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Why Procrastinators Procrastinate

PDF: We made a fancy PDF of this post for printing and offline viewing. Buy it here. (Or see a preview.) pro-cras-ti-na-tion |prəˌkrastəˈnāSHən, prō-| noun the action of delaying or postponing something: your first tip is to avoid procrastination. Who would have thought that after decades of struggle with procrastination, the dictionary, of all places, would hold the solution. Avoid procrastination. While we’re here, let’s make sure obese people avoid overeating, depressed people avoid apathy, and someone please tell beached whales that they should avoid being out of the ocean. No, “avoid procrastination” is only good advice for fake procrastinators—those people that are like, “I totally go on Facebook a few times every day at work—I’m such a procrastinator!” The thing that neither the dictionary nor fake procrastinators understand is that for a real procrastinator, procrastination isn’t optional—it’s something they don’t know how to not do. Pretty normal, right? Notice anything different?

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The Golden Spoons: MiniVan Conversations: T-H-I-N-K I don't know what it is about being in our minivan that almost instantly incites an altercation between my girls - especially between the oldest two. As soon as they get in from the carpool line after school, it starts. Someone says the other is annoying. One tells the other to shut up. They argue over who sits where.

I think I understand much better now! Thank you for Sharing. Don't feel like you have to write me, I don't want me on your list of things " I have to do" you might not WB. Let's keep the lines open. My mind is a total blank right now but maybe you can help me to take it easy sometimes and understand if something doesn't get done the sky won't fall! ... Your Friend.. Chelle... by mychelle21 Jan 16

Well ... Procrastinators actually do not get satisfaction neither from watching Utubes, or playing videogames... They believe they will get it instead of being productive. Even worse, a procrastinator feels often bad after having lost so many valuable lifetime playing games etc. My father and myself, both procrastinators, believe it or not, were extreme hard workers, and both of us dedicated our lives in being/trying the best at work, at university and at school and always driven by "deadlines". Dad died too soon at age 66 in 1991, and I lost my job in 2013 (after 34 years over full-time active and due to severe illness). I believe that in my case I became procrastinator because others sucked too many energy out of me incl. My mum who has always been psychologically ill,without getting in return the right and balanced reward, which is not money for me. Procrastinators are lived by others, and lack control on taking their own agenda to a primary level, because their agenda "has been lost". At least that's what I believe ;-) by stinnie Jan 12

Friend... Tell me ... If you get immediate satisfaction from watching a u tube video instead of doing something that needs to get done can't you get that same drug from doing something productive ? Let me give you an example : I have limited space but want my space to look as beautiful as I can, years back I needed a place to store all my quilting fabric so I searched and found a Gorgeous piece, a tall Cedar Cabinet. The only place for it is in my master BR. The day came when I ran out of drawer and closet space so I condensed my beautiful cabinet and devoted 3 shelves to clothing , at first this was an ok arrangement but getting dressed in a hurry led to cluttered shoved in unorganized, messy cabinet . ( trying to paint a picture) soon my cabinet was such a mess I had no idea what was where. I had to TAKE EVERYTHING OUT AND ORGANIZE IT! (Getting there) After a little thought as to what I wear most and seasonal I TORE OUT AND PILED EVERYTHING ON MY BED and just STARTED ORGANIZING! It took under an hour to perfect all my fabrics on the bottom and my clothes by favorite and hot/cold weather. How did I feel when I finished?! I felt Fantastic! I felt a sense of accomplishment accompanied by a high like feeling ( I suppose some sort of ____ amine) or serotonin release . So my question to you is if Procrastination and doing what you want rather than what you should be doing gives you that drug like high couldn't you get the same exact high by doing something in the. RIGHT NOW and finishing it?! You could start with 1 drawer or 1 paper. I would think if you START SMALL and do a 10-15 minute job and finish it wouldn't you get that "GOOD JOB! WELL DONE! " rush? When I have something I know I need to do and am not doing it I find it will bug me and drag me down until that's all I can think about. So I do it and maybe play a mind game with a BEAT THE CLOCK type attitude . Can you - the procrastinator do an experiment for me Please and do one very small job, anything that's been put off until later. Just try to do it QUICLY but with a little bit of PERFECTIONISM thrown in and SEE IF MAYBE YOU FEEL THE DRUG LIKE EFFECT LIKE I GET WHEN I "DO IT NOW! " I love the feeling of a job well done! I'm procrastinating right now, talking to you my opposite ( The dreaded procrastinator ) instead of what has been running through my head as I write and that is to get things listed... Now! Please take a minute to let me know how it goes! Oh and this is for TODAY! Not TOMORROW ! ... Chelle... by mychelle21 Jan 12

I should have read before the drawings started the first time... I get it! I know I would love to stop and play but I can't! No time! But what grabbed me was the fight then the lion and the tiger. Wow! Is that what it's like to procrastinate?! I'll give a little and you give a little and let's see where we can go:) by mychelle21 Jan 10

If you put it off until later... Then you have today's work and tomorrow's to do! And tomorrow will bring its own troubles... Also haven't you heard... " why put off until tomorrow what you can do today !" I'm here for you... I'd LOVE to make a convert... Do you think you can change? I have questions for you! ... Chelle... P.S. If I told you what I've accomplished since I posted last night I doubt you would believe me. by mychelle21 Jan 10

I never Procrastinate... I am married to the biggest procrastinator there is and my sons are all the "I'll do it later" type, This leaves me with EVERYTHING TO DO! It's overwhelming and now i am working with 2 ruptured disks that can't heal because i have so much to do! Is there anything i can do to change their ways?!!!! by mychelle21 Jan 10