The 12 Ties that Bind Long-Term Relationships That crazy thing we call love is perhaps one of the most studied and least understood areas in psychology. One reason is that many studies of romantic relationships are carried out not in real life, but in the lab. Making matters worse, many of these studies involve dating relationships between samples of convenience, consisting of undergraduate students. What better way to find out about love than to survey the experts? Just as clearly, not everyone felt the same degree of intensity about their spouses. Earlier research by psychologist Arthur Aron, who collaborated in this study, suggested that the people who are most intensely in love are the ones who feel a strong romantic attraction, but who also enjoy engaging in “self-expanding” joint activities that are novel and challenging. A few caveats about the study might have already come to your mind. Now that you’ve learned the basics of this fascinating study, it’s time to put your relationship to the test.
10 actions that kids learn from their parent’s marriage [This particular post has blown-up because of Pinterest. As a way of saying "thanks"... all Pinterest users can receive my new 4-part audio series "Be her hero: how not to suck as a husband" for only $3.99 (originally $29.99)... Enter the discount code "Pinterest" at CHECK-OUT. When I speak on marriage, I’m always asked if I intentionally taught my kids about marriage. The answer is yes… and, no. Yes, there are times when we’ve talked specifically about marriage (either ours or ones that our kids have observed). I would be thrilled if my kids had a similar type of marriage that Cathy and I share… it’s definitely not perfect, but we’re both very proud of what we’ve developed over 26 years. Here are 10 actions that I know my kids have observed from us over the year: 1. Kids are always watching their parent’s marriage and yet too many marriages underestimate the power of modeling! Question: Do you have intentional actions that you’re modeling to your kids?
House Cleaning Schedule *New* Print a condensed copy of this housekeeping schedule for your fridge or home-maintenance binder. Good house keeping starts with a good cleaning schedule, and there’s nothing like walking into a house that smells as good as it looks. When floors are washed, beds are made and dishes are put away, the family gains a sense of comfort in knowing that their surroundings are under control. Being clean and organized saves you both time and money. When all things are put in proper order you don’t have to spend minutes or hours looking for lost items. And when supplies are carefully organized, you can easily find them instead of replenishing stock. This schedule focuses on house cleaning. Tackle one area of your house/day, and before you know it you’ll have it sparkling clean from top to bottom! My sister Betty always says, when the dishes and laundry are done a woman is happy, but that happiness dissipates quickly if we don’t make a daily effort to keep up those areas. Make the Beds Laundry
10 Steps for Resolving Couple Conflict Worksheet “Don’t find fault, find a remedy” Henry Ford “Just do what I say and everything will be fine!" At some point in our lives we all have said this when we could not find a satisfying agreement with our spouse or partner. Anyone of us has differences and disagreements. But healthy people find ways to resolve conflicts without turning them into wars. When you have issues that are ongoing and you are unable to establish a healthy resolution, use the following Ten Step approach. 1. First, schedule a meeting with your partner. Meeting Place: _________________________________________________ Date: _________________________________________ Time: _________________________________________ 2. Start with an easy problem and write the problem above. 3. Male: Female: 4. List at least five possible solutions to the problem. 5. Advantages - - - - - - - - - Disadvantages Be as objective as you can be. 6. Your pilot project or trial solution does not have to be the final and concrete solution. 7. 8. Female: 9.
How to Fuck Up You know what blows big time? The other night I was sitting with my family, most of whom are very successfully married. We were going in a circle giving our best marriage advice to my little sister on the eve of her wedding. It’s somewhat of a family tradition. But that’s not what blows. What really blows is that I realized I don’t have any good marriage advice to give. And so, when it was my turn, I just made a joke about divorce and how you should always remember why you loved your spouse when you first met her so that when times get tough, you can find someone new that is just like she was. There were a couple courtesy giggles, but overall my humor wasn’t welcome in such a beautifully building ring of profundity. They finished round one, and for some reason started into another round. It eventually came to me again, and what I said would have been such great advice if I were a tenth as good at saying things as I was at writing them. I call it my “Ways I Blew My Marriage” list. BONUS!
