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A dissection of John Gottman's love lab. "My goal is to be like the guy who invented Velcro," marriage researcher John Gottman once told an interviewer.

A dissection of John Gottman's love lab.

"Nobody remembers his name, but everybody uses Velcro. " Gottman's own road to Velcro-level fame started with a 1998 article in the Journal of Marriage and the Family. He and his colleagues at the University of Washington had videotaped newlywed couples discussing a contentious topic for 15 minutes to measure precisely how they fought over it: Did they criticize?

Were they defensive? Did either spouse curl his or her lip in contempt? Soon reporters had dubbed Gottman's research facility the "love lab," and his powers of prognostication had increased: In another published report, he said he could pick out future divorcees 91 percent of the time based on coding a mere five-minutes of tape. Watching Movies Cuts Divorce Rate In Half, Teaches Couples How To Be Compassionate And Listen. Life is beginning to imitate art, lament a select few.

Watching Movies Cuts Divorce Rate In Half, Teaches Couples How To Be Compassionate And Listen

But according to researchers at the University of Rochester, that relationship just might save your own, as a new study has revealed that watching a handful of movies and discussing characters’ relationships afterward was capable of cutting couples’ divorce rates in half. The national divorce rate in the U.S. has actually declined overall since 1980, after multiple decades of rapid increase. But on a longer timeline, it’s far higher than in previous years. Experts point to a combination of loosening religious and moralistic binds and a culture where both spouses work, potentially straining the relationship. Hiring a marriage counselor isn’t cheap, or necessarily desired, so couples try to work issues out on their own. The Silver Screen Psychologist So what is a struggling couple to do? The outcome surprised researchers, Rogge admits, as he and his colleagues didn’t originally set out to examine movies directly.

“Less Stigmatizing” About The Research -The Gottman Institute. The Gottman Institute, The Relationship Research Institute, Gottman Method Couples Therapy, and Dr.

About The Research -The Gottman Institute

Gottman’s numerous best-selling books have all stemmed from Dr. Gottman’s 35-year career as a research scientist whose methods and standards are as rigorous as those used by medical science. The data generated by Dr. Gottman’s research offer a scientifically-based glimpse into the anatomy of marriage and couples relationships – but most importantly they provide us with factual, objective information that has contributed to the development of tools, methods, programs, products, and services dedicated to helping couples build stronger, happier relationships.

If you have questions about Dr. Masters of Love. Every day in June, the most popular wedding month of the year, about 13,000 American couples will say “I do,” committing to a lifelong relationship that will be full of friendship, joy, and love that will carry them forward to their final days on this earth.

Masters of Love

Except, of course, it doesn’t work out that way for most people. The majority of marriages fail, either ending in divorce and separation or devolving into bitterness and dysfunction. Of all the people who get married, only three in ten remain in healthy, happy marriages, as psychologist Ty Tashiro points out in his book The Science of Happily Ever After, which was published earlier this year. Social scientists first started studying marriages by observing them in action in the 1970s in response to a crisis: Married couples were divorcing at unprecedented rates.

Psychologist John Gottman was one of those researchers. From the data they gathered, Gottman separated the couples into two major groups: the masters and the disasters. Lasting Relationships Rely On 2 Traits. Ciência mostra as principais características para o sucesso do casamento. Para cada três casamentos, um divórcio.

Ciência mostra as principais características para o sucesso do casamento

Esta é a realidade do Brasil, de acordo com a última edição das Estatísticas do Registro Civil do Instituto Brasileiro de Geografia e Estatística (IBGE), com dados referentes a 2012. Naquele ano, enquanto os cartórios registraram 1.041.440 casamentos, a quantidade de divórcios chegou a 341,6 mil. Além disso, o estudo mostrou que os casamentos duram cada vez menos: 15 anos — tempo contado da data da união formal até a data da sentença do divórcio.

O período é menor que no passado: em 2007, por exemplo, o tempo médio era de 17 anos. O que faz um casamento durar? John Gottman foi um desses psicólogos. "Disasters": casais que aparentemente estavam tranquilos durante o diálogo, mas cujo corpo respondia de outra forma, com batimentos cardíacos elevados e glândulas sudoríparas (responsáveis pelo suor) em atividade constante. " Casamento pode levar você à morte (PESQUISA) Calma, essa notícia não pretende estragar todos os seus sonhos românticos.

Casamento pode levar você à morte (PESQUISA)

Um casamento só pode encurtar sua vida se for mal vivido, daqueles cheios de brigas e tristeza. Nesses casos, os riscos de sofrer problemas cardíacos aumentam. Relacionamentos felizes causam o efeito contrário: fortalecem seu coração. Só que, infelizmente, os efeitos negativos são sempre piores... A descoberta é de pesquisadores da Universidade do Estado de Michigan. Quando bateram os dados, os pesquisadores se deram conta que os riscos de morrer por conta de um infarto ou derrame aumentam quando o casal vive um relacionamento ruim.