Quiet: The Power of Introverts. 20 Things to Do When You’re Feeling Angry with Someone. “If you are patient in one moment of anger, you will escape a hundred days of sorrow.” ~Chinese proverb As Tiny Buddha grows larger, I find there are a lot more people emailing me with requests. The people pleaser in me wants to say yes to everyone, but the reality is that there is only so much time in the day—and we all have a right to allocate our time as best supports our intentions, needs, and goals.
Recently someone contacted me with a request that I was unable to honor. After I communicated that, he made a sweeping judgment about my intentions and character, ending his email with “Buddha would be appalled.” As ironic as this may sound given the context of this site, I felt angry. I felt angry because I have always struggled with saying no, and this was exactly the type of uncomfortable encounter I generally aim to avoid. I felt angry because I felt misunderstood and judged, and I wanted him to realize that he was wrong about me.
Sit with Your Anger 1. 2. 3. Is your neck tense? 4. 5. 6. How can you tell if someone is a psychopath? Not all are predators. Consider the following scene: You’re out for dinner with your family when your father suddenly stands, raps his spoon against a glass and calls the restaurant patrons – all strangers – to attention. “Many thanks,” he says, “for coming tonight, especially to those who have come from out of town. I can’t tell you how much it means that you could join us. We’d like to continue the celebration after dessert, with a reception down the street at the King’s Arms. It would be lovely to see you all there.” The diners all applaud with enthusiasm. Leaving soon after, you ask, “Dad, we aren’t really going to the King’s Arms, are we?” “No, son,” he says, “but they are. That, says British research psychologist Kevin Dutton, who watched his own father once perform that – and many similar – acts of brazen tomfoolery, is classic evidence of psychopathy.
“My father was absolutely a nailed-down psychopath,” he said in an interview. As Dr. “There are two deep-seated myths I’m trying to debunk,” explains Dr. How Beginner's Luck Works and How You Can Reproduce It Anytime (Even If You're Not a Beginner) Sum of the parts? How our brains see men as people and women as body parts. Public release date: 25-Jul-2012 [ Print | E-mail Share ] [ Close Window ] Contact: Sarah Gervaissgervais2@unl.edu 402-472-3793University of Nebraska-Lincoln When casting our eyes upon an object, our brains either perceive it in its entirety or as a collection of its parts. Consider, for instance, photo mosaics consisting of hundreds of tiny pictures that when arranged a certain way form a larger overall image: In fact, it takes two separate mental functions to see the mosaic from both perspectives.
A new study suggests that these two distinct cognitive processes also are in play with our basic physical perceptions of men and women -- and, importantly, provides clues as to why women are often the targets of sexual objectification. The research, published in the European Journal of Social Psychology, found in a series of experiments that participants processed images of men and women in very different ways. "Local processing underlies the way we think about objects: houses, cars and so on.
A proposal to classify happiness as a psychiatric disorder. Introduction to Social Influence, Persuasion, Compliance & Propaganda. This portion of the Working Psychology website offers a brief introduction to a big topic: social influence, the modern, scientific study of persuasion, compliance, propaganda, "brainwashing," and the ethics that surround these issues. Although these topics aren't always simple (it is, after all, science), I've done my best to make this introduction interesting.
Since Aristotle recorded his principles of persuasion in Rhetoric, humans have attempted to define and refine the principles of successful influence. Persuasion has been studied as an art for most of human history. The comparatively young science of social influence, however, can trace its roots to the second world war, when a social psychologist named Carl Hovland was contracted by the U.S. Social scientists attempt to support any assertion with facts. Want a few examples of how social influence works in the real world before you continue? Copyright © 2002 by Kelton Rhoads, Ph.D. Authentic and Eudaimonic. 8 Acts Of Authenticity "It's the best way to figure out what it feels like to be in someone else's head—and that's what helps us to distinguish our own identity .
" — "Meditative absorption creates moments of happiness not contingent on outcomes or external factors or manipulation of the environment . "Authenticity consists in being aware that you have choices and consciously choosing what you do "People often make better decisions when they don't think about them. "Quiet and time for the self are a big plus. "Community is an outlook toward life in which you define yourself in relation to the world around you, rather than only in connection with yourself.