THE best organizational tool | Living the Balanced Life If you're new here, be sure to subscribe so you receive notification of new posts! (form to the right --->) Thanks for visiting! Everyone is always looking for a magic bullet, and special pill, a trick to help them with whatever issue is bothering them. And when it comes to organizing , it is no different. Well, I don’t have a magic bullet or special pill, and I can’t twinkle my nose to clean up your clutter, but I can offer you THE best ever organizational tool, and you probably already have it in your house. Are you ready? Do you want to know? A plastic garbage bag. You say, okay, what is so special about a garbage bag? Clutter and disorganization stems from 2 main issues. One is having too much stuff, much of which is not used or useful. And the second is not having a home or system for putting things in place. The garbage bags can help you with the first problem of clutter, too much stuff! _ Pick an area to begin in. _ One key factor to organizing is this- you can’t organize clutter.
A Little Hut - Patricia Zapata 25 little things you can do to make your partner love you even more 1. Write a short letter to them listing the reasons you love them and post it to them at work. 2. 3. 4. 5. 6. 7. 8. 9. 10. 11. 12. 13. 14. 15. 16. 17. 18. 19. 20. 21. 22. 23. 24. 25. Image via Julian Mason The OTHER 15 Ways I Blew My Marriage Almost two weeks ago, I told you all about my family’s tradition of going around the room and having everyone give their best marriage advice to the bride and groom on the eve of their wedding. While sitting in that circle on the night before my sister’s nuptials, I felt so valueless having been divorced not just once but twice. Not a lick of what I had was good marriage advice. No. Everything I had was “how not to botch your marriage like I did” advice, which was something I had plenty of. So, after an awesomely failed joke and an evening of feeling like the biggest turd on earth, I sat down for a few hours and wrote my own advice list to my sister (and probably even more so for myself). I never, not even once, thought that post would be popular. And maybe in the end, that is the “why.” That being said, I’m so thankful that so many people found value in it and shared it. Anyways… with that, I give you: The OTHER 15 Ways I Blew My Marriage(continued from previous blog post) BONUS! BONUS!
20 Ways to Use Color Psychology in Your Home When you approach home design, you likely do so in a couple of different ways – choosing objects and colors that simply look attractive or using an existing pattern or decor theme to govern your decisions. However, color is a powerful tool that can be used to inspire emotions, create space illusions or simply set the mood and atmosphere for any particular room. Especially when used with interior and exterior painting, color psychology is a great way to create a healthy and beautiful home. The following are 20 ways to use color psychology in your home. 1.) 2.) 3.) 4.) 5.) 6.) 7.) 8.) 9.) 10.) 11.) 12.) 13.) 14.) 15.) 16.) 17.) 18.) 19.) 20.) BIO: This article was written by Philip Rudy who helps to run and maintain a painting contractor website.
35 Lifechanging Ways To Use Everyday Objects 1 Corinthians 7 NIV - Concerning Married Life - Now for the Concerning Married Life 7 Now for the matters you wrote about: “It is good for a man not to have sexual relations with a woman.” 2 But since sexual immorality is occurring, each man should have sexual relations with his own wife, and each woman with her own husband. 3 The husband should fulfill his marital duty to his wife, and likewise the wife to her husband. 4 The wife does not have authority over her own body but yields it to her husband. In the same way, the husband does not have authority over his own body but yields it to his wife. 5 Do not deprive each other except perhaps by mutual consent and for a time, so that you may devote yourselves to prayer. Then come together again so that Satan will not tempt you because of your lack of self-control. 6 I say this as a concession, not as a command. 7 I wish that all of you were as I am. But each of you has your own gift from God; one has this gift, another has that. 15 But if the unbeliever leaves, let it be so. Concerning the Unmarried