We Need to Talk About Women Who Regret Motherhood. Recommended by Tracy Moore Bra Company May Finally Have Your Boobs Figured Out You've Been Pooping All Wrong We Need to Talk About Women Who Regret Motherhood Over 22 Years Old?
Men Find You Less and Less Attractive Every Day. What Former Sluts Tell Their Daughters About Sex Your Boobs Are Poised for a Major Breakthrough Out With the Old, In With the New How to Get Over an Ex By Obsessing About Them Even More Dear Men: Having a Daughter Does Not Make You a Girl Expert You Prefer to Date Fat Guys So You Don't Feel So Bad About Yourself Trying to Change Your Regional Accent Is Practically Impossible $90 Slim Engagement Box Solves Marriage Crisis This Woman's Photos Could Be Your Life Conditions Which Must Be Met for Simultaneous Orgasm The Holderness Family's Viral Rap Videos Must Be Stopped Woman 'Lives by Hormones' for a Month, Achieves Perfection How to Make Your Wedding Vows More Realistic Just Because His Name Is Sexy Doesn't Mean He Is Fair-Skinned People Are FINALLY Beginning to Embrace Being Pale. Momentum Optimization Project: Summertime edition. First of all, thanks to everyone who has visited and taken time to comment on the Momentum Optimization Project.
I’m absolutely gobsmacked by the response–I guess all my friends who saw our List on the kitchen wall and commented that I really ought to share it were on to something. Enough readers were wondering what I was planning for the summer to put a fire under my ass to make a summer plan. Summer is a really busy time for me, work wise, as the books I work on tend to go into production in the spring and they’re always late by May, which means I spend much of June and July trying to catch up. It’s also my favorite time of year to be not working–my little sleepy neighborhood comes to life in the summer, with the beach and the seasonal restaurants and music and tons of events.
So my goal in the summer is just to get the entire work day done as early as possible–I get up in the wee, wee hours, around 4:30, and work until lunchtime. Here’s the revised List for this summer: Like this: How I limited screen time by offering my kids unlimited screen time. As a freelancer who makes her own hours, I’ve learned a few things about personal momentum.
I’m a morning person, and my peak productive time is before 10:00am. If I start my day by sitting at the desk at, say, 5:00am, and digging in on actual work, I’ll keep going all day. If I start the day by, say, cleaning the kitchen or folding laundry or phaffing about on the interwebs, I’m in trouble. And if, God forbid, I sit on the couch and flip on The Today Show, all bets are off; I’m not moving until bedtime. I think of it as Newton’s Law of Personal Momentum, for I am an object that will either stay at rest or stay in motion, based on where I am at 5:30 am. My kids are the same way. So, I stopped arguing. Which brings me to the Momentum Optimization Project (MOP), or it is more commonly referred to in my house, The List.
The List is simple, it’s short, and in a six month trial at my house, it has shown promising results. They’re rules. [[A quick note on comics]] No compromises. Yup. Like this: Give childhood back to children: if we want our offspring to have happy, productive and moral lives, we must allow more time for play, not less - Comment - Voices. The real problems I’ve faced in life include physical ones (such as how to operate a newfangled machine at work or unblock the toilet at home), social ones (how to get that perfect woman to be interested in me), moral ones (whether to give a passing grade to a student, for effort, though he failed all the tests), and emotional ones (coping with grief when my first wife died or keeping my head when I fell through the ice while pond skating).
Most problems in life cannot be solved with formulae or memorised answers of the type learnt in school. They require the judgement, wisdom and creative ability that come from life experiences. For children, those experiences are embedded in play. I’m lucky. I grew up in the United States in the 1950s, at the tail end of what the historian Howard Chudacoff refers to as the “golden age” of children’s free play. Educators in East Asian nations have increasingly been acknowledging the massive failure of their educational systems. Loading gallery 1 of 50. The Trouble With Bright Girls. Successful women know only too well that in any male-dominated profession, we often find ourselves at a distinct disadvantage.
