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Drunk Personality and Behavior: Is This the Real You? Editor’s Note: This article was first published on March 9, 2017.

Drunk Personality and Behavior: Is This the Real You?

Sometimes, the “good” version of you — the one that successfully holds down a job, keeps a relationship together and maintains a semblance of a normal life — is eclipsed by a different one: Enter Drunk You. This is the you that thinks eight cheeseburgers is a reasonable dinner; that sees a fistfight as a valid response to being bumped into; that thinks, hey, it’s really important that I tell my much-more-sober boss every detail of the last 10 years of my sex life. Drunk You is the you that tries to loudly undo all the good that Sober You does, a rampaging super-nemesis hellbent on your destruction. But as the ancient expression goes, In vino veritas — “in wine, truth.” Is, as some people believe, Drunk You just the real you, let loose from their cage by the inhibition-squashing effects of alcohol? Does alcohol give me a different personality?

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The 6 Types of Grit (And How to Develop Them)

And that often requires pushing yourself beyond your comfort zone, even when you don’t feel like it. It requires getting back up and trying again and again when you fail. It requires sticking with a path long enough to see it through. In short, becoming a better man requires grit. The concept of grit has become well-known in recent years, due to the efforts of psychologist Angela Duckworth, who has spent her career trying to figure out what makes people gritty and how they can intentionally foster and nurture this quality in their own lives. 'Sigma Male' Theory: Everything You Never Wanted to Know. The only masculine archetype to rival the alpha has a long and stupid history Some letters of the Greek alphabet are familiar to English speakers.

'Sigma Male' Theory: Everything You Never Wanted to Know

Alpha, as the first, we have taken to mean superior — leader of the pack. Beta, the successor, is second fiddle (or a software prototype not ready for market). Pi, of course, is a cool number. But if you were ever part of a college frat or sorority, then sigma, the 18th letter, may hold no meaning for you. Framework for making better decisions. 15 Life Skills Everyone Should Actually Know. These 7 Tiny Clues Reveal Who You Are. These 7 Clues Reveal Who You Are as a Partner. Plutarch's 13 Signs for Gauging Your Growth in Character. In most areas of your life that you seek to improve, there’s an external metric you can look at in order to see if you’re getting better.

Plutarch's 13 Signs for Gauging Your Growth in Character

6 Habits of Highly Focused People. 6 Unconscious Habits That Are Making You Insecure. A new client of mine was trying to describe why he decided to come to therapy: You know, it’s hard to put my finger on exactly.

6 Unconscious Habits That Are Making You Insecure

I’m not super depressed. I don’t have crushing anxiety either. I just feel so insecure all the time. 3 Effective Ways to Help Grow Your Self-Esteem. Woman Performs A Dramatic Monologue From 'Austin Powers' For Acting Class, And The Whole Thing Is Genius. To Become Happier, Ask Yourself These Two Questions Every Night. Tao Te Ching by Lao Tzu Chapter One. 13 Habits Of Mentally Tough People. “I have not failed.

13 Habits Of Mentally Tough People

I've just found 10,000 ways that won't work.” – Thomas Edison Mental toughness is paramount for achieving any lofty goal or overcoming extreme hurdles. Few great things in this world come without a little bit of adversity. Nothing amazing happens inside our comfort zones. Whether we are talking about earning a promotion, nurturing a challenged marriage, mastering a sport, building or saving a small business, battling disease, dealing with the loss of a loved one, raising children, or hunting terrorists, some suffering will always be attached. How Tiny Habits Can Change Your Life. We’re a month into the new year now.

How Tiny Habits Can Change Your Life

How are you doing on your resolutions? Have you already fallen off the wagon? Maybe the goal you set for yourself was just too big to successfully tackle. Anti-Fragility as We Train Ourselves to Improve. By Leo Babauta As I’ve been diving into my Fearless Mastery mastermind program, with some of the most amazing people, I’ve been introducing some key ideas for training ourselves … These are ideas I’ve been developing in my Sea Change and Fearless Training programs, as I’ve trained thousands of people to shift their habits as well as the patterns that get in the way of our meaningful work.

Anti-Fragility as We Train Ourselves to Improve

Learned Helplessness Destroys Resiliency. This article series is now available as a professionally formatted, distraction free ebook to read offline at your leisure.

Learned Helplessness Destroys Resiliency

Click here to buy. Starting in 1967, Dr. Martin Seligman began a series of experiments involving 3 groups of dogs. The first group of dogs were given electric shocks, but were able to press a panel with their nose to make the shocks stop. The second group of dogs were given the shocks as well, but had no recourse to make them stop. The dogs in the first and third group recovered well from the experiment. Strengthen Resiliency by Utilizing Your Signature Strengths. This article series is now available as a professionally formatted, distraction free ebook to read offline at your leisure.

Strengthen Resiliency by Utilizing Your Signature Strengths

Click here to buy. When we first introduced the topic of resiliency, we discussed how it is both a reactive and an active quality, a skill that helps you bounce back and reach out. Today’s discussion will center on the active aspect of resiliency and the path to gaining the confidence to take risks and embrace change. A psychological guide to contentment: 5 behaviors to adopt.

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Whether or not the 34th President of the United States of America ever spoke those exact words, he must have had a highly effective method of dealing with life's tasks. During Eisenhower's two terms in office, writes Atomic Habits author James Clear, "he launched programs that directly led to the development of the Interstate Highway System in the United States, the launch of the internet (DARPA), the exploration of space (NASA), and the peaceful use of alternative energy sources (Atomic Energy Act). " Sunday Firesides: Control = Courage. During both World Wars, Lord Moran, a physician who served as a medical officer during the first and Winston Churchill’s personal doctor during the second, studied the nature of courage. One of the interesting observations he made was that aboard military aircraft, the navigator experienced greater nerves than the pilot. 30 Essential Core Values for Living the Life You Want. The weather will always change.

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What does this type of parenting teach kids, if not the idea that the use of brute force and authority solves all life problems, instills fear in people, and makes them listen to you? This is never ok. The more you punish your kids and tell them that they should either obey you or suffer the consequences, the more they will hate you for it, lose their self-esteem because their feelings and opinions aren’t respected, and then start to believe that aggressiveness, if not violence, is the key in life. This Trick Will Keep You From Choking Under Pressure. Multitasking Is Impossible, So Batch Tasks Instead. Ah, but there's the caveat. When it comes to actually doing the tasks that require that creativity — writing, designing, saving the world — batching has its drawbacks. 11 Things I Wish I Had Known in My Teens - Adult Tips for My Younger Self. Want To Improve Your Mental Toughness? Try This Exercise. The 9-Step Checklist Mr. Rogers Used for Talking to Children. Measure Yourself on 10 Universal Values with the Schwartz Value Survey.

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