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The 12 Ties that Bind Long-Term Relationships

The 12 Ties that Bind Long-Term Relationships
That crazy thing we call love is perhaps one of the most studied and least understood areas in psychology. One reason is that many studies of romantic relationships are carried out not in real life, but in the lab. Making matters worse, many of these studies involve dating relationships between samples of convenience, consisting of undergraduate students. Though these students are certainly capable of close relationships, many of them haven’t matured enough to know themselves, much less what they want out of a romantic partner. What better way to find out about love than to survey the experts? Just as clearly, not everyone felt the same degree of intensity about their spouses. Earlier research by psychologist Arthur Aron, who collaborated in this study, suggested that the people who are most intensely in love are the ones who feel a strong romantic attraction, but who also enjoy engaging in “self-expanding” joint activities that are novel and challenging. Related:  Random words

Going On a Date Without Breaking the Bank photo: Shayne Kaye According to one economist, the true cost of a date is around $250. That includes dinner, a movie, and the opportunity cost of time spent on a date. I’m not sure I buy the “cost of time” part, but I agree that the whole “dinner and a movie” routine can get pricey pretty quickly. That’s why I tend to suggest other activities. 1. One of dating coach Sandy Weiner’s favorite low-cost first dates was going to a museum in New York City. 2. Lizzy Shaw, a Los Angeles public relations professional, had a great first date at the Santa Monica Airport flea market. 3. Many cities and towns host free outdoor movies during the summer. 4. What could be more romantic than a picnic blanket, the great outdoors, and some home-cooked finger food (or sandwiches from a local eatery)? 5. Even if you can’t get to a hiking trail, city walks can be fun, too. 6. Forget five-star dining! 7. 8. Susan Johnston is a Boston-based freelance writer who covers business and lifestyle topics.

How To Make a Cool Cinemagraph Image in Photoshop No doubt you’ll have heard of the term Cinemagraph since it exploded onto the Internets. Originally coined by Photographers Kevin Burg and Jamie Beck, a cinemagraph is a clever revival of the classic animated GIF. It combines features of video and photography to create a the illusion of a still image but with cool motion effects. Let’s take a look at how to create your own animated GIF cinemagraph by playing around with Photoshop’s animation tools. Some of the best cinemagraph examples can be found on the creators’ own website. As the popularity of the cinemagraph grew we began to see mobile apps such as Cinemagram emerge, which allows the easy creation of amateur cinemagraphs using the device’s built in camera. Cinemagraphs require some kind of motion, so while the final image looks much more similar to a photograph than a video, we need to begin with actual video footage. Use a tripod. Alternatively you could always play around with existing stock video footage. Download this file

Saudade Saudade (European Portuguese: [sɐwˈðaðɨ], Brazilian Portuguese: [sawˈdadi] or [sawˈdadʒi], Galician: [sawˈðaðe]; plural saudades)[1] is a Portuguese and Galician word that has no direct translation in English. It describes a deep emotional state of nostalgic or profound melancholic longing for an absent something or someone that one loves. Moreover, it often carries a repressed knowledge that the object of longing may never return.[2] A stronger form of saudade may be felt towards people and things whose whereabouts are unknown, such as a lost lover, or a family member who has gone missing. Saudade was once described as "the love that remains" after someone is gone. Saudade is the recollection of feelings, experiences, places or events that once brought excitement, pleasure, well-being, which now triggers the senses and makes one live again. In Brazil, the day of Saudade is officially celebrated on 30 January.[3][4] History[edit] Origins[edit] Definition[edit] Elements[edit] Music[edit]

Sheryl Paul: Premarital Wisdom: The Truth About Sex Can you imagine how different your marriage would have been had someone laid it on the line and honestly told you what is normal to expect in the bedroom? What a disservice we do to engaged couples when we don't honestly tell them about this central aspect of their marriage. Although we've certainly exploded the taboo around seeing sex portrayed in the media, very few sources speak explicitly and honestly about what average, everyday people are thinking about and doing in the bedroom. What is Normal Like love, romance, and marriage, sex is fraught with misconceptions and assumptions about what is normal. Thanks to Hollywood and mainstream media, most people develop an idea about what sex "should" be like (it would be helpful -- possibly life-changing -- to strike the word should from the English language -- or any language, for that matter). Here's the reality: Many relationships have a high-desire and a low-desire partner. Good Sex and a Good Lover

10 Psychological Experiments That Went Horribly Wrong Psychology as we know it is a relatively young science, but since its inception it has helped us to gain a greater understanding of ourselves and our interactions with the world. Many psychological experiments have been valid and ethical, allowing researchers to make new treatments and therapies available, and giving other insights into our motivations and actions. Sadly, others have ended up backfiring horribly — ruining lives and shaming the profession. Here are ten psychological experiments that spiraled out of control. 10. Prisoners and guards In 1971, social psychologist Philip Zimbardo set out to interrogate the ways in which people conform to social roles, using a group of male college students to take part in a two-week-long experiment in which they would live as prisoners and guards in a mock prison. 9. Wendell Johnson, of the University of Iowa, who was behind the study Theodore Kaczynski, the Unabomber, also seen top 7. 6. The Milgram Experiment underway 5. 4. 3. 2. 1.