We are routinely underestimated, underutilized, and even underpaid. Studies show that women need to perform at extraordinarily high levels, just to appear moderately competent compared to our male coworkers. But in my experience, smart and talented women rarely realize that one of the toughest hurdles they'll have to overcome to be successful lies within. We judge our own abilities not only more harshly, but fundamentally differently, than men do. Understanding why we do it is the first step to righting a terrible wrong. Chances are good that if you are a successful professional today, you were a pretty bright fifth grade girl. She found that bright girls, when given something to learn that was particularly foreign or complex, were quick to give up--and the higher the girls' IQ, the more likely they were to throw in the towel. Why does this happen? The Guys' Guide to Seeing Women, Not Objects. Most of our research and nonprofit efforts center on teaching girls and women to take their power back in the face of a degrading and objectifying culture that values physical ideals above all else.
This post is about the flipside of that same issue: How men and boys can take their power back. Men’s power has been taken away from them by the ever-perpetuated idea that males are helpless, weak, and hopeless in the fight to see women as humans and not as a collection of body parts to be ogled. This is a lie. The following post comes from blogger Nate Pyle, who shares our views on the harms of viewing females as merely bodies, and blogged about his plans for a future chat with his young son about the issue. These are his words: Someday I am going to have to have the conversation with my son. “Hey, come here.
A lot of people will try and tell you that a woman should watch how she dresses so she doesn’t tempt you to look at her wrongly. Look right at me. You are more than that. Trashing Teens. The whole culture collaborates in artificially extending childhood, primarily through the school system and restrictions on labor.
The two systems evolved together in the late 19th-century; the advocates of compulsory-education laws also pushed for child-labor laws, restricting the ways young people could work, in part to protect them from the abuses of the new factories. The juvenile justice system came into being at the same time. All of these systems isolate teens from adults, often in problematic ways.
Our current education system was created in the late 1800s and early 1900s, and was modeled after the new factories of the industrial revolution. Public schools, set up to supply the factories with a skilled labor force, crammed education into a relatively small number of years. The factory system doesn't work in the modern world, because two years after graduation, whatever you learned is out of date. What are some likely consequences of extending one's childhood? What can be done? Six Words You Should Say Today. If you have ever experienced an emotional response simply by watching someone you love in action, I’ve got six words for you.
Very rarely does one sentence have immediate impact on me. Very rarely does one sentence change the way I interact with my family. But this one did. It was not from Henry Thoreau or some renowned child psychologist. It was a comment from kids themselves. Here are the words that changed it all: “… College athletes were asked what their parents said that made them feel great, that amplified their joy during and after a ballgame. The life-changing sentence came at the beginning of an article entitled, “What Makes a Nightmare Sports Parent and What Makes a Great One” which described powerful insights gathered over three decades by Bruce E. I read it exactly five times. Upon completion of a swim meet, a music recital, a school musical, or even a Sunday afternoon soccer game, had I ever said, “I like to watch you play”?
Well, I would soon find out. Oh my. It was time. Why parents should leave their kids alone. Mickey Goodman: Are We Raising a Generation of Helpless Kids? Warning signs When a college freshman received a C- on her first test, she literally had a meltdown in class.
Sobbing, she texted her mother who called back, demanding to talk to the professor immediately (he, of course, declined). Another mother accompanied her child on a job interview, then wondered why he didn't get the job. A major employer reported that during a job interview, a potential employee told him that she would have his job within 18 months. It didn't even cross her mind that he had worked 20 years to achieve his goal. Sound crazy? Tim Elmore with Young Gen Y Students (photo courtesy Tim Elmore) Sadly, the stories are all true, says Tim Elmore, founder and president of a non-profit, Growing Leaders, and author of the "Habitudes®" series of books, teacher guides, DVD kits and survey courses.
Older Gen Y Kids Demonstrate to Tim Elmore How to Dress the Part (Photo courtesy Tim Elmore) That led to an obsession with their children's safety in every aspect of their lives. 1. How to Miss a Childhood. Each minute of every day, we are presented with a choice on how we spend our moments.
