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Candy House Blog. Encouraging Children to Listen: 3 Steps to Avoid Yelling. The other evening, dinner was approaching.

Encouraging Children to Listen: 3 Steps to Avoid Yelling

I poked my head out of the kitchen and asked ever so cheerfully for my children to put away their books and toys and start getting ready for dinner. “Uhm…uhm..” Was the general answer but I saw no real action. My request was…ignored. When children don’t listen (and by listen we usually mean cooperate or comply) it can be a button pushing moment. Three Steps To Encourage Children To Listen 1. When children don’t listen, being calm and confident can take extra effort, but really it is the key to getting kids to listen. 2. Having a request ignored can be a big trigger for power struggles, yelling and conflicts. Is it all that bad to cheerfully (or at times, not so cheerfully) make a request from the kitchen? Connecting first might sound like: “Hi there, so, how is that book going, you seem to be really into it?” “Hey, wow, can I know the story here with all these elephants and crocodiles?” 3. Can all be a bit unclear. “It’s time to wash hands. Ariadne.

Imperfect Families - Nicole Schwarz, Parent Coaching and Child Counseling in St. Louis, MO. When Mom Wears a Dress. “She is clothed with strength and dignity; she can laugh at the days to come,” (Proverbs 31:25).

When Mom Wears a Dress

I slid open my closet door and surveyed the options. Black pants, khaki pants, gray pants, Capri pants. Hmmm… what to wear to church? Shuffling aside a few hangers, I spied a pink summer dress stuffed between a pair of corduroys and an old cardigan. Best-Selling Parenting and Children's Book Author. Parenting Self-Government.

35 Things I Hope My Kids Will Say About Me Someday. I have been making calendars for my grandparents and parents since 1998.

35 Things I Hope My Kids Will Say About Me Someday

The last time we visited, Old Grandma got out the first couple for Joe to see. One of the earliest ones had a poem in it, one line per month. It went something like this: What Elementary Age Boys Need Most from Their Parents. - Monica Swanson. In my recent post “What a Teenage boy needs most from his Mom,” I confessed that the teen years are my favorite.

What Elementary Age Boys Need Most from Their Parents. - Monica Swanson

I love my teen boys, and the glimpses of manhood mixed with occasional remnants of boyhood that I see in them. The teens years are what I call my reward for all of the hard work that came in the younger years. So, what about those younger years? Many people have commented and emailed asking “What are some things you suggest we do BEFORE they are teens?” A good question indeed. Because really, if you haven’t built a relationship of love and respect with your son when he is young, everything will be much harder when they hit their teenage years. So, let’s dive in to the earlier years…One stage at a time. ***For the sake of non-US citizens and us home school families who never know what grade we are in: “elementary years” refer to the ages of approximately 5 to 10 years old. :)*** However, as far as our role as Mom and Dad go during the Elementary years…It’s a big job. 1. 2. 3. 4.

SAY WHAT YOU SEE Handbook - 2012 NAPPA Gold Winner! Who says children don’t come with handbooks?

SAY WHAT YOU SEE Handbook - 2012 NAPPA Gold Winner!

Million Readers Campaign: Current total 2872 Our intention in putting the original handbook online to read free with PC or Mac is to make it available to parents and teachers around the world so that children everywhere are heard and understood, can see their inner strengths, and can experience their full potential.

A million readers will go a long way towards accomplishing that goal! (Total is updated every couple of months, so tell your friends and watch it grow exponentially!) Language of Listening® Parent Training. Language of Listening® Parent Training. Would you like to be able to make sure things get done on time without rushing or over-managing your children?

Language of Listening® Parent Training

How about putting perfectionism aside and providing guidance without criticism or negative correction? Here are the 7 suggestions that I shared with readers of Rachel Macy Stafford’s powerful Hands Free Mama blog at her request in the comments section of her post “The Manager In My Home…” 1. CHECK IN WITH YOURSELF – For concerns about rushing, first check your own comfort level with schedules. Personally I hated them. Fast-forward to an adult in charge of time boundaries for my children, and you can see why I’d feel angry, upset and powerless when any deadline approached – regardless of the technique I tried for getting my kids out the door. 2.

To see what I mean, think of a boundary that is OK with you, like wearing clothes in public. Kids can tell the difference. 3. The Manager in My Home & the Five Words that Changed Everything. Every couple of weeks I patiently untangle the knots of strawberry-blonde hair that sit at the base of my child’s neck.

The Manager in My Home & the Five Words that Changed Everything

As I sat on the corner of the tub the other night gently loosening an especially stubborn clump while my daughter chattered about her day, I couldn’t stop the tears.