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12 Rules for Being a Human Being

12 Rules for Being a Human Being
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10 Signs You Are a 'Good Girl' & 10 Tips for Discovering Your 'Good Woman.' Sugar and Spice and Everything Nice? Eh…I’ll Pass. I’m noticing more and more these days that we women (my perfectionist, Virgo self included) have a hard time letting go of being a ‘good girl.’ You know, the one all in pink who sits quietly in church, never tells a lie and is the apple of daddy’s eye? No, you don’t, because she doesn’t exist. But that’s all in the past, right? Well, not exactly. Our bodies may have matured, but the way that we interact with the world has changed very little from when we were four years old. To break out of the ‘good girl’ mold, you don’t have to become Lady Gaga (one is enough, thank you). I’m not going to sugar coat it: change hurts. 10 Signs You Are a ‘Good Girl’ (and 10 Tips for Discovering Your ‘Good Woman’) 1. A good girl doesn’t want to rock the boat. 2. “Oh, no thank you, I’m full.” We’ve all heard the catchphrase of women still caught in ‘good girl’ mentality. 3. 4. 5. 6. Good girls don’t get angry. 7. 8. 9. 10. Editor: Brianna Bemel

100 Best Quotes About Life - StumbleUpon A man who dares to waste one hour of time has not discovered the value of life. –Charles Darwin All life is an experiment. The more experiments you make the better. –Ralph Waldo Emerson All the art of living lies in a fine mingling of letting go and holding on. Any idiot can face a crisis – it’s day to day living that wears you out. A man sooner or later discovers that he is the master-gardener of his soul, the director of his life. Believe that life is worth living and your belief will help create the fact. Do not dwell in the past, do not dream of the future, concentrate the mind on the present moment. Don’t go around saying the world owes you a living. Every creature is better alive than dead, men and moose and pine trees, and he who understands it aright will rather preserve its life than destroy it. Every man dies. Everything has been figured out, except how to live. Everything in life is luck. Fortunately analysis is not the only way to resolve inner conflicts. We can’t plan life.

6 Tips to Deal When You Feel Out of Control in Life: When Your World’s All Shook Up “Why worry about things you can’t control when you can keep yourself busy controlling the things that depend on you?” ~Unknown I celebrated an anniversary recently. It was the night I experienced my first, and hopefully last, earthquake. My husband and I had retired for the evening as usual—said our goodnights and went to sleep. Our attempts to escape the upper level were hampered by the violent shaking. Skirting around the shards of broken stemware, we fumbled with the house keys and made our escape to the front porch. We were fortunate that our home did not collapse on top of us, that in our community there was no loss of life, and the tsunami that we were warned about never materialized. Although we were lucky and it only lasted sixty seconds, I put earthquakes at the top of my list of things I never want to experience again. So why celebrate the anniversary of such an event? One minute your life is normal. 1. 2. It is so easy to take your life and people you love for granted. 3. 4. 5.

12 Tough Truths that Help You Grow As you look back on your life, you will often realize that many of the times you thought you were being rejected from something good, you were in fact being redirected to something better. You can’t control everything. Sometimes you just need to relax and have faith that things will work out. Let go a little and just let life happen. Here are twelve such truths… Everything is as it should be. Photo by: Martin Gommel Related 10 Mistakes Unhappy People Make Life isn’t about waiting for the storm to pass, it’s about learning to dance in the rain. May 28, 2012 In "Hacks" 50 Quotes to Help You Let Go and Live “Some people believe holding on and hanging in there are signs of great strength. November 20, 2013 In "Happiness" 9 Good Reminders that Will Change the Way You Think “The world as we have created it is a process of our thinking.

Hundred Goals | Inspiration to Live Your Dream 10 Ways To Snap Yourself Out Of A Slump www Ah, yes. Feeling blue. The doldrums. Sad & listless. What you need is what I like to call a glee jolt! Drive quickly! Yell some positive affirmations I know that the concept sounds lame, but honestly, they work. Scare the hell out of yourself We all reach a point of complacency & boredom at some stage. Get away from everything If you’re feeling bogged down & sluggish, escaping your normal life can be a fantastic way to get back on track again. Spend time with an unusual person Like Sark says, “Invite someone dangerous to tea”. Find some aesthetic stimulation I think that mostly, the feeling of being in a slump comes from a lack of enthusiasm about what’s going on in your life. Start flirting There’s nothing like a fledgling romance to make life shiny & new again! Dress in one colour …But not black. Switch up your routine Even the smallest change to your day-to-day life can make a huge difference to the way you think & feel. Bonus ideas Hunt for treasures in vintage stores.

