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The 12 Ties that Bind Long-Term Relationships

The 12 Ties that Bind Long-Term Relationships
That crazy thing we call love is perhaps one of the most studied and least understood areas in psychology. One reason is that many studies of romantic relationships are carried out not in real life, but in the lab. Making matters worse, many of these studies involve dating relationships between samples of convenience, consisting of undergraduate students. Though these students are certainly capable of close relationships, many of them haven’t matured enough to know themselves, much less what they want out of a romantic partner. What better way to find out about love than to survey the experts? Not the psychology experts—the expert members of couples who have been married 10 years or longer. Just as clearly, not everyone felt the same degree of intensity about their spouses. A few caveats about the study might have already come to your mind. Now that you’ve learned the basics of this fascinating study, it’s time to put your relationship to the test.

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