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75 Ways To Stay Unhappy Forever

75 Ways To Stay Unhappy Forever
Dale Carnegie once said, “It isn’t what you have, or who you are, or where you are, or what you are doing that makes you happy or unhappy. It’s what you think about.” I don’t think anyone could say it any better than that. I’ve watched so many friends search tirelessly for happiness by changing jobs, moving to new cities, pursuing intimate relationships, and tweaking all sorts of other external factors in their lives. And guess what? They’re still unhappy. So with that in mind, here are 75 ways to stay unhappy forever. And now that you know what not to do, let me tell you a secret about happiness. In fact, according to a recent scientific study, overall levels of happiness decline from one’s teens until one’s 40s and then pick up again until they peak in one’s early 70s. Photo by: Helga Weber Related 8 Things Unhappy People Refuse to Admit “People are just as happy as they make up their minds to be.” August 29, 2013 In "Happiness" 9 Things You Do NOT Need to Be Happy September 15, 2013 Related:  HappinessBemerkenswertes

Don’t Rent Your Life Own It! I ain’t gonna live forever. I just want to live while I’m alive. – from the song It’s My Life by Jon Bon Jovi I learned the words to It’s My Life several years ago even though I never memorized the lyrics. Instead, I allowed the song, and its meaning, to be written on my heart where it still lives today. The song was played for me during a time when I thought I had to be perfect; when I had to be in control to find peace. After allowing the song’s words into my heart, I realized it wasn’t too late to build a life that belonged to me and not one nestled in the shadows of dimly-lit rooms, never-emptied glasses or inappropriate touches. Today my life is about savoring every moment; it’s about appreciating exactly what I have. What I find most liberating about my life contract is I don’t need to have it perfectly memorized to find peace because the words have always lived on my heart – I just had to set them free. My Life-Ownership Contract What are the words to your life contract?

30 Life-Enhancing Things You Can Do in 30 Minutes or Less Many of us attempt to measure our happiness based on the duration of certain favorable experiences in our lives. The longer a favorable experience lasts, the happier we think we’ll be. But the truth is, life is simply a string of small, independent moments that are always changing. Thus, a few minutes well spent here and there can make a big difference in what we get out of life in the long-term. Here are 30 things you can do in 30 minutes or less that will have a positive emotional effect on you and those closest to you. Learn something new by starting a free course at one of the hundreds of online self-education resources bookmarked here: 12 Dozen Places To Educate Yourself Online For Free.Watch one of the thousands of educational videos streaming at TED.com, Academic Earth, or Khan Academy.Read an online book list and find a new book to grab next time you’re at the library. What simple life-enhancing activities do you participate in on a regular basis? Photo by: Rachel Sian Related

Top 10 Things That Determine Happiness photo: meddygarnet Happiness is, by nature, a subjective quality with a definition like a moving target. There is scant evidence — qualitative or quantitative — to lend convincing support to those life variables most critical in determining individual happiness, which is likely why past researchers committed to the scientific method rarely tried to tackle the subject. This is changing. Take, for example, the World Database of Happiness in Rotterdam, self-described as a, “continuous register of scientific research on subjective appreciation of life.” While we’re not entirely convinced of this marriage between science and subjectivity, we can still offer up a top 10 of things that determine human happiness, as supported by this growing body of research. No.10 – Having a short memory Are you one to hold grudges? No.9 – Exacting fairness No.8 – Having lots of friendships No.7 – Being spiritual No.6 – Thinking ahead No.5 – Developing a skill According to psychology professor Dr. No.2 – Good genes