We can either miss the moments or grasp them. This photo was taken at a time in my life when I was missing the moments and in doing so, I was missing more than life. By sharing my own painful truths when it comes to the distractions of the modern age, I have gained an unexpected insight. In the 18 months this blog has existed, I have been privy to a new distraction confession every single day. Up until now, I never knew what to do with this unusual collection of painful admissions from an overly connected society. It came as a message in my inbox after the woman read my post “The Children Have Spoken” which included heart-breaking observations from children themselves about their parents’ excessive phone use. As soon as I read the first sentence of the caregiver’s email, I knew this message was different than any I had ever received.
*Read email and text messages at stoplights. . • Overwhelming regret. Busy Kids = Happy Mom: Life Lessons for My Sons - notes from mom. My list of life lessons I want to teach my children. 1. Don’t let a day go by without doing something for someone else. It’s as easy as holding the door for someone. It makes them happy and makes you happy too.2. When you’re in your twenties – you’re still learning and growing. You’ll understand in your 30′s.3. Dear Boys, I can’t believe I left this one off….
YOU are loved unconditionally! Of all the boys in the world, I’m glad God gave me YOU to be my sons! Love, Mom A friend shared this with me “You need to teach your daughters to distinguish between a man who flatters her – and a man who compliments her. Kristen @ Busy Kids = Happy Mom Kristen’s background is in elementary education, crafts and raising boys! Mickey Goodman: Are We Raising a Generation of Helpless Kids? Glennon Melton: Don't Carpe Diem. Every time I'm out with my kids -- this seems to happen: An older woman stops us, puts her hand over her heart and says something like, "Oh, Enjoy every moment.
This time goes by so fast. " Everywhere I go, someone is telling me to seize the moment, raise my awareness, be happy, enjoy every second, etc, etc, etc. I know that this message is right and good. But, I have finally allowed myself to admit that it just doesn't work for me. I think parenting young children (and old ones, I've heard) is a little like climbing Mount Everest. And so I think that if there were people stationed, say, every thirty feet along Mount Everest yelling to the climbers -- "ARE YOU ENJOYING YOURSELF!? Now. That's not exactly what I wanted to say, though. There was a famous writer who, when asked if he loved writing, replied, "No. but I love having written. " I love having written. Every time I write a post like this, I get emails suggesting that I'm being negative.
Craig is a software salesman. 10 Truths To Keep Your Relationship Healthy. I think it's easy to make things more complicated than they need to be. Here are some basic rules of the relationship road that will keep you headed in the right direction 1. Successful relationships take work. They don't happen in a vacuum. They occur when the couples in them take the risk of sharing what it is that's going on in their hearts and heads. 2. 3. 4. 5. 6. 7. 8. 9. 10. There are no guarantees, but couples who practice these techniques have longer and stronger relationships than those who are not proactive in their love. Dr. You just broke your child. Congratulations. Dads. Stop breaking your children. Please. I feel a need to write this post after what I witnessed at Costco yesterday. Forgive me for another post written in desperation and anger. Please read all the way to the end. As Noah and I stood in line to make a return, I watched as a little boy (he couldn’t have been older than six) looked up at his dad and asked very timidly if they could buy some ice cream when they were done.
The line slowly progressed and the child eventually shuffled back to his father as he quietly hummed a childish tune, seemingly having forgotten the anger his father had just shown. I was agitated. We were three from the front now, and the boy started to come towards his dad yet again. And we wonder why so many of our kids grow up to be screwed up.
I’m going to be blunt. Damn it. [sigh] I am far from a perfect dad. Memoirs of a Bullied Kid. Just to warn you, some of the things I am going to share with you today may make you uncomfortable, but the truth is often just that. Uncomfortable. Perhaps the only image that needs to be shared in this discussion is this one, scanned in from my seventh grade yearbook. It was in 1993, and I’ll never forget the haste with which I permanently disfigured my own photo so that those in my future would never be able to see that hideous, fat loser from my past. The image above is just one small symptom of a much larger problem, “bullying”. The recent news events about the drastic and tragic bullying going on have caused me to pause and lend incommodious thought to my younger years. Forgive the length of this post, but a real discussion about bullying is not something that can take place over a few paragraphs.
I’m sure your heart has raced, again and again, as you watch and read of these horrible events going on around us. No part of me wants to write this. I was bullied. One teachers approach to preventing gender bullying in a classroom. Is Crying it Out Dangerous for Kids?