This Poster Changed My Life. ~ Nicole Duncan Before I even knew what was wrong, I knew how to fix it. I had to make a change, a big change. As far as I could tell I had everything, and nothing to complain about. Reliable employment, a coveted corner office, a loving boyfriend and supportive family, my good health. I was living in the most beautiful town in the US, and I was (somewhat) financially secure…the list goes on. My life was empty, somehow. My internal compass pointed toward change. While I was in the thick of making change (otherwise known as disrupting and destroying my life), shoulder-deep in judgment from the people in my world, and bailing buckets of tears trying to stay afloat, this credo brought reassurance. I couldn’t help but smile at its simplicity. Therein lies the power. “If you don’t like something, change it.” It’s plain and simple, yet so difficult in practice. Now, the Holstee graphic adorns my Mac desktop, prompting me to “wear my passion.” Update: Now, with Video: Like elephant journal on Facebook.

10 simple ways to save yourself from messing up your life - Step Stop taking so much notice of how you feel. How you feel is how you feel. It’ll pass soon. What you’re thinking is what you’re thinking. Adrian Savage is a writer, an Englishman, and a retired business executive, in that order. Read full content

your permission slip I’ve got the Goddess of Permission on speed dial and she was thrilled to oblige with this sweeping list of acts of self expression and liberation. We can draw on it whenever we need. Come back often. Build on it. you have permission to : not finish reading books that you’re not really enjoying. : walk out of movies that suck (and hey, if you leave in the first twenty minutes, you can get your money back.) : let it go to voicemail (especially during dinner, or snuggling, or watching So You Think You Can Dance?) : give birthday gifts anytime of the year (which means you can be late or early and you can give yourself time to find just the right gift.) : talk shit about WalMart (even if they do have the economic power of a small country.) : cut the obligations cords that are driven by guilt : pursue your own agenda. : own next to nothing, live on a mattress, read and write and make love all day with no other responsibilities*** : get yourself off, even if you have a partner. : have some secrets.

10 Simple Things to Make You Happier At Home Our homes are an extension of who we are: what we do within the walls of our abodes shapes our mood, affects our productivity, and influences our outlook on life. Scientific studies have shown that we can have an impact on our happiness by adjusting the tiny little habits and routines that constitute our daily lives — we are, in fact, in control of our outlook on life. It's amazing how a few tweaks to our daily habits can become a catalyst for meaningful, positive change. Here are a few simple things you can do every day to feel happier at home. 1. Make your bed. 2. 3. 4. 5. 6. 7. 8. 9. 10. (Image: Callen & Eli's Artful Treehouse)

More Wisdom Prefer to give gifts out of no obligation, on no occasion, and with deep knowledge of and compassion for the receiver. No book contains all wisdom. Remember to play and have fun. Live long, and die quick. Living involves suffering, but considerably less suffering if you understand that fact. If you do someone a favor unasked, do not demand a show of their gratitude— you may get it, but you will also earn their contempt. Receiving something unasked-for in no way obligates the receiver to reciprocate. Avoid the false dichotomy of “selfishness” and “selflessness”: receiving happens as a direct and simultaneous consequence of giving freely. Quantify your progress towards your goals by taking regular, objective measurements of your position. Don’t lust for results— continue to do the right things to achieve your aims, and remain objective and detached from the events along the way. Apply the highest skill you possess to whatever you do. Everyone has many good ideas.

30 True Things You Need to Know Now You can bend it and twist it. You can misuse and abuse it. But even God cannot change the Truth. – Michael Levy It is never too late to bring about lasting change for your life. No matter your present circumstances, not matter what has happened in your past; no matter your age, gender, or socioeconomic status, you are the creator of the life you want to live. Dr. , a Vietnam War veteran and practicing psychiatrist has experienced, first hand, the tragedies life can bring upon us. After learning more about Dr. Too Soon Old, Too Late Smart provides 30 essential truths to remind us that while we can’t escape who we are or what has happened to us; we are responsible for who we would like to be and where we want to go. If the map doesn’t agree with the ground, the map is wrong. Alex’s new book, Letting Go: 25 True Stories of Peace, Hope and Surrender, is now available (get 10 free Peace and Balance tools when you order).

Life Moves 33 Rules to Boost Your Productivity Heuristics are rules intended to help you solve problems. When a problem is large or complex, and the optimal solution is unclear, applying a heuristic allows you to begin making progress towards a solution even though you can’t visualize the entire path from your starting point. Suppose your goal is to climb to the peak of a mountain, but there’s no trail to follow. An example of a heuristic would be: Head directly towards the peak until you reach an obstacle you can’t cross. Whenever you reach such an obstacle, follow it around to the right until you’re able to head towards the peak once again. This isn’t the most intelligent or comprehensive heuristic, but in many cases it will work just fine, and you’ll eventually reach the peak. Heuristics don’t guarantee you’ll find the optimal solution, nor do they generally guarantee a solution at all. Heuristics have many practical applications, and one of my favorite areas of application is personal productivity. Nuke it! Site Build It!