popularity or keyword. 2. Brain Pickings started from very humble beginnings. 4. 5.
Your Brain on BDSM: Why Getting Spanked and Tied Up Makes You Feel High In honor of Valentine's Day, we're spending the week debunking myths and lies about romance. Read the rest of our "Love is a Hoax" coverage here. There's no denying that understanding how the human body works can lead to some intense sex. After all, as clichéd as it is, the brain is the biggest erogenous zone—and BDSM is no different. It may conjure up images of bondage, discipline, sadomasochism, dominance, and submission, but many BDSM practictioners attribute the pleasurable pain of their fetish to the endorphin rush that accompanies the acting out of their fantasies. "For all of us, endorphins bind to opiate receptors to naturally relieve pain," explains Maitresse Madeline Marlowe, a professional dominatrix who also works as a performer and director for Kink.com, a leading BDSM content producer. As far back as 1987, leather activist and author Dr. In a 2009 study titled Hormonal Changes and Couple Bonding in Consensual Sadomasochistic Activity, Dr. Photo by Juan Moyano via Stocksy
How to be Graceful and Elegant in 10 Steps A graceful woman attracts attention and draws respect from all men. Find out how to be graceful and elegant and wow anyone or any place you walk into. The art of being graceful isn’t a trait that’s just used to impress a guy or look good at a social gathering. It’s the key to a better life. Men love a graceful woman. Women envy a graceful woman. It’s easy to be graceful. [Read: How to look sexy without trying] How to be graceful and elegant Understanding how to be graceful is filled with self reflecting lessons that need your attention. If the whole idea of spending time in front of the mirror, miming and pretending like you’re having a conversation or learning to smile and pout puts you off, well, you’re going to have a hard time learning to be graceful. You’re your own critique. After all, all those perfect celebrities didn’t learn to walk with a graceful swanlike gait when they took their first baby step. If you want to be graceful, here are ten steps you need to indulge in. #6 Lose that fat