What to do when everything is falling apart From the outside, everything looked great. If they ever started giving out Oscars for best fake smile, my mantelpiece would be full. On the inside, however, I was falling apart. You know when it feels like everything is wrong, but you usually over-generalize? Well, not this time. In the middle of a law-degree I found myself having severe doubts about what I wanted to do with my career. Around the same time, my relationship was slowly falling apart. In the midst of all this, I quit my part-time job after being treated very unfairly by my boss. I realized that I had slowly been putting on 45 lbs and that my main diet consisted of sugar and carbs. When my boyfriend left me, so did about half of my so-called friends. Economically, I was unable to take care of myself. And then I got so depressed and suicidal I had to be hospitalized. I think I can say very truly that I know how it feels when everything is falling apart. And I had absolutely no idea what to do about it. What is wrong with me? Love,
50 Life Secrets and Tips Memorize something everyday.Not only will this leave your brain sharp and your memory functioning, you will also have a huge library of quotes to bust out at any moment. Poetry, sayings and philosophies are your best options.Constantly try to reduce your attachment to possessions.Those who are heavy-set with material desires will have a lot of trouble when their things are taken away from them or lost. Possessions do end up owning you, not the other way around. Become a person of minimal needs and you will be much more content.Develop an endless curiosity about this world.Become an explorer and view the world as your jungle. Stop and observe all of the little things as completely unique events. Try new things. Read “Zen and the Art of Happiness” by Chris Prentiss.This book will give you the knowledge and instruction to be happy at all times regardless of the circumstances.
The Top 10 Psychology Studies of 2010 The end of 2010 fast approaches, and I'm thrilled to have been asked by the editors of Psychology Today to write about the Top 10 psychology studies of the year. I've focused on studies that I personally feel stand out, not only as examples of great science, but even more importantly, as examples of how the science of psychology can improve our lives. Each study has a clear "take home" message, offering the reader an insight or a simple strategy they can use to reach their goals , strengthen their relationships, make better decisions, or become happier. If you extract the wisdom from these ten studies and apply them in your own life, 2011 just might be a very good year. 1) How to Break Bad Habits If you are trying to stop smoking , swearing, or chewing your nails, you have probably tried the strategy of distracting yourself - taking your mind off whatever it is you are trying not to do - to break the habit. J. 2) How to Make Everything Seem Easier J. 3) How To Manage Your Time Better M. J.
In a Crisis? Let Your Words Create Your World! Originally an article on Oprah.com Psychologists say a single trauma will strike you twice. First, you will live through the actual event—dealing with the reality of it. Second, when you think or talk about the event with others, creating your personalized story of the event, you will recreate the event in your mind. Boris Cyrulnik, a famed French ethologist, says there’s good reason to watch what you say. I can relate on a personal level. I learned the importance of surrounding myself with people who I knew would verbally reinforce my identity as a strong person. Neuro-linguistic Programming (NLP) is a therapy that attempts to influence the subconscious mind and affect positive change by consciously using positive words to refocus on the things within one’s control. You must be suffering so greatly right now! No, no, no! NLP is a pretty amazing phenomenon. “After you’ve been through a trauma or a large loss, assume people won’t be good listeners,” warns Dr. I’m furious!
Science of Happiness - 7 Habits of Happy People On the internet and in bookstores, a thousand gurus tout different remedies for human misery. How can we find out which remedies work? We need to consult one of our greatest gurus, the scientific method. Recently we have seen a dramatic upsurge in scientific studies on Positive Psychology and the science of happiness or to put it simply, discovering what makes happy people happy. Fortunately, many of these studies point to specific ways of thinking and acting that can strongly impact our sense of happiness and peace of mind. The resulting discoveries are enriching the practices of counseling, clinical psychology, psychiatry and life coaching. 7 Habits of Happy People Relationships Express your heart. Acts of Kindness Cultivate kindness. Exercise and Physical Wellbeing Keep moving and eat well. Flow Find your flow. Spiritual Engagement and Meaning Discovering Meaning. Strengths and Virtues Discover and use your strengths. Positive Mindset: Optimism, Mindfulness and Gratitude
Reducing Stress Whether it's related to an issue at work, a fight with a friend, or problems with family, everyone feels stressed sometimes. In fact, 54 percent of Americans are concerned about the level of stress in their daily lives. And while therapy can help (come on, everyone's thought about laying on that infamous doctor's couch at some point), most solutions (think talk therapy or medication) are dealt with in the long-term. So what can be done in the next five minutes to reduce—and prevent—stress? Action for Happiness Western neuroscience has now confirmed what Eastern wisdom has known for a long time: happiness is a skill we can learn. Research shows that happiness, compassion and kindness are the products of skills that can be learned and enhanced through training, thanks to the neuroplasticity of our brains. Having a network of social connections or high levels of social support has been shown to increase our immunity to infection, lower our risk of heart disease and reduce mental decline as we get older. Not having close personal ties has been shown to pose significant risks for our health. When we give to others it activates the areas of the brain associated with pleasure, social connection and trust. Altruistic behaviour releases endorphins in the brain and boosts happiness for us as well as the people we help. Research shows that people who are optimistic tend to be happier, healthier and cope better in tough times. "Go confidently in the direction of your dreams. Happiness doesn't just feel good.
