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"You are born alone. You die alone. The value of the space in between is trust and love. That is why geometrically speaking the circle is a one. Everything comes to you from the other. You have to be able to reach the other. If not you are alone…" - Louise Bourgeois

Escape from Loneliness: Is Living Alone the Unlikely Answer? The Real Reason Smart People Tend To Be Loners. People with high intelligence proved to be a fascinating exception to the usual rule.

The Real Reason Smart People Tend To Be Loners

The more that intelligent people socialise with their friends, the less satisfied they are with life, new research finds. The finding challenges the accepted idea that socialising generally makes people happier. It may be that for some people — especially those with high intelligence — socialising does not increase life satisfaction. The possible reason why is intriguing… The long-term study followed adults aged between 18 and 28-years-old. It looked at the density of the population and people’s satisfaction with life. The results showed that, in general, people who lived in less densely populated areas were more satisfied with life. As the authors themselves explain: “Residents of rural areas and small towns are happier than those in suburbs, who in turn are happier than those in small central cities, who in turn are happier than those in large central cities.”

Arm face image from Shutterstock Related articles: Is It Solitude or Loneliness?: 4 Questions to Help You Tell. How loneliness affects your brain. Lonely people quickly move to the edges of social networks — here’s why.

How loneliness affects your brain

Loneliness makes the areas of the brain that are vigilant for threat more active, a new study finds. This can make people who are socially isolated more abrasive and defensive — it’s a form of self-preservation. This may be why lonely people can get marginalised. Professor John Cacioppo, an expert on loneliness, speaking about an earlier study on the marginalisation of the lonely, said: “We detected an extraordinary pattern of contagion that leads people to be moved to the edge of the social network when they become lonely.On the periphery people have fewer friends, yet their loneliness leads them to losing the few ties they have left.These reinforcing effects mean that our social fabric can fray at the edges, like a yarn that comes loose at the end of a crocheted sweater.”

The new research, conducted by Professor Cacioppo and colleagues, compared the brains of lonely and non-lonely people. 4 Disorders that May Thrive on Loneliness. Identifying and diagnosing a mental health issue is never an easy process.

4 Disorders that May Thrive on Loneliness

Most mental health struggles do not take place in isolation, and many of us have negative thought or mood tendencies that, while challenging, do not qualify as a disorder. As a relationship coach, I’ve found that loneliness is one of the tendencies that often come along with a diagnosed mental health disorder. While correlation is not causation, it seems that loneliness could be more of a cause than a symptom in some of our commonly recognized mental health issues. Human closeness is fundamental to our mental well-being; without it, any number of pathologies can plague us. The loneliness that arises from a lack of human closeness could easily bring about a variety of presenting problems. Here are four recognized mental health disorders that may spring from, or be exacerbated by, loneliness: Depression Loneliness and depression have always gone hand-in-hand. . © Kira Asatryan. Tchaikovsky on Depression and Finding Beauty Amid the Wreckage of the Soul.

By Maria Popova “An artist needs a certain amount of turmoil and confusion,” Joni Mitchell once told an interviewer.

Tchaikovsky on Depression and Finding Beauty Amid the Wreckage of the Soul

Indeed, the history of the arts is the history of the complex relationship between creativity and mental illness. But while psychologists have found that a low dose of melancholy enhances creativity, its clinical extreme in depression can be creatively debilitating. Few artists have walked that fine line with more tenacity and self-awareness than the great Russian composer Pyotr Ilyich Tchaikovsky (May 7, 1840–November 6, 1893). In a letter from the spring of 1870, shortly after his thirtieth birthday, Tchaikovsky writes: Artist Louise Bourgeois on How Solitude Enriches Creative Work. “Nourish yourself with grand and austere ideas of beauty that feed the soul… Seek solitude,” young Delacroix counseled himself in 1824.

Artist Louise Bourgeois on How Solitude Enriches Creative Work

Keats saw solitude as a sublime conduit to truth and beauty. Elizabeth Bishop believed that everyone should experience at least one prolonged period of solitude in life. Even if we don’t take so extreme a view as artist Agnes Martin’s assertion that “the best things in life happen to you when you’re alone,” one thing is certain: Our capacity for what psychoanalyst Adam Phillips has termed “fertile solitude” is absolutely essential not only for our creativity but for the basic fabric of our happiness — without time and space unburdened from external input and social strain, we’d be unable to fully inhabit our interior life, which is the raw material of all art.

After the tremendous effort you put in here, solitude, even prolonged solitude, can only be of very great benefit. A few months later, Bourgeois reiterates her counsel: You are born alone. Introverts, extroverts, ambiverts. Smartphones. 10 Things to Try When You’re Feeling Lonely. Why Love Is Not the Cure for Loneliness. Loneliness Has an Antidote. You’ll Never Guess What It Is.

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