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6 Healthy Relationship Habits Most People Think Are Toxic - Masters of Love. Every day in June, the most popular wedding month of the year, about 13,000 American couples will say “I do,” committing to a lifelong relationship that will be full of friendship, joy, and love that will carry them forward to their final days on this earth.

Masters of Love

Except, of course, it doesn’t work out that way for most people. The majority of marriages fail, either ending in divorce and separation or devolving into bitterness and dysfunction. Of all the people who get married, only three in ten remain in healthy, happy marriages, as psychologist Ty Tashiro points out in his book The Science of Happily Ever After, which was published earlier this year. Social scientists first started studying marriages by observing them in action in the 1970s in response to a crisis: Married couples were divorcing at unprecedented rates. Psychologist John Gottman was one of those researchers. A Better Way to Say Sorry. March 30, 2014 This post is part of my series on How to Shape Children’s Behavior.

A Better Way to Say Sorry

“Say sorry to your brother.” “But he’s the one who–” The Questions That Will Save Your Relationships. Germantown Avenue Parents – a letter to teachers on the use of stoplights in the classroom. Dear Teacher, Before you hang that stoplight up for the new school year, please put yourself on red for a minute or two.

Germantown Avenue Parents – a letter to teachers on the use of stoplights in the classroom

Rethink the idea that hanging a large paper traffic light in the front of the room, dotted with magnets or popsicle sticks displaying each student’s name is ok. Rethink the concept that publicly tracking behavior and doling out consequences based on whose behavior moves them off of green each day is fair, kind, or appropriate. Please rethink. Racial empathy gap: People don’t perceive pain in other races. Photo by Gary W.

Racial empathy gap: People don’t perceive pain in other races

Green-Pool/Getty Images George Zimmerman followed Trayvon Martin because he perceived him as dangerous. The defense argues he was, the prosecution argues he wasn’t. No one, of course, argues that Zimmerman approached Martin with kindness, or stopped to consider the boy as anything other than suspicious, an outsider. Ultimately Zimmerman shot and killed Martin. Lincoln High School in Walla Walla, WA, tries new approach to school discipline — suspensions drop 85% « ACEs Too High. Jim Sporleder, principal of Lincoln High School THE FIRST TIME THAT principal Jim Sporleder tried the New Approach to Student Discipline at Lincoln High School in Walla Walla, WA, he was blown away.

Lincoln High School in Walla Walla, WA, tries new approach to school discipline — suspensions drop 85% « ACEs Too High

The Nohari Window - Personality Flaw Map. Take the test online. The Johari Window was invented by Joseph Luft and Harrington Ingham in the 1950s as a model for mapping personality awareness. By describing yourself from a fixed list of adjectives, then asking your friends and colleagues to describe you from the same list, a grid of overlap and difference can be built up. <div style="border:2px solid #000; padding:8px;"><p><b>Sorry, the Johari Window requires Javascript</b> - you either have Javascript turned off in your browser settings, or are using a browser that does not support it.

</p></div> SCARF Model - Influencing Others with Dr David Rock. Authors@Google: Daniel Goleman. Jonah. //There. . . it's off your chest.

Jonah

//\n\n[[ooo|end]]\n\n\n\n[[Esc|emergency]] //Well, <<print $player2>> is just player 2 right now, and you have the controller, not them. //\n\n[[ooo|gather strength]]\n\n\n\n[[Esc|emergency]] If I had my way <<print $time>> I would have <<textinput "backThen" "back then" "Submit">>\n\n\n\n[[Esc|emergency]] Brené Brown: The power of vulnerability. Acceptance and Attention – The Basis of Unconditional Love and Nurturing. How to Win Friends and Influence People by Dale Carnegie. Top 10 Ways to Project Positivity. Why? Because the more positive you seem, the more success will come. It’s a fact of life: Colleagues, friends and women will consistently gravitate toward positive people. Building Emotional Capital. 10 Ways To Explain Things More Effectively.

April 1st, 2008.

10 Ways To Explain Things More Effectively

Doin' It Wrong

Face & body language. Amy Cuddy: Your body language shapes who you are. Amy Cuddy: Your body language shapes who you are. Detecting Lies. 10 Simple Postures That Boost Performance. Psychological research suggests simple actions can project power, persuade others, increase empathy, boost cognitive performance and more… We tend to think of body language as something that expresses our internal states to the outside world.

10 Simple Postures That Boost Performance

But it also works the other way around: the position of our body also influences our mind. As the following psychological research shows, how we move can drive both thoughts and feelings and this can boost performance. 1. Pose for power If you want to feel more powerful then adopt a powerful posture.

Paul Ekman

Saints. The Water-Rat's example. Quotes on Heroes. 15 Things Kurt Vonnegut Said Better Than Anyone Else Ever Has Or Will. 1.

15 Things Kurt Vonnegut Said Better Than Anyone Else Ever Has Or Will

"I urge you to please notice when you are happy, and exclaim or murmur or think at some point, 'If this isn't nice, I don't know what is.'"The actual advice here is technically a quote from Kurt Vonnegut's "good uncle" Alex, but Vonnegut was nice enough to pass it on at speeches and in A Man Without A Country. Though he was sometimes derided as too gloomy and cynical, Vonnegut's most resonant messages have always been hopeful in the face of almost-certain doom.

And his best advice seems almost ridiculously simple: Give your own happiness a bit of brainspace.

Mr. Rogers

Dalai Lama. The Age of Outrospection: Philosopher Roman Krznaric on Empathy and Social Change.