How to Become a Magnet for Friends: 7 Mindful Tips. “Always be mindful of the kindness and not the faults of others.”
~Buddha Would you like to have more friends? I mean true friends—people who laugh and cry with you. My close friends mean the world to me. They are there for me when I need them. But it hasn’t all been an easy ride. A friend is one to whom one may pour out all the contents of one’s heart, chaff and grain together, knowing that the gentlest of hands will take and sift it, keep what is worth keeping and with a breath of kindness blow the rest away. How I Lost a Heap of Fake Friends (and Gained a Few True Ones) In the past, I learned a hard lesson about friends.
Or so I thought. Suddenly, I had no social standing, and all the people who I thought were my friends disappeared overnight. One of them said, “Oh, I’ve wanted to be your friend for a long time now. What I learned from that difficult time is that you can miss out on real friendships if you just focus on success. But what is the secret of attracting friends? 1. 2. 3. 4.
Basic Needs Steps by Uncommon Knowledge. Home > Psychology Articles > Psychology Articles > 9 Basic Human Needs "Meeting your emotional needs makes you feel complete" courtesy of Keith Apparently, if you chuck a frog into a pan of boiling water, it will hop straight out again.
But if you put him in cold water and slowly heat it up, he will sit there until well and truly poached. Problems due to missing 'basics' in peoples lives tend to develop over time, and so can be easily missed. Then, when the problem arises - be it anxiety, depression, addiction or some other nasty - they can't for the life of them fathom out why! It's therefore a great idea to know what your own garden needs in order to grow well, so when you see something starting to wither, you can check your list and apply the necessary nutrients. 1.
"No Man Is An Island" Without regular quality contact with other people, mental condition, emotional state and behaviour can suffer quite drastically. 2. This is so important, and so often neglected. 3. 4. EQ Exercises. EQ Institute Home Page - several related files eqexer, activs, pgexer1 Personal Growth Exercises I am starting to put some of my exercises for use in workshops and training sessions online.
More will be added in the future. Right now here is what I have online: identifying unmet emotional needs Values and beliefs profile Identifying feelings Talking about feelings: Managing feelings. How to Figure Out Your Unmet Needs. If I've observed a common thread to many relationship endings it would be women not asking for what they need from their friends (or romantic partners).
Why We Go Through Life With Unmet Needs Sometimes we don't ask because we think it will be less genuine when they actually give it to us, as though their sincerity is linked to their thinking it up on their own. Sometimes we don't ask because we think it's rude or intrusive or needy, as though we're ignoring the fact that relationships ought to be mutually beneficial. Sometimes we don't ask because we don't like to think of ourselves as ever needing anything, as though we drank our own Kool-Aid in our attempts to convince everyone that we're amazing and never have any needs. Sometimes we don't ask because we fear rejection or don't want to risk the other saying no, as though there would be no choice in that scenario except to take it personally.
Becoming Emotionally Self-Reliant. By Leo Babauta I’m the first to admit that for many years, I was a bit emotionally needy.
Not in a crazy, desperate way, but in the way that many of us are. I wanted someone else to make me happy, blamed others for my unhappiness, sought to fulfill my emotional needs through others. This caused all kinds of problems I didn’t even realize were there: I’d have relationship problems because if the other person wasn’t meeting my needs, I’d resent it.
I’d be unhappy lots of the time, because I thought happiness was outside of me, and therefore it was unreliable and elusive. Only in the last few years have I been becoming more emotionally self-reliant. I can’t claim to be an expert on this topic, but I can share some things I’ve been learning. Test Yourself Are you emotionally dependent? Are you looking for a romantic partner to make you happy? And that doesn’t mean you’re a bad person. How We Got This Way Usually this way of thinking starts in childhood. However, there is a solution.