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Playing Well with Others: Part I – How to notice your ‘nos’ and have boundaries that liberate (Spring 2016) — Meredith Reynolds - Sex and Embodiment Coach - London. Clear answer: They tell us no Less clear answer: They seem to avoid giving an answerThey say yes but seem distracted or disconnectedThey say yes but then avoid the interaction or cancel repeatedlyThey say things like, “I don’t mind” or “Do what you want” or “It’s ok” All of these may be caused by something other than an unsaid no or luke-warm consent, but it’s best to check in.

Playing Well with Others: Part I – How to notice your ‘nos’ and have boundaries that liberate (Spring 2016) — Meredith Reynolds - Sex and Embodiment Coach - London

There is a balance to be found between taking someone’s yes at face value, and relentlessly digging for a hidden no. It takes practice, and we all get it wrong sometimes. Many of us have sometimes experienced difficult feelings when receiving a no. No Means No!: Teaching Children about Personal Boundaries, Respect and Consent. With the prevalence today of online and offline bullying and various forms of abuse, such as physical, emotional and sexual abuse; our young people need to learn (from a young age) to always speak up when their rights are not being respected.

No Means No!: Teaching Children about Personal Boundaries, Respect and Consent

The aim of this book is to empower young children and to give them a voice so they can grow up into empowered adults. When a child, teenager or adult says, No!’ To any form of coercion, this should be immediately respected. What If We Treated All Consent Like Society Treats Sexual Consent? 7 Ways to Practice Consent Outside of the Bedroom. This Metaphor for Consent Might Be Just the Thing You Need to Make It Click. Title: Building Consent Castles Panel 1 Robot Hugs (RH): My partner and I give workshops on consent.

This Metaphor for Consent Might Be Just the Thing You Need to Make It Click

We talk a lot about consent activities – things to think about and things you can talk about to establish consent before and during intimacy. Panel 2 (checklist of items to talk about) Checklist text: Talking, texts, emails, checking in before, checking in during, checking in after, touch, body language, sharing fantasies, setting boundaries and limits, safe words, power dynamics, drug and alcohol use, emotional and mental state, triggers Panel 3 (two people talking) Embodied Consent - Charlie Glickman PhD. How do you know what you really want in bed?

Embodied Consent - Charlie Glickman PhD

When you’re in a sexual situation, what tells you what you want to do, from moment to moment? This is a really important question to think about because that internal sense of your own wants and attractions is where it all begins. It’s the first step towards asking for and getting what you want. And it turns out that it’s a lot trickier than most people realize. There are a lot of reasons why you might find it difficult to do. But underneath all of these kinds of challenges, there’s a key question that often gets ignored. You might be surprised at how hard that can be. Compliance, Consent, and Sexual Empowerment - Charlie Glickman PhD. Do you want to know the key to sexual empowerment?

Compliance, Consent, and Sexual Empowerment - Charlie Glickman PhD

It’s learning to step out of compliance and into consent. The Roots of Sexual Compliance The reason that sexual compliance is such a challenge for almost everyone is that compliance is woven into us from our very beginnings. Remake of ‘Baby It’s Cold Outside’ to emphasize consent. “Baby it’s Cold Outside” is one of those classic Christmas songs we’ve been listening to every year since it was first penned by Frank Loesser in 1944, making its debut in the 1949 film Neptune’s Daughter.

Remake of ‘Baby It’s Cold Outside’ to emphasize consent

Ignore This Advice. It’s Ruining Your Relationship. One bit of advice that’s emerged from the last 50 years of the personal development movement is to ask for our needs to be met.

Ignore This Advice. It’s Ruining Your Relationship.

As a therapist, it drives me crazy. How can you tell your partner what you want in bed? - Esther Perel. The Silent Treatment: Why Not Communicating About Sex is Ineffective - World Association of Sex Coaches. By Myisha Battle, World Association of Sex Coaches Certified Sex Coach The primary reason I became a sex coach is that I am a good communicator when it comes to sex.

The Silent Treatment: Why Not Communicating About Sex is Ineffective - World Association of Sex Coaches

I knew that other people didn’t have this ability, no matter how well they communicated about work, school or even the inner workings of their relationships. I found a niche that allowed me to use my skill to help others. Sex looms above many people as an ever-present thought bubble filled with a pregnant pause. Sex is paradoxically all around us but never discussed, at least not in the ways that would make sex better for people. Thought experiment #1: Instead of asking your best friend how they are doing the next time you see them, ask them first about what’s going on in their sex life. Both the absurdity of greeting your friend with a sexual inquiry and the lack of confidence we have talking to sexual partners about sex are symptoms of not having the tools to address a common, natural occurrence in life. Consent for kids. Tea Consent (Clean)

I Promise, It’s Not Lame to Ask a Woman for Permission - Six years ago a woman accused me of rape.

I Promise, It’s Not Lame to Ask a Woman for Permission -

Here’s the story. I met a woman in Houston while on tour as a musician. We exchanged numbers and when I came back to town a few years later I looked her up. We met for food, then went back to her place and decided to have sex. Actually, I assume we decided to have sex because clothes were coming off and body parts were being pushed together, but there was never any words exchanged, or verbal confirmation that we both wanted to have sex. I leaned in for a kiss, she didn’t say no.I put my hands on her breasts, she didn’t say no.I reached down her pants, she didn’t say no. I went through the motions, all the way up to and through intercourse, and she didn’t say no, so I assumed she was enjoying herself and everything was good.

You raped me. I was stunned.