"Whether it's taking an art class, playing basketball, running, or just hanging out with friends, doing something you really enjoy allows you to express who you really are "Feelings of inauthenticity are heightened by a lack of a philosophy that allows failure to be part of life. The New, True, Eudaimonic You. The Technique that Silicon Valley Geeks are Using to Hack the Voices Inside Their Heads. This site is having ("something went wrong, please refresh the page and try again") problems today with the commenting and editing features. My comment did not take without several page refreshes; and, even though I edited the comment, none of the edits actually stuck. So, here is the edited comment as a new comment: I would be cautious about employing such a methodology.
Family therapy involves real existing things — individual persons. Freud similarly engaged in potentially dangerous fallacious constructions of a partitioned psychology — the superego, ego, and id; also, the conscious and the subconscious. While these constructed homunculi do not have any demonstrable innate reality, constructing them can have pragmatic utility. So, when it comes to IFS, I ask myself do the system's elements (i.e. managers, exiles, and firefighters) seem to be an accurate Periodic Table of psychic components, or not? Are You Interested? Pixel Poppers: Doing My Dailies: Why I Quit WoW And Started Working Out. I quit World of Warcraft in June of 2009. I quit hard. I donated my assets to the guild bank and deleted all of my characters. I didn't want to leave the door open to come back.
I wanted to burn it down and salt the earth. Why? Well, that's a bit complicated. I had quit before. This gave me such a warm fuzzy feeling that I had to reactivate my subscription. "Really? " My cross-country move brought me within a short drive of my guild leader, and one evening she invited me over for a home-cooked meal.
She was perfectly nice, and an excellent cook. She marveled at one point that she'd been playing WoW for four and a half years, ever since the beta. What, exactly, did she have to show for all the time and work she'd poured into this game? "Imagine the day that you first bought the game. Every day, my guild leader faced a decision: play WoW, or work toward becoming a paramedic. So I quit. I started small - some push ups, some bicep curls, some jogging. "Daily action builds habits. . . . Quick study: Satoshi Kanazawa on intelligence: The disadvantage of smarts. Illusionist Derren Brown on how he destroyed the planet for one unsuspecting man in controversial new TV show.
IF Derren Brown ever asks for a volunteer, think very, very carefully before saying yes. The illusionist, mentalist and magician has long moved on from card tricks and cold reading. His repertoire of psychological experiments and stunts includes everything from performing Russian roulette live on TV to successfully predicting the National Lottery. But as his projects get bigger and bolder, so does the role played by those taking part. His next venture is a case in point. Called Apocalypse, for one poor soul, a young volunteer called Steven, it really is the end of the world. He said: “The show is about taking somebody who basically takes his life for granted, and suffers from that lazy sense of entitlement that many of us do, and giving him a second chance at discovering the value of what he has.
“It’s over two episodes, which I’ve never done before. “The end of the world happens. According to 41-year-old Derren, however, ultimately it’s for his own good. “What does scare me? The Upside of Anxiety. Groupthink And The Elevator Experiment. 10 Psychological Experiments That Went Horribly Wrong. Psychology as we know it is a relatively young science, but since its inception it has helped us to gain a greater understanding of ourselves and our interactions with the world. Many psychological experiments have been valid and ethical, allowing researchers to make new treatments and therapies available, and giving other insights into our motivations and actions. Sadly, others have ended up backfiring horribly — ruining lives and shaming the profession. Here are ten psychological experiments that spiraled out of control. 10.
Stanford Prison Experiment Prisoners and guards In 1971, social psychologist Philip Zimbardo set out to interrogate the ways in which people conform to social roles, using a group of male college students to take part in a two-week-long experiment in which they would live as prisoners and guards in a mock prison. 9. Wendell Johnson, of the University of Iowa, who was behind the study Theodore Kaczynski, the Unabomber, also seen top 7. 6. 5. 4. 3. 2. 1. David Reimer. Dad’s Love Helps Child’s Personality Development. By Rick Nauert PhD Senior News Editor Reviewed by John M. Grohol, Psy.D. on June 13, 2012 Despite the best efforts of counselors and the legal system, our divorce-laden society often involves rejection of a child by a parent. A new study discovers that while mothers have a unique social and emotional bond with each child, a father’s love contributes as much — and sometimes more — to a child’s development.
This finding is one of many stemming from a new large-scale analysis of research about the power of parental rejection and acceptance in shaping our personalities as children and into adulthood. “In our half-century of international research, we’ve not found any other class of experience that has as strong and consistent effect on personality and personality development as does the experience of rejection, especially by parents in childhood,” said Ronald Rohner, Ph.D., of the University of Connecticut.
