How sexual perversion became the new norm Perv: the Sexual Deviant in All of Us Jesse Bering Doubleday, 320pp, £16.99 The Pleasure’s All Mine: a History of Perverse Sex Julie Peakman But Why Do Some Women Go for A**holes? It happens invariably – and innocently enough – the question that makes all feminists cringe because we know that what will follow is a Nice-Guy-Syndrome-Friend-Zone-Arrgh-Wtf rant. But why do some women go for a**holes? I see you. I see you cringing.
A woman’s right to say ‘meh’: being sex positive won’t guarantee you an orgasm “I don’t mind motorcycles but do mind when people ride them without helmets,” I lied to a man named “Carl” on the dating app Bumble when he brought up his Yamaha. I actually believe that the only commendable function of motorcycles is to make aging dads feel the crisp bite of youth again during their midlife crises rather than resorting to age-inappropriate affairs, but I was trying to be pleasant. “Wanna go for a ride?” he asked soon after, apparently not registering that not minding a thing is hardly the equivalent of being interested in it. I answered, “never in my life,” still willing to give him a shot but making clear that his motorcycle would not be a selling point. “I’m not talking about riding my motorcycle 😈 ,” he replied.
5 Most Daring Portrayals of Female Coming-of-Age Sexualit By Emily Buder | Indiewire August 7, 2015 at 12:56PM You've seen plenty of coming-of-age films about male sexuality. Now let's turn the tables. READ MORE: Sex and the Revolutionary Female Perspective in Marielle Heller's 'Diary of a Teenage Girl' When Women Wanted Sex Much More Than Men In the 1600s, a man named James Mattock was expelled from the First Church of Boston. His crime? It wasn’t using lewd language or smiling on the sabbath or anything else that we might think the Puritans had disapproved of. Rather, James Mattock had refused to have sex with his wife for two years. Though Mattock’s community clearly saw his self-deprivation as improper, it is quite possible that they had his wife’s suffering in mind when they decided to shun him.
Top 5 Questions about the Female Orgasm Answered Note: This article is intended for all people who have vaginas, regardless of gender. Vaginal orgasm (and in using this phrase, I’m referring to all orgasms that happen for people with vaginas): It’s something that we all want to understand, but like the question of whether or not there’s life on other planets, we hit a lot of roadblocks on the way to discovering its truths (and dismantling its myths). Because sex is considered scary in our culture, we miss out on accurate, comprehensive, pleasure-based sex education in school and at home. Unfortunately, the number of sexist myths surrounding pleasure, sexual response, and orgasm is astounding in the way that these falsities permeate culture and become the status quo.
Go Where? Sex, Gender, and Toilets Women’s and men’s washrooms: we encounter them nearly every time we venture into public space. To many people the separation of the two, and the signs used to distinguish them, may seem innocuous and necessary. Trans people know that this is not the case, and that public battles have been waged over who is allowed to use which washroom. 24 Sex-Positive Women on Why They're Not Interested in Having Sex (Right Now) When Rihanna sat down with Vanity Fair for its November issue, she disclosed something about herself that some might have found shocking. Although Rihanna self-identifies as extremely sex-positive, she admitted she just isn't into the whole casual sex thing. "If I wanted to I would completely do [casual hookups]," the sex symbol told Vanity Fair.
Lesbian The word lesbian can refer to a woman's identity, to desire, or to romantic or sexual activity between women. (Sappho and Erinna in a Garden at Mytilene by Simeon Solomon) The concept of "lesbian", to differentiate women with a shared sexual orientation, is a 20th-century construct. Throughout history, women have not had the same freedom or independence to pursue homosexual relationships as men, but neither have they met the same harsh punishment as homosexual men in some societies. Instead, lesbian relationships have often been regarded as harmless and incomparable to heterosexual ones unless the participants attempted to assert privileges traditionally enjoyed by men. As a result, little in history was documented to give an accurate description of how female homosexuality is expressed.
Romantic kissing is not a universal thing, apparently I’m going to start by admitting something: I have put my tongue in more than one other person’s mouth in order to experience erotic pleasure. I have also allowed more than one person to put his tongue in my mouth, once again for the romantic-sexual endorphins that start flowing from a good make-out. Kissing is a universal tool for that, right? Fucking With Feministing: Vaginal Orgasms Welcome to the second installment of Fucking with Feministing (check out our first installment here)! This monthly sex advice column is the place where readers get feminist advice on my favorite subject! I’m Sesali and I’ll be your resident sexpert with the help of our friends at the Center for Sex & Culture (CSC) who have partnered with us to make sure that we have smart and safe with our sexy!
Let's Be Honest: These are the 15 Best Safety Tips for Ladies I attended my first Take Back the Night March in 1989, in my junior year at a private (formerly all-male) university with ivy climbing up the walls of its Gothic buildings. The stories I heard from sophomores and seniors and graduate students were a sobering reminder of why, whenever I walked back at night from the library or the office of the campus news magazine I helped to edit, a male student always accompanied me. I appreciated the companionship but I also felt, if a woman can’t walk across the grounds of this campus and be safe, what kind of school is this? University administrators knew they had to do something. In my senior year, they hired a counselor for victims of sexual assault at the counseling center and poured all kinds of funds into awareness and prevention efforts. That was more than two decades ago.