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Pornography and Relationships. I was 15 years old when I discovered my father's porn habit.

Pornography and Relationships

It was after midnight, a school night; The blue-green glow of his computer monitor spilled from the crack beneath his door. I let myself in, assuming he was working, and instead found him feverishly masturbating to the images on the screen. It's a moment as ingrained in my mind as I imagine the porn is in his: He was perched, naked, in his green swivel chair, which he had covered with one of my mom's best bath towels. He looked angry. Shortly afterward, my mom filed for divorce, and I branded pornography as my father's—or perhaps all men's—evil vice.

I've seen my father only a handful of times since he left. As an adult, this anxiety has carried over into my relationships; even a Victoria's Secret catalog seems threatening, like a gateway drug to cruder desires. For years, I lumped all men who looked at porn into one perverse Pandora's box—younger, equally warped versions of my father. So I turned to science for answers. Sexual Obsessions. By M.

Sexual Obsessions

Williams, Ph.D. About Sexual Obsessions Obsessive-compulsive disorder (OCD) involves sexual obsessions — unwanted thoughts or images that are upsetting or interfere with an individual's life, followed by compulsions — actions that temporarily relieve the anxiety caused by the obsessions. Sexual obsessions are involuntary, repetitive, and unwelcome. The individual cannot simply wish them away. Adolescent sexuality. In humans, mature sexual desire usually begins to appear with the onset of puberty.

Adolescent sexuality

Sexual expression can take the form of masturbation or sex with a partner. Sexual interests among adolescents, as among adults, can vary greatly. Sexual activity in general is associated with various risks including unwanted pregnancy and sexually transmitted diseases including HIV/AIDS. The risks are elevated for young adolescents because their brains are not neurally mature; several brain regions in the frontal lobe of the cerebral cortex and in the hypothalamus important for self-control, delayed gratification, and risk analysis and appreciation are not fully mature. Development of sexuality[edit] Adolescent sexuality begins at puberty. Though most female adolescents begin their sexual maturation process in normal, predictable ways, there may be concerns by parents and clinicians if the following become evident: Behavior[edit]

Female body shape. Female body shape or female figure is the cumulative product of a woman's skeletal structure and the quantity and distribution of muscle and fat on the body.

Female body shape

As with most physical traits, there is a wide range of normality of female body shapes. Women's bodies occur in a range of shapes. Female figures are typically narrower at the waist than at the bust and hips. The bust, waist, and hips are called inflection points, and the ratios of their circumferences are used to define basic body shapes.

Physiology[edit] Impact of estrogens[edit] Estrogens have a significant impact on a female's body shape. Estrogen levels also rise significantly during pregnancy. Breasts can decrease in size at menopause if estrogen levels decline. Fat distribution[edit] See Gynoid fat distribution. Physical attractiveness. Venus de Milo at the Louvre has been described as a "classical vision of beauty".[1][2][3] However, one expert claimed her "almost matronly representation" was meant to convey an "impressive appearance" rather than "ideal female beauty".[4] Ishtar, Mesopotamian goddess of sexual love and war.

Physical attractiveness

The goddess has been associated with sexuality, love, and fertility.[6][7][8] Physical attractiveness is the degree to which a person's physical features are considered aesthetically pleasing or beautiful. The term often implies sexual attractiveness or desirability, but can also be distinct from the two. There are many factors which influence one person's attraction to another, with physical aspects being one of them. General contributing factors[edit] Generally, physical attractiveness can be viewed from a number of perspectives; with universal perceptions being common to all human cultures, cultural and social aspects, and individual subjective preferences.

Channel Your Sexual Energy. The intensity of sexual energy cannot be matched with any emotion known to humans.

Channel Your Sexual Energy

The force instigated by sexual energy can override even the most intense fears in a human; there is enough evidence to suggest that humans can undertake some extremely risky behaviors under the influence of this energy, which they would not dream of doing if they were not taken up by it. No other force has the power to inject the amount of courage, fearlessness, imagination, impetus, motivation and creativity that the force of sexual energy has. This is one reason why sex is the most sought after activity by humans and why sex is the major topic of discussion in all spiritual and religious literatures. But if sex, or sexual activities, is the only means into which you channel your sexual energy, you are losing out on realizing the full potential of this energy in you.

Containing the sexual energy You should be able to contain the sexual energy before you are able to channel it. MaxVanPraagTV Love, Intimacy, Sex - Transforming Relationships. Healing with Sexual Relationships.