Give childhood back to children: if we want our offspring to have happy, productive and moral lives, we must allow more time for play, not less - Comment - VoicesThe real problems I’ve faced in life include physical ones (such as how to operate a newfangled machine at work or unblock the toilet at home), social ones (how to get that perfect woman to be interested in me), moral ones (whether to give a passing grade to a student, for effort, though he failed all the tests), and emotional ones (coping with grief when my first wife died or keeping my head when I fell through the ice while pond skating). Most problems in life cannot be solved with formulae or memorised answers of the type learnt in school. They require the judgement, wisdom and creative ability that come from life experiences. For children, those experiences are embedded in play. I’m lucky. I grew up in the United States in the 1950s, at the tail end of what the historian Howard Chudacoff refers to as the “golden age” of children’s free play.
Successful women know only too well that in any male-dominated profession, we often find ourselves at a distinct disadvantage. We are routinely underestimated, underutilized, and even underpaid. Studies show that women need to perform at extraordinarily high levels, just to appear moderately competent compared to our male coworkers.
The Guys' Guide to Seeing Women, Not Objects Most of our research and nonprofit efforts center on teaching girls and women to take their power back in the face of a degrading and objectifying culture that values physical ideals above all else. This post is about the flipside of that same issue: How men and boys can take their power back. Men’s power has been taken away from them by the ever-perpetuated idea that males are helpless, weak, and hopeless in the fight to see women as humans and not as a collection of body parts to be ogled.
Psychologist Robert Epstein spoke to Psychology Today's Hara Estroff Marano about the legal and emotional constraints on American youth. HEM : Why do you believe that adolescence is an artificial extension of childhood ? RE : In every mammalian species, immediately upon reaching puberty, animals function as adults, often having offspring. We call our offspring "children" well past puberty. The trend started a hundred years ago and now extends childhood well into the 20s. Trashing Teens
If you have ever experienced an emotional response simply by watching someone you love in action, I’ve got six words for you. Very rarely does one sentence have immediate impact on me. Very rarely does one sentence change the way I interact with my family. But this one did. Six Words You Should Say Today | Hands Free Mama
Why parents should leave their kids alone
Warning signs When a college freshman received a C- on her first test, she literally had a meltdown in class. Sobbing, she texted her mother who called back, demanding to talk to the professor immediately (he, of course, declined). Mickey Goodman: Are We Raising a Generation of Helpless Kids?
Each minute of every day, we are presented with a choice on how we spend our moments. We can either miss the moments or grasp them. This photo was taken at a time in my life when I was missing the moments and in doing so, I was missing more than life. By sharing my own painful truths when it comes to the distractions of the modern age, I have gained an unexpected insight. In the 18 months this blog has existed, I have been privy to a new distraction confession every single day. How to Miss a Childhood | Hands Free Mama
Busy Kids = Happy Mom: Life Lessons for My Sons - notes from mom My list of life lessons I want to teach my children. 1. Don’t let a day go by without doing something for someone else. It’s as easy as holding the door for someone. It makes them happy and makes you happy too.2.
Mickey Goodman: Are We Raising a Generation of Helpless Kids?
Glennon Melton: Don't Carpe Diem Every time I'm out with my kids -- this seems to happen: An older woman stops us, puts her hand over her heart and says something like, "Oh, Enjoy every moment. This time goes by so fast." Everywhere I go, someone is telling me to seize the moment, raise my awareness, be happy, enjoy every second, etc, etc, etc. I know that this message is right and good. But, I have finally allowed myself to admit that it just doesn't work for me.
I think it's easy to make things more complicated than they need to be. Here are some basic rules of the relationship road that will keep you headed in the right direction 1. Successful relationships take work. They don't happen in a vacuum. They occur when the couples in them take the risk of sharing what it is that's going on in their hearts and heads.
You just broke your child. Congratulations. Dads. Stop breaking your children. Please.
Memoirs of a Bullied Kid | Single Dad Laughing Just to warn you, some of the things I am going to share with you today may make you uncomfortable, but the truth is often just that. Uncomfortable. Perhaps the only image that needs to be shared in this discussion is this one, scanned in from my seventh grade yearbook. It was in 1993, and I’ll never forget the haste with which I permanently disfigured my own photo so that those in my future would never be able to see that hideous, fat loser from my past. The image above is just one small symptom of a much larger problem, “bullying”. The recent news events about the drastic and tragic bullying going on have caused me to pause and lend incommodious thought to my younger years.
Is Crying it Out Dangerous for Kids? | Parenting Is crying it out hurting your child?If the link between parent and child is strong enough that kids can "catch" their parents' stress, it may stand to reason that babies crave the physical connection that comes with a cuddle. It's something that plenty of parents are more than happy to provide during the day but, when it comes to bedtime, the modern emphasis has been on teaching good sleep habits -- and giving mom and dad a break. Most sleep-deprived parents get to the point where they're willing to try almost anything in order to get a good night's rest. While some decry it as cruel, others have had success with the "cry it out" method -- teaching babies to "self-soothe" by letting their nighttime crying go unanswered. But is "crying it out" about establishing independence?