The subtle violence of nonviolent language. These thoughts are occasioned by a training video (1) by Marshall Rosenberg, a 200-minute condensation of a full-day workshop given in San Francisco by his Center for Nonviolent Communication. On the Center's web site (2) can be seen the variety of audiences the Center has reached since 1984, in public workshops and invited sessions with prison populations and warring factions in the world's most intractable regions. That history is also seen in Rosenberg's presentation, in frequent anecdotes that are humbling as well as inspiring, testimony to an extraordinary career of teaching, even in desperate settings, a language of the heart. The essentials are easy to relate. Communication suffers if evaluation and judgment are confused with observation; if diagnosis of another person's inner state stands in the way of listening and seeing; if feelings and analyses, needs, wants, and strategies, requests and demands are not carefully distinguished. What's going on? To be human Thought Feeling
Hamburg course - Compassionate Communication Hamburg With the help of Nonviolent Communication (NVC) we’re going to learn to come closer to ourselves, listening carefully to what we’re thinking, feeling and needing. First we connect with the first layer, the way we’ve been educated to think: what’s right and wrong with the others/with ourselves, what we think we deserve, how we should behave in society, in family… This is where most of the violence on our planet comes from: a way of thinking made to obey authority – a language that tries to change other people using punishments, blame, guilt, shame or rewards. When caught up with becoming either the winner or the loser, it’s very challenging to experience compassion and feel happy. Connecting with this way of thinking is essential to get deeper into a more intimate space: the need space. This is a very personal quest, and for me the most important thing of my life. Frédéric has an intuitive openess and natural understanding that comes without any judgement.
Anger and Domination Systems| Northwest Compassionate Communications The following is a slightly edited transcript of part of a workshop on anger led by Dr. Rosenberg in England in May of 1999. Dr. Marshall: For me the subject of anger is very much a political issue. He gets really annoyed and he keeps changing houses because he doesn't like dealing with the fire alarm. By systems I mean governments, organizations, institutions that regulate human affairs. Domination systems require: 1. Now anger is the result, it's a fire alarm that tells us we are thinking in a way that supports domination systems; you are thinking in a way that contributes to the oppressive world order and you are part of it. So I don't want to get rid of it in that sense I don't want to be like the man who keeps moving his house because of the alarm. We have been trained to be nice dead people or bullies. How human beings develop obviously is going to affect our understanding about the nature of human beings, what we think is the nature of human beings. Marshall: The Orang Asilie.
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Domination Systems Domination systems as revealed by language Marshall Rosenberg describes a domination system as follows: "...By systems I mean governments, organizations, institutions that regulate human affairs. Domination systems require: 1 Suppression of self 2 Moralistic judgments 3 Amtssprache (This expression was used by Nazi officials to describe a bureaucratic language that denies choice, with words like: should, have to, ought.) 4 The crucial concept of deserve" The above quote was taken from an edited transcript of a 1999 workshop Rosenberg gave on anger entitled "Anger and Domination Systems." Let me explain what Rosenberg means by these 4 characteristics of domination systems as revealed in the language we use: 1. For the majority of us, the reason why we find it so hard to express our feelings and needs is because we are educated by our society to ignore them so we can become some kind of interchangeable part in a vast money making machine, where feelings and needs are not important. 2. 3. 4. Death
Jenseits von richtig und falsch liegt ein Ort. June | 2013 | Voluntary Visions The Language of Choice, as Juxtaposed to the Ever-Present Language of Obligation by Darrell Becker Glossary empathy (n.) – the ability to understand and share the feelings of another. 1903, from German Einfühlung (from ein “in” + Fühlung “feeling”), coined 1858 by German philosopher Rudolf Lotze (1817-1881) as a translation of Greek empatheia “passion, state of emotion,” from en “in” + pathos “feeling”. choice (n.) – an act of selecting or making a decision when faced with two or more possibilities. mid-14c., “that which is choice,” from choice (adj.) blended with earlier chois (n.) obligation (n.) – the condition of being morally or legally bound to do something. 1300, from Old French obligacion “obligation, duty, responsibility” (early 13c.) and directly from Latin obligationem (nominative obligatio) “an engaging or pledging,” literally “a binding” (but rarely used in this sense), noun of action from past participle stem of obligare. Introduction “If it’s not practical, it’s not Wisdom.”
Walter Wink Walter Wink (* 21. Mai 1935 in Dallas, Texas; † 10. Mai 2012 in Berkshire Mountains, Massachusetts) war Professor für Biblische Exegese am Auburn Theological Seminary in New York City. Wink arbeitete als Gemeindepfarrer und als Professor am Union Theological Seminary in the City of New York. Von 1989 bis 1990 war er Peace Fellow am United States Institute of Peace. Wink ist bekannt für seine Arbeiten über Machtstrukturen mit einer progressiven christlichen Sicht auf gegenwärtige politische und kulturelle Fragen. Neal Stephenson übernahm einige von Winks Ideen für seine Annahmen über die Phänomenologie von Unterdrückung („an epidemiology of power disorders“). Im Gegensatz zur Mehrheit der Vertreter der Gay Theology sagt Wink offen: „Ich habe seit langem darauf bestanden, dass es dabei um Hermeneutik geht, und dass Bemühungen, den Text so zu drehen, dass er etwas bedeutet, was er klar nicht aussagt, beklagenswert sind. Werke (Auswahl)[Bearbeiten] Weblinks[Bearbeiten] Quellen[Bearbeiten]
The Power of Focusing, The Power of NVC II: Healing Alienating Spring 1985, Sunday night, and Marshall Rosenberg, in Chicago for a workshop at our home, unexpectedly drops by for Changes. As usual, we split into a couple of subgroups for Listening or Focusing, and joins mine. An "old timer", S -- truly oblivious to the needs of others and to his own processing -- offers to listen. We follow this to its end -- S says what he comes to say, what he's said every time he's come for years and with no change, none at all. erupts: "Well, I'm not fine! Me, stunned: "Huh?" : "If that'd been me, I'd be mad as hell!" I check, and by golly, I am mad as hell. : "And I'm guessing that S is pretty mad, too!" By golly, S is mad, too. Marshall listens to S, but in a much different way, and S gets to some honesty -- not to change, but to a touch of reality, connecting with what's alive in him. During an earlier Changes, Jane had spent the entire two hours Listening to S, determined to get through. I frown. And,
The Power of Focusing, the Power of NVC, and processing The Power of Focusing, The Power of NVC, and processing.... I: The Power of Focusing and processing.... "We must distinguish between the existing system of language forms, on the one hand, and the power of language on the other. Language escapes the old forms of language, although the forms are never absent." Gene Gendlin, "Dwelling", in the Gendlin On-Line Library, www.focusing.org Obviously, I'm suggesting a parallel between language and both Focusing & NVC. Because of other commitments, up to now I've not had time to join or even read the dialogue about weaving together Focusing & NVC. As I've thought about what I wanted to add to this dialogue, the above Gene quote, also found at the beginning of Language Beyond Postmodernism, came to mind, along with several easy-to-grasp concepts from the beginning of Gene's A Process Model. The Power of Focusing Four Gene Ideas, Two Additional Orders, and processing. The First Three Gene Ideas: interacting first, -ing and ev-eving. Ordering #4 Homing: