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Here’s an appropriate reading from Chapter 17, “Anger”, of the Dhammapada (trans. Gil Fronsdal), a profoundly insightful compilation of the historical Buddha’s teachings: Guard against anger erupting in your body;Be restrained with your body.Letting go of bodily misconduct,Practice good conduct with your body.Guard against anger erupting in your speech;Be restrained with your speech.Letting go of verbal misconduct,Practice good conduct with your speech.Guard against anger erupting in your mind;Be restrained with your mind.Letting go of mental misconduct,Practice good conduct with your mind.The wise are restrained in body,Restrained in speech.The wise are restrained in mind.They are fully restrained.
Unarmed Self-Defense from the Mad Men Era. As I was browsing through some old magazines the other day, I came across a fantastic issue of Popular Science from 1962 that contained a feature on unarmed self-defense.
The article was adapted from a book entitled Modern Judo and Self-Defense by Harry Ewen, a “police judo” expert. The best part of the multi-page article are the fantastic mid-century illustrations by Dana Rasmussen, featuring a well-dressed judo expert who looks like he might work with Don Draper when he isn’t throwing ruffians over his shoulder. Even the “thug” in the article is pretty dapper, proving once again that everything was just swankier back in the day — even the bad guys. Below you’ll find step-by-step illustrated instructions on how to defend yourself from chokes, bear hugs, kicks, and knife attacks when you’re unarmed, all while still looking incredibly handsome.
Enjoy. 10 Simple Practices That Will Help You Get 1% Better Every Single Day. Implementation Intentions: A Powerful Formula for Success. If you’re like many men across the world, you probably set some new goals for yourself on January 1.
Maybe it was to work out regularly or get into the reading habit. Drunk Personality and Behavior: Is This the Real You? Editor’s Note: This article was first published on March 9, 2017.
Sometimes, the “good” version of you — the one that successfully holds down a job, keeps a relationship together and maintains a semblance of a normal life — is eclipsed by a different one: Enter Drunk You. This is the you that thinks eight cheeseburgers is a reasonable dinner; that sees a fistfight as a valid response to being bumped into; that thinks, hey, it’s really important that I tell my much-more-sober boss every detail of the last 10 years of my sex life. Drunk You is the you that tries to loudly undo all the good that Sober You does, a rampaging super-nemesis hellbent on your destruction. But as the ancient expression goes, In vino veritas — “in wine, truth.” Is, as some people believe, Drunk You just the real you, let loose from their cage by the inhibition-squashing effects of alcohol?
The 6 Types of Grit (And How to Develop Them) We all want to be better than we are today.
And that often requires pushing yourself beyond your comfort zone, even when you don’t feel like it. It requires getting back up and trying again and again when you fail. It requires sticking with a path long enough to see it through. In short, becoming a better man requires grit. The concept of grit has become well-known in recent years, due to the efforts of psychologist Angela Duckworth, who has spent her career trying to figure out what makes people gritty and how they can intentionally foster and nurture this quality in their own lives.
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