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We Need to Talk About Women Who Regret Motherhood. Momentum Optimization Project: Summertime edition. How I limited screen time by offering my kids unlimited screen time. As a freelancer who makes her own hours, I’ve learned a few things about personal momentum.

How I limited screen time by offering my kids unlimited screen time.

I’m a morning person, and my peak productive time is before 10:00am. If I start my day by sitting at the desk at, say, 5:00am, and digging in on actual work, I’ll keep going all day. If I start the day by, say, cleaning the kitchen or folding laundry or phaffing about on the interwebs, I’m in trouble. And if, God forbid, I sit on the couch and flip on The Today Show, all bets are off; I’m not moving until bedtime. I think of it as Newton’s Law of Personal Momentum, for I am an object that will either stay at rest or stay in motion, based on where I am at 5:30 am. Give childhood back to children: if we want our offspring to have happy, productive and moral lives, we must allow more time for play, not less - Comment - Voices.

The real problems I’ve faced in life include physical ones (such as how to operate a newfangled machine at work or unblock the toilet at home), social ones (how to get that perfect woman to be interested in me), moral ones (whether to give a passing grade to a student, for effort, though he failed all the tests), and emotional ones (coping with grief when my first wife died or keeping my head when I fell through the ice while pond skating).

Give childhood back to children: if we want our offspring to have happy, productive and moral lives, we must allow more time for play, not less - Comment - Voices

Most problems in life cannot be solved with formulae or memorised answers of the type learnt in school. They require the judgement, wisdom and creative ability that come from life experiences. For children, those experiences are embedded in play. I’m lucky. I grew up in the United States in the 1950s, at the tail end of what the historian Howard Chudacoff refers to as the “golden age” of children’s free play. Educators in East Asian nations have increasingly been acknowledging the massive failure of their educational systems.

Loading gallery 1 of 50. The Trouble With Bright Girls. Successful women know only too well that in any male-dominated profession, we often find ourselves at a distinct disadvantage.

The Trouble With Bright Girls

We are routinely underestimated, underutilized, and even underpaid. Studies show that women need to perform at extraordinarily high levels, just to appear moderately competent compared to our male coworkers. The Guys' Guide to Seeing Women, Not Objects. Most of our research and nonprofit efforts center on teaching girls and women to take their power back in the face of a degrading and objectifying culture that values physical ideals above all else.

The Guys' Guide to Seeing Women, Not Objects

This post is about the flipside of that same issue: How men and boys can take their power back. Men’s power has been taken away from them by the ever-perpetuated idea that males are helpless, weak, and hopeless in the fight to see women as humans and not as a collection of body parts to be ogled. Trashing Teens. The whole culture collaborates in artificially extending childhood, primarily through the school system and restrictions on labor.

Trashing Teens

The two systems evolved together in the late 19th-century; the advocates of compulsory-education laws also pushed for child-labor laws, restricting the ways young people could work, in part to protect them from the abuses of the new factories. The juvenile justice system came into being at the same time. All of these systems isolate teens from adults, often in problematic ways. Our current education system was created in the late 1800s and early 1900s, and was modeled after the new factories of the industrial revolution. Six Words You Should Say Today. If you have ever experienced an emotional response simply by watching someone you love in action, I’ve got six words for you.

Six Words You Should Say Today

Why parents should leave their kids alone. Mickey Goodman: Are We Raising a Generation of Helpless Kids? Warning signs When a college freshman received a C- on her first test, she literally had a meltdown in class.

Mickey Goodman: Are We Raising a Generation of Helpless Kids?

Sobbing, she texted her mother who called back, demanding to talk to the professor immediately (he, of course, declined). Another mother accompanied her child on a job interview, then wondered why he didn't get the job. A major employer reported that during a job interview, a potential employee told him that she would have his job within 18 months. It didn't even cross her mind that he had worked 20 years to achieve his goal. Sound crazy? Tim Elmore with Young Gen Y Students (photo courtesy Tim Elmore) Sadly, the stories are all true, says Tim Elmore, founder and president of a non-profit, Growing Leaders, and author of the "Habitudes®" series of books, teacher guides, DVD kits and survey courses. Older Gen Y Kids Demonstrate to Tim Elmore How to Dress the Part (Photo courtesy Tim Elmore) How to Miss a Childhood. Busy Kids = Happy Mom: Life Lessons for My Sons - notes from mom.

Mickey Goodman: Are We Raising a Generation of Helpless Kids? Glennon Melton: Don't Carpe Diem. Every time I'm out with my kids -- this seems to happen: An older woman stops us, puts her hand over her heart and says something like, "Oh, Enjoy every moment.

Glennon Melton: Don't Carpe Diem

This time goes by so fast. " Everywhere I go, someone is telling me to seize the moment, raise my awareness, be happy, enjoy every second, etc, etc, etc. 10 Truths To Keep Your Relationship Healthy. I think it's easy to make things more complicated than they need to be. Here are some basic rules of the relationship road that will keep you headed in the right direction 1.

Successful relationships take work. They don't happen in a vacuum. They occur when the couples in them take the risk of sharing what it is that's going on in their hearts and heads. You just broke your child. Congratulations. En Español Dads.

You just broke your child. Congratulations.

Stop breaking your children. Please. Memoirs of a Bullied Kid. Just to warn you, some of the things I am going to share with you today may make you uncomfortable, but the truth is often just that.

Memoirs of a Bullied Kid

Uncomfortable. Perhaps the only image that needs to be shared in this discussion is this one, scanned in from my seventh grade yearbook. It was in 1993, and I’ll never forget the haste with which I permanently disfigured my own photo so that those in my future would never be able to see that hideous, fat loser from my past. The image above is just one small symptom of a much larger problem, “bullying”. The recent news events about the drastic and tragic bullying going on have caused me to pause and lend incommodious thought to my younger years. One teachers approach to preventing gender bullying in a classroom.

Is Crying it Out Dangerous for Kids? Is crying it out hurting your child? If the link between parent and child is strong enough that kids can "catch" their parents' stress, it may stand to reason that babies crave the physical connection that comes with a cuddle. It's something that plenty of parents are more than happy to provide during the day but, when it comes to bedtime, the modern emphasis has been on teaching good sleep habits -- and giving mom and dad a break. Most sleep-deprived parents get to the point where they're willing to try almost anything in order to get a good night's rest.