Prof. Heinsohn zur Krise Prof. Dr. Dr. Gunnar Heinsohn ist einer der grössten, fundiertesten und kreativsten wissenschaftlichen Denker. Er ist regelmässiger Gastreferent an der Malik Academy, und u. a. auch Wirtschaftsexperte in unserem Master-Programm und überdies hinaus auch Gastautor des monatlichen Malik Letters. Zusammen mit seinem Kollegen Otto Steiger hat Prof. Einer breiteren Öffentlichkeit wurde Prof. Heinsohn wurde 1943 in Polen geboren und studierte an der Freien Universität Berlin Soziologie, Geschichte, Psychologie, Ökonomie und Religionswissenschaften. Gunnar Heinsohn und Otto Steiger schufen Schlüsselwerke wie Eigentum, Zins und Geld: Ungelöste Rätsel der Wirtschaftswissenschaft (1996, 9. Heinsohn ist Autor von über 900 Publikationen, Mitherausgeber des Magazins "Zeitensprünge" und schreibt für grosse internationale Zeitungen. » Heinsohn: "Roma Quadrata" "In dieser Präsentation erklärt Heinsohn die Enstehung von Eigentum, Staat, Kredit, Zins & Geld" - Fredmund Malik

Positive Thinking Affirmations Positive thinking affirmations have the power to silence your negative thoughts and put you in a positive frame of mind. Affirmations work by repetition. Simply put, when you repeat affirmations with belief (positive emotion or conviction), your subconscious picks up on them and starts acting as if they were true. Soon, your mind starts looking for those things, events and people that match whatever it is the affirmation states (for instance, "People are always helpful to me"). You then start seeing that reality manifest all around you. You can create affirmations for almost anything you can think of. You can also find Christian affirmations in Norman Vincent Peale's "The power of positive thinking", the famous classic that blends together Christianity and positive thinking. You can even use an affirmation to change your life: find out more by following the link. Tailor-made affirmations Do not just repeat any affirmation that you find. Check this page for the best affirmation wording.

How to Help a Friend Fight Depression Depression is debilitating. When I am caught in its spiral of judgment-clouding twisted logic there is often little I am able to do for myself. I know I’m hard to love when I’m depressed, but if you are the rare friend who is committed to staying with me through the pain, consider these seven ways you can help me. 1. You will feel frustrated with me. But please don’t judge me. Pray that your heart would be full of grace toward me. 2. I know God is good. And I know it is good to be reminded of these things, but please tread carefully. God works all things to the good for those who love Him. Not a sparrow falls to the ground without God’s knowledge, but sparrows still fall. 3. I will say things that are not true, things that need to be refuted. I need you to tell me true things, but first I need to know that I have been heard. Don’t immediately shoot me down with, “That’s not true!” 4. You can’t. 5. Only after you hear me and hold me will there be any chance that I can hear the truth. 6.

» How to Have the Best Year of Your Life (without Setting a Single Goal) Editor’s note: This is a guest post from Jeff Goins of Goins, Writer. This new year, do something different: stop setting goals. If the definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over again expecting different results, then making resolutions for another year is a sure-fire way to drive yourself crazy. Resolutions are pipe dreams, and goals are a waste of time. But plans don’t work. So how do you change your life? The Pointlessness of Plans Most good things happen without a plan: friendships, falling in love, finding a job, and so on. This was how I was able to get into shape, launch a blog, train for a half-marathon, get a book deal, and keep my day job this year — while loving every minute of it. Most productivity systems focus on beginning with the “end in mind” and setting goals to get there. But this is not the only path you can take. I just finished one of the best years of my life, and most of it was completely unplanned. Instead of Goals Get up early.

The 13 Best Psychology and Philosophy Books of 2013 by Maria Popova How to think like Sherlock Holmes, make better mistakes, master the pace of productivity, find fulfilling work, stay sane, and more. After the best biographies, memoirs, and history books of 2013, the season’s subjective selection of best-of reading lists continue with the most stimulating psychology and philosophy books published this year. “How we spend our days,” Annie Dillard wrote in her timelessly beautiful meditation on presence over productivity, “is, of course, how we spend our lives.” Horowitz begins by pointing our attention to the incompleteness of our experience of what we conveniently call “reality”: Right now, you are missing the vast majority of what is happening around you. Minor clashes between my dog’s preferences as to where and how a walk should proceed and my own indicated that I was experiencing almost an entirely different block than my dog. The book was her answer to the disconnect, an effort to “attend to that inattention.”

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