The 21 Day Challenge Everyone Should Take I'm on day 14 of a 21-day challenge that I semi-invented and so far I have to admit the results have been nothing short of amazing. Now, when I say that I semi-invented it, that is purely because I took the idea from the excellent book 'Psycho Cybernetics' and put it in a format that everyone can follow, myself included. I'm not exaggerating when I say this challenge can literally help with any aspect of your life that you would like to improve. Before I go into more detail on how you can follow along, I need to talk a little about our 'self image' and why it is very important. Understanding the Self Image In the mid 20th Century, Maxwell Maltz who was a plastic surgeon, wrote a book called Psycho Cybernetics that has now sold millions of copies and been updated for modern times. In looking into this further, he states that we all have a self-image that is purely a mental image of how we see ourselves. The 21 Day Challenge Let's look at the 4 parts of this challenge… The 4 Parts 1. 2. 3. 4.
Traitors - Cicero The Nature of Happiness 30 Habits that Will Change your Life Developing good habits is the basic of personal development and growth. Everything we do is the result of a habit that was previously taught to us. Unfortunately, not all the habits that we have are good, that’s why we are constantly trying to improve. The following is a list of 30 practical habits that can make a huge difference in your life. You should treat this list as a reference, and implement just one habit per month. Health habits Exercise 30 minutes every day. Productivity habits Use an inbox system. Personal Development habits Read 1 book per week. Career habits Start a blog. What do you think? Update: A reader put together a downloadable copy of all these habits.
100 inspirational quotes to celebrate 100 blog posts « Always Well Within 100 quotes - to inspire, challenge, encourage, remind, enlighten, reassure, soothe, and delight. In celebration of 100 blog posts at Always Well Within! Many thanks to my wonderful readers and subscribers. It’s such a privilege and a joy to write for you. I am also deeply grateful to all those who have supported, encouraged, and taught me along the way since the inception of Always Well Within. The connections I’ve made in the blogosphere have greatly enriched my life, more than you will ever know. Please enjoy this feast of wisdom! “People will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel.” - Maya Angelou“If you have much, give of your wealth; if you have little, give of your heart.” “If you mind is empty, it is always ready for anything; it is open to everything. I hope these quotes will bring you joy, positivity, and inspiration each and every day. You might also like: 101 Inspirational Quotes to Light Up Your Life
10 Wise Choices to Skyrocket Your Happiness “The amount of happiness that you have depends on the amount of freedom you have in your heart.” – Thich Nhat Hanh Who doesn’t want to be happy? Just take a look at any moment of your life, any choice you make. By happiness, I don’t necessarily mean the pollyanna, silly-smile-on-your-face kind. Somehow true happiness eludes us, and here’s why. Happiness is absolutely within your reach. 1. Don’t blame others, turn yourself into a victim, or wait for someone to come and save you. 2. Be willing, open, courageous, and humble. 3. Nothing kills happiness more quickly than old hurts, resentments, and grudges. 4. The cause of unhappiness is the playing out of conditioned habits that don’t serve you. 5. We unknowingly build our lives around distorted beliefs and expectations. 6. Happiness is found here, in the eternal now – not in the past or future. 7. Life becomes heavy and burdensome when we are ruled by difficult emotions. 8. Shed every thought, emotion, and habit that no longer serves you.
Fake it Till You Make it: 10 Ways to Feel Confident (Even When You Aren’t) “Original Fake” Photo Credit: courtesy of MashKulture Is your self-confidence natural, or a daily struggle? Many people’s confidence naturally wavers from day to day, leaving them too timid or confused at just the wrong time. Whether you are naturally confident or could use some better eye contact with your life, setting in place a few simple strategies goes a long way to stoke your inner confidence. If you think you’re not especially smart or capable, or that failure is a given no matter how hard you try, you’re right. And if you believe you’re brilliant and can accomplish anything you set your mind to, you’re right. Amplifying your inner confidence is like any other skill you develop; you can do it in a blink. Same with confidence. 1. 2. 3. 4. 5. 6. 7. 8. 9. 10. You don’t have to follow all 10 of these tips, but they are starters that will help you find your internal confidence and boost your sense of self belonging. Confidence is the key to EVERYTHING. Related Articles: