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Facebook Twitter Why are so many gay men single? Why are so many gay men single? This city is FULL of single gay men, all ages, and very few of them seem to ever couple up long-term. They were single years ago, single today, and will be single a decade from now. They seem to be nice enough guys, OK looking, can be social in conversation. I keep wanting to match them up with each other Yenta-style, but they would either recoil with disgust or give me a confused blank look. What's the main reason? Poll... All of the above apply That's a damn good question! Too many options. Every gay man I've ever known has partnered up with the first douchebag loser who would give him a second look, if only to avoid being labeled "single" which apparently is the kiss of death in gayworld.

OP, I have no ideas whether there are more or less single gay men in NYC now than there were years ago- and I am 58- so I've been around since the 70s. Because they want straight guys Jesus Christ, OP -- you left out the answer. Because men are pigs, and gay men doubly so. Gay Chat - Gay chat for men who likes men. By entering the Community channels (Chat, Personals, Classifieds) you agree to the following rules: is not responsible or liable for any offensive, threatening, obscene or illegal content, messages or information submitted to our network. Neither is responsible or liable for the conduct of any other party or any infringement of another's rights, including intellectual property rights. has the right to review and edit, delete or refuse to post any material submitted to our network. You agree not to post or transfer content, messages or information that is illegal, abusive, threatening, harassing, hateful, racist, bigoted or otherwise objectionable. You agree not to post or transfer content, messages or information that infringes any patent, copyright, trademark or other proprietary rights.

You agree not to harm minors and not to establish unlawful contact with minors in any way. 10 Truths To Keep Your Relationship Healthy | Psychology Today - StumbleUpon. I think it's easy to make things more complicated than they need to be. Here are some basic rules of the relationship road that will keep you headed in the right direction 1. Successful relationships take work. They don't happen in a vacuum. They occur when the couples in them take the risk of sharing what it is that's going on in their hearts and heads. 2. 3. 4. 5. 6. 7. 8. 9. 10.

There are no guarantees, but couples who practice these techniques have longer and stronger relationships than those who are not proactive in their love. Dr. How to Be Safe While Online Dating. 75 Ways to Show Love - For Healthy Relationships. Cheap Date Ideas | Parents Connect. How to Pick Up Gay Men. Save to Favorites Edit Article Making The MoveContinuing The Conversation Edited by Horses4Ever, Versageek, Christopher Beland, Andy Zhang and 53 others Some gay men are natural seducers, others learn through hard trial and error.

If you fall into the latter category, or are new to the game, here's a few tips to save you some grief in the act of picking up gay men. Ad Steps Part 1 of 2: Making The Move 1Approach guys that interest you. 5Have an opener. Part 2 of 2: Continuing The Conversation 1Learn to be "disinterested. " 4Isolate, move, and keep developing rapport. Tips It's not polite to hit on straight men once they've made their preferences known. How To Flirt - Flirting With Gay Men. Flirting is more of an art than a science, and the techniques have definitely been upgraded from the traditional gay cruise. Anonymous nods aren't enough these days. Guys want the effort along with the interest. Here's how to flirt and get a guy's attention... ...when he's across the room: Make contact.

Start Picking Up More Gay Men. Queer Eyes: Blips on the Gaydar. Until recently, the concept has been the stuff of urban legend. But in fact, according to a study conducted in 2005, some people are better at identifying gays than others, and overall, gays are better at it than straight individuals. William Lee Adams, an undergraduate at Harvard College who studied the topic for his senior thesis, found that when volunteers quickly view a stranger with minimal information—from neck-up photos and videos, without jewelry or makeup—homosexual men and women are more accurate in identifying other homosexuals. Neither the viewers nor the videotaped volunteers knew the purpose of the study. Gay men and women not only made more accurate assessments, they were efficient, too: It took about 2 seconds for gays to decide whether a person was straight or not. Says Adams, "You either have gaydar or you don't.

" Of homosexuals, gay men were more easily recognized than lesbians, perhaps because of their visible niche in the entertainment world, says Adams. Gaydar: It Takes 50 Milliseconds to Identify a Man’s Sexual Orientation. Gaydar is the colloquialism used to describe the supposed ability to detect whether someone is gay or straight simply by looking at them.

Does gaydar truly exist or is it merely folk belief? Nicholas O. Rule and Nalini Ambady recently investigated this exact issue. In the first study, they downloaded photos of men (who had identified their sexual orientations) from online personal advertisements that had been posted in many American cities. The researchers standardized the photos in an attempt to remove any confounding factors (e.g., photos were placed against a white background; only photos wherein the faces contained no facial alterations, such as beards, were retained; the photos were cropped such that only the faces could be seen; photos were standardized to the same size; photos were gray-scaled; etc.). Ninety photos were retained (45 of each sexual orientation). Ninety individuals, 68 of whom were women, participated in the study. 33 ms: 0.50 50 ms: 0.57 100 ms: 0.62 6,500 ms: 0.58.

Gay and stereotypes | Dating Personals Community. There have always been Gay men but many of those Gay men did not fit any stereotypes that identified them as such nor did they act in anyway but discreetly. There have always been those who were straight also but would put many other single men around them to thinking that they were gay. There are as many different varieties of gay people as there straights. This isn’t as true with lesbians as they do seem to fit two distinct stereotypes and rarely go outside them. There are those who seem to have some type of cock envy and want to completely separate themselves from anything feminine in any way shape and form. Gay Guys' Guys vs. Girls' Guys.

Do girls like men with long hair? Perhaps it’s a Texas thing. I read somewhere women love the men with long hair in Texas. Maybe because I’ve never lived in Texas, I just can’t get into it. Once in awhile I see a guy with long hair, and I think there’s no way that guy is gay. In fact, I think the long haired guys do this purposefully, to ensure they don’t get hit on by gay guys. I gotta believe it must work. It’s a super repellent for me. Cosmo long vs short hair on men poll » The Oh la la blog comments on this very issue and agrees: women LOVE long haired men and gay men LOVE short. » A Cosmo “study” (image left) shows it’s a little less clear that women like long haired men. Women supposedly like guys with chiseled masculine faces at the most fertile time of their period and then look for less masculine faced guys at their least fertile — in their search for a responsible father.

Women do seem to like: Josh Lucas and Matthew McConaughey. And beards.