Source: Society for Personality and Social Psychology APA Reference Nauert, R. (2012). Complete relationship chart between psychological ("personality") types. Complete relationship chart between psychological ("personality") types Chart #1 Key to the chart: Usage: Type A x Type B -> Intertype Relationship. Example #1: A = 'ENFp ', B = 'INFp ', Cross-reference result = 'Cnt'.Conclusion: Between ENFp and INFp there is Contrary Intertype Relationship. Example #2: A = 'ISTj ', B = 'ENTp ', Cross-reference result = 'Sp<'.Conclusion: Between ISTj and ENTp there is Intertype Relationship of Supervision, where ISTj is Supervisee to ENTp.
Chart #2 Usage: Your [A] is [Intertype Relationship] to your [B]. Example #1: A = 'Qid', B = 'Act', Cross-reference result = 'Ego'.Conclusion: Your Quasi-identical is Super-Ego to your Activity Example #2: A = 'Bn<', B = 'Ego', Cross-reference result = 'Bn>'.Conclusion: Your Beneficiary is Benefactor to your Super-Ego. Why sharing a bed is good for the heart (even if your other half snores!)
By Anna Hodgekiss Published: 23:34 GMT, 11 June 2012 | Updated: 23:34 GMT, 11 June 2012 Snoring, sweating, stealing the sheets . . . it’s little wonder that an estimated one in four couples insist on sleeping in separate rooms. Now, however, there’s an emerging body of research to suggest there could be health benefits to sharing a bed with a long-term partner. It’s even been suggested as a major reason why people in close relationships tend to be in better health and live longer. Sharing a bed is thought to boost levels of the 'love hormone' oxytocin, known to induce bonding feelings Researchers from the University of Pittsburgh in the U.S. believe sleeping next to someone helps lower the stress hormone cortisol, perhaps because it encourages feelings of safety and security. Prolonged periods of elevated cortisol have been linked with an increase in cytokines — proteins involved in inflammation that can trigger heart disease, depression and auto-immune disorders.
The Truth About Honesty and Dishonesty. How To Grow Up. It's all uphill from Denver to nearby Evergreen in the foothills of the Colorado Rockies. And that's perhaps as it should be. I'm on my way to interview David Schnarch, the New York-born psychologist who has spent decades upending everything we thought we knew about true love, passion, and hot sex . Especially hot sex. Once considered a heretic, Schnarch is today a distinguished presence in psychology, a pioneer set on redefining intimacy and reinvesting marriage with the passion that usually fades. "It's easy to have hot sex with a stranger," Schnarch insists. "But passionate marriage requires that you become an adult. " And this, Schnarch admits, is a challenge. To understand just how subversive such thinking is, it helps to know that Schnarch has been articulating his ideas about the emotional and erotic power of independence within relationships just as mainstream psychology has almost unanimously endorsed attachment as the heart of adult relationships.
An Eye-Opening Shift Tags: The High Art of Handling Problem People. The walk-in medical clinic was about to close for the day when Susan Biali got a call from one of her longtime patients. Could the doctor please hang in a bit longer? The caller was feeling very ill and needed to see her immediately. An exhausted Biali extended her already burdensome day and waited for the patient to arrive. Some time later, the woman sauntered in; she was perfectly fine. She just needed a prescription refill. "She totally lied to me," the Vancouver doctor recalls. Eventually, she identified what set her off: "You think you're in an innocuous situation—a typical doctor-patient encounter.
Ever wonder how an encounter goes so quickly awry? It doesn't take a sociopath; anyone can be difficult in a heartbeat. Experience motivates most of us to avoid or minimize interacting with such people. In the Hothouse at Home vs. In dealing with a difficult person, the setting is everything. In a marriage, she says, it's often advisable to exit a conversation. The Hostile. How Your Greatest Insecurities Reveal Your Deepest Gifts. In my decades of practice as a psychotherapist, this is the insight that has inspired me most: Our deepest wounds surround our greatest gifts. I've found that the very qualities we're most ashamed of, the ones we keep trying to reshape or hide, are in fact the key to finding real love.
I call them core gifts. It's so easy to get lost in the quest for self-improvement. Over the years, I realized that the characteristics of my clients which I found most inspiring, most essentially them, were the ones which frequently caused them the most suffering. Some clients would complain of feeling like they were "too much"; too intense, too angry, or too demanding. Other clients said they felt that they felt like they were "not enough"; too weak, too quiet, too ineffective. Clients would describe lives devastated by codependency, and I would see an immense generosity with no healthy limits. Again and again, where my clients saw their greatest wounds, I also saw their most defining gifts!
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