TEN UNTRANSLATABLE WORDS - spicyshimmy - Mass Effect FORELSKET The euphoria you experience when you’re first falling in love. Like getting tag-teamed by a one-two shot—cryo round first, incendiary second—that was walking into the same room as Commander Shepard. The experience blew cold and then hot, but after Rahna… Kaidan was used to it, as much as anybody could be. It always moved on to something else, because it wasn’t enough just to change your body temperature, it needed to pierce the skin, too. Only Shepard out of armor, leather jacket and a scar on his forehead, a face you’d expect with eyes and a mouth that you wouldn’t—that was the part that made it so good. ‘I should go,’ he said, after every conversation. At the end of a long day, Kaidan bunked down and put his bare elbows on his thighs. ‘Everything all right, LT?’ ‘Yeah,’ Kaidan replied. KOI NO YOKAN The sense upon first meeting a person that the two of you are going to fall in love. ‘You know,’ Shepard said, ‘I always liked you, Garrus. ‘Isn’t that sweet,’ Garrus replied.

{Valentines day} pixelated popup card I‘ve been scratching my head trying to come up with a card for my hubby {AKA the non-romantic type}. I finally decided to make this pixely popup heart card! They are really minimal (which I love) and take about 20 minutes to make (that includes the card, insert and envelope). You can even make some pixely confetti to put inside the card (if you are a big kid like me!). Full instructions and printable templates below! (BTW I remember seeing something similar in a popup book years ago. How to 1. (If you have a cutting machine then see note at end of post!) Cut along the black lines and score the grey lines. 3. 5. 7. Edited to add: The lovely Kayla from saynotsweetanne has send me a .dfx file of the card which you can use if you have a cutting machine.

25 Spectacular Movies You (Probably) Haven't Seen Pt. 2 Human Traffic Very unique comedy about the drug/club culture in the UK. Five friends ponder society, drug use and their own lives as they go about their usual weekend of snorting, smoking, popping, dancing and sex. The Matador Pierce Brosnan plays an assassin going through a mid-life crisis as he approached retirement. The Good, The Bad, And the Weird Two comical outlaws and a bounty hunter fight for a treasure map in 1940s Manchuria while being pursued by the Japanese army and Chinese bandits. Tucker and Dale vs. A group of college students go camping for the weekend and, through a series of unlucky events, begin thinking that the harmless Tucker & Dale (pictured above) are trying to kill them. New Kids Turbo An absolutely nutty movie from the Netherlands. Kiss, Kiss, Bang, Bang KKBB is a murder-comedy (?) Big Trouble Big Trouble is one of those movies where all of these different people end up intertwined at the end of the movie. Once Upon A Time In The West Persepolis 13 Assassins Dr. Drive

10 Reasons Why My Dog Is My Valentine The following article was written by Keegan Baur. Valentine’s Day is the day when we cherish our loved ones and shower them with affection. We each choose a valentine and make every effort to show that special someone just how much we truly appreciate him or her. But who says “that someone” has to be human? For everyone who’s “in love” with a furry, four-legged canine, let’s take a moment to reflect on why we’re so crazy about our dogs. 1. 2. 3. 4. 5. 6. 7. 8. 9. 10. If you’re looking for a “long-term relationship” with a furry friend, please visit your local animal shelter and save a life. Now tell us why your dog is your Valentine! More of a cat person? Check out the top 10 reasons to make your cat your valentine!

Online dating with match.com | Make love happen Party Food! Pizza in a Bite October 20th, 2008 by katie Getting together to watch a game? Or maybe watching a different sort of game? Pizza bites are awesome party food. This recipe makes three trays which means you can pop them in the freezer and always have a quick appetizer on hand. Although, they are usually so popular that you’ll wind up baking all three trays in one night! Pizza Bites 2 recipes pizza dough (or 2 cans refrigerated pizza dough)8 oz block mozzarella cheese4 oz thin sliced pepperoni2 tsp Italian seasoning (combine oregano, basil, parsley, and garlic)1/4 cup olive oil3 tbsp grated Parmesan cheesepizza or marinara saucePrepare pizza dough and roughly chop pepperoni. I used to use the refrigerated pizza doughs for this recipe, but I actually find the homemade dough far easier to work with. Basic Pizza Dough 1 pkg active dry yeast (or 2 1/4 tsp loose yeast)1 cup warm water1 tbsp olive oil1 tsp salt2 3/4 cup flourCombine yeast and warm water, stir to dissolve.Add oil, salt, and flour.

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