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How to Fuck Up

How to Fuck Up
You know what blows big time? The other night I was sitting with my family, most of whom are very successfully married. We were going in a circle giving our best marriage advice to my little sister on the eve of her wedding. It’s somewhat of a family tradition. But that’s not what blows. What really blows is that I realized I don’t have any good marriage advice to give. And so, when it was my turn, I just made a joke about divorce and how you should always remember why you loved your spouse when you first met her so that when times get tough, you can find someone new that is just like she was. There were a couple courtesy giggles, but overall my humor wasn’t welcome in such a beautifully building ring of profundity. They finished round one, and for some reason started into another round. It eventually came to me again, and what I said would have been such great advice if I were a tenth as good at saying things as I was at writing them. I call it my “Ways I Blew My Marriage” list. BONUS!

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The OTHER 15 Ways I Blew My Marriage Almost two weeks ago, I told you all about my family’s tradition of going around the room and having everyone give their best marriage advice to the bride and groom on the eve of their wedding. While sitting in that circle on the night before my sister’s nuptials, I felt so valueless having been divorced not just once but twice. Not a lick of what I had was good marriage advice. Healing the Cycles that Tear Couples Apart Respect and intimacy are the foundation on which loving relationships are built. Without such safety and connection, there can be no trust; without trust, we lose the ability to be playful, spontaneous, and joyful The following are common issues in relationships that, if unaddressed, can kill love and happiness. For each relationship-ruining issue below, I explain what it is, why it is a problem, why we do it, and what we can do instead to heal and repair this issue. When people have the courage to look at these patterns, admit their own contribution, and are willing to change and put their relationships first, even the most difficult relationship problems can be healed. (1) Lack of Trust Definition

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101 Things to Do with Your Husband (rather than watch TV) 101 Things do to with your husband, rather than watch TV. Matt and I will be celebrating our 11 year wedding anniversary this June 30th. I’m as crazy for the guy as I was the day I laid eyes on him. I remember seeing Matt in early 1998 and thinking to myself, “That’s the kind of guy I want to be with.” Fate had its hand in securing that later that year and my life was suddenly “complete.” Here we are – almost 15 years later – and most nights (OK, all of them!) Rekindle the Romance If your relationship has become a bit stagnant, it likely lacks sufficient self-expansion. As we’ve discussed previously, self-expansion refers to people’s inherent desires to improve themselves and relationships serve as a key route to accomplishing this goal.1 However, many relationships are in a rut or otherwise feel a bit stagnant, stale, or boring. This sense of boredom can occur because you’re not learning or doing new things in the relationship. The consequences of such stagnation are serious: according to a recent study in Psychological Science, those who were more bored with their marriages reported less marital satisfaction 9 years later.2 Clearly, boredom isn’t something to ignore.

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