Why Rape Jokes are never OK by Shaker Time-Machine, a feminist, fat acceptance advocate, ginormous Doctor Who fan, film student, and terribly busy intern living in LA and trying feverishly to graduate. [Trigger warning for rape culture and discussions of rape jokes. This post originally appeared in similar form as a comment at Shakesville.] Following is a primer for men who are interested in learning more about the practical effects of rape humor. Most of the information in this piece is, as always, generally applicable, but this has been written to be most accessible for men in keeping with the objective of the series.
Why I'm Genderqueer, Professional and Unafraid I looked myself up and down in the full-length mirror. Blouse tucked in? Check. Here is What's Scary About Being a Female Stand-Up Comic. Recently I told some jokes a stand-up show and as I was getting off stage, the host said, "Go give her a hug after the show!" I shuddered back into my seat and pulled my beer in front of my chest like a protective shield. The disparity of women to men in comedy is pretty gross. It seems like the ratio is 1:4 in any group. The debate about how "hard" it is for women in comedy is a tired one and I don't want to beat that dead pegasus.
Why I Am a Black Male Feminist When I was a little boy, my mother and father used to argue a lot. Some mornings, I would wake up to the alarming sound of my parents arguing loudly. The disagreement would continue until my father would yell with finality, "That is it! I'm not talking about this anymore!" The dispute would end right there. My mother never got the last word. Fifty Abusive Moments in Fifty Shades of Grey Yes, you read that title right. I'm so tired of being told that there's no abuse in Fifty Shades of Grey, that I've decided to compile something of a list. A list of fifty abusive moments, to be precise. Because, well, I'm a sucker for a blog title that's also a play on the book title. I'm aware that this is going to be a LONG process and therefore a long, long blog to read, but if you've somehow stumbled upon it as a Fifty Shades fan, I implore you to at the very least give it a look.
Why rape jokes are uniquely bad. Apologies in advance for the really serious post, but I think I’ve actually made my point pretty well in the text below and it’d mean a lot to me if you’d read it. Trigger warning for rape and sexual violence. I want to prove two things: Rape is a unique crime not comparable to being robbed or murdered. The unique nature of rape makes rape jokes especially heinous.
What My Bike Has Taught Me About White Privilege The phrase “white privilege” is one that rubs a lot of white people the wrong way. It can trigger something in them that shuts down conversation or at least makes them very defensive. (Especially those who grew up relatively less privileged than other folks around them). And I’ve seen more than once where this happens and the next move in the conversation is for the person who brought up white privilege to say, “The reason you’re getting defensive is because you’re feeling the discomfort of having your privilege exposed.” I’m sure that’s true sometimes. And I’m sure there are a lot of people, white and otherwise, who can attest to a kind of a-ha moment or paradigm shift where they “got” what privilege means and they did realize they had been getting defensive because they were uncomfortable at having their privilege exposed.
Five Jokes About Feminism (That Are Actually Funny) Well, gang, there is some good news and some bad news. The good news is that feminist comedians and feminist critiques of comedy have been all over the news lately! Woo! Stranger Danger New Comic! TRANSLATIONS:Spanish (Credit: Taller de Teoría Queer) All of the experiences in this comic are either directly from my own life or related to me by people I know and care for. I don’t know, I’m all mad today.
Let's Talk About Thin Privilege I am five-foot-four, 125 pounds. My measurements are 36-28-38. I wear size medium shirts, size seven jeans, and (in case you were wondering) size eight shoes. I have never walked into a clothing store unable to find items in my size. I have never been asked to pay more for a seat on an airplane.