Untitled. The Paradox of Behavior Change. The natural tendency of life is to find stability.
In biology we refer to this process as equilibrium or homeostasis. For example, consider your blood pressure. When it dips too low, your heart rate speeds up and nudges your blood pressure back into a healthy range. When it rises too high, your kidneys reduce the amount of fluid in the body by flushing out urine. All the while, your blood vessels help maintain the balance by contracting or expanding as needed. The human body employs hundreds of feedback loops to keep your blood pressure, body temperature, glucose levels, calcium levels, and many other processes at a stable equilibrium. In his book, Mastery, martial arts master George Leonard points out that our daily lives also develop their own levels of homeostasis. Like your body, there are many forces and feedback loops that moderate the particular equilibrium of your habits. Why We Struggle with Change. By Leo Babauta We think we need to improve ourselves and our current situation, because we’re dissatisfied (at least a little bit) with how things are.
We have a drive to improve, improve. So we strive for change — exercise more, eat better, read more, be more mindful, do more meaningful work, be more disciplined. And yet, we struggle with change. Why is that? The problem is that we are clinging to the illusion of solidity. Allow me to explain. What I’ve Learned in 10 Years of Zen Habits : zen habits. By Leo Babauta Unbelievably, this month marks 10 years since I started Zen Habits.
I’ve had an amazing decade, and I’d like to reflect on those years today. I’ve seen so much change in the last 10 years that I can’t possibly reflect on all of it. Just a few examples of how my life has changed: Zen Habits became my career. 7 Reasons it’s Time to Move On and Embrace Change. Change isn’t part of the process; it is the process.
The bad news: nothing is permanent. The good news: nothing is permanent. Today, with the help of a friend, Brian Gardner (check out his inspiring site), we made the first design change to our site in nearly a decade. Yes, a decade. If you think about how drastically the internet and technology has matured in the past ten years, it’s impossible not to wonder why we didn’t update our site design sooner. All details aside – and there are plenty of them – the answer is: Resistance to change.
Adversity. Self-Discipline. Growth Mindset. The New Trick to Getting Someone (or Yourself) to Change. Behavior Change Model. How to Change Other People. 7 Hidden Truths That Will Transform How You Think about Yourself - Page19.
Are you a surprise junkie who loves uncovering hidden sides of yourself?
Or do you like nothing better than a good book that challenges your view on yourself? No matter the reasons, here are 7 great books that will make you just a little bit more knowledgeable about yourself. “The essence of knowledge is self-knowledge,” claimed the Greek philosopher Plato. But how do you go about learning actual new truths about yourself when it’s so easy to get caught up in comforting confirmation biases and pleasant patterns? Well, you could try to find a very wise oracle out there who could tell you about everything you didn’t know.
I’m here to help you branch out. 1. You’ve probably been told all the time that stress is bad for you and that it’s the cause of all sorts of illnesses. In the book The Upside of Stress, Kelly McGonigal makes the claim that having a good relationship with your stress can actually increase longevity! Buy the bookRead in 10 minutes 2. Buy the bookRead in 10 minutes 3. 4. 5. 10 Things You Must Give Up to Get Yourself Back on Track. If you want to grow and move on to better things, you have to give up the things that hold you back.
Last night, Marc and I received a new thank you email from a longtime reader and coaching client named Kevin (we’re writing about him today with his consent). He said our book and life coaching sessions helped him and his wife Laura maintain a positive, intentional mindset as they struggled and grew through one of the most difficult periods of their lives. Certain sections of his email nearly moved me to tears: “As you know, after injuring my back, losing my job because of it, being evicted from our apartment, moving in with Laura’s parents, nursing my five-year-old through a nearly fatal bout of strep throat, I was stuck in a tragic rut for far too long. And I was sitting on the front porch of my in-law’s house feeling sorry for myself, yet again, when my old college buddy called me crying and said, ‘Mel-Mel-Melissa, my baby girl, just died in a car wreck.’ 7 Things to Remember When You Feel Discouraged and Defeated.
Email The worst enemy to productivity and creativity is self-pity.
This morning I didn’t feel like doing anything. It’s a combination of exhaustion from a few days of hard work, and a lack of sleep with a baby in the house. I couldn’t motivate myself to do anything important, which is a rare occurrence for me. I just felt completely discouraged and defeated. I sat there in this funk for nearly an hour and wondered how to get out of it. That’s what I was considering, at least for a little while. Here’s what works for me – seven things to keep in mind (and do) when you feel discouraged and defeated: Reminder: Have you checked out our book? 1. I think we all have the tendency to put ourselves at the center of the universe, and see everything from the viewpoint of how it affects us.
So this morning, instead of worrying so much about myself, I thought about other people I might help. Thus, thinking about others instead of oneself helps solve feelings of discouragement and defeat. 2. Psychology of Behavior Change.