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The Catholic Gentleman. “Do you know what causes that?” “Wow, you have your hands full.” “You are done now, right?” “You’re overpopulating the planet!” “Are all of those yours?” Those are just a few of the things you’ll hear from complete strangers if you have more than the nationally approved average of 1.7 children. It really seems to boggle the mind of the average American that anyone would want more than 2 kids. Kids are awesome Forget what the culture says. It is such a joy to help a little life discover the world—to explore, to learn, to wonder at nearly everything. Fatherhood is sometimes terrifying, yes, but mostly, it is dizzyingly happy.

Of course, there are times of stress, and frustration, and sacrifice too. Arrows in the Hands of a Warrior One of the Psalms I’ve grown to love is Psalm 127. “Fatherhood itself is the Lord’s gift, the fruitful womb is a reward that comes from him. Did you catch that? In conclusion, don’t let the world steal the joy of fatherhood. Men, celebrate your children. Stuff Moms say: The Real Reason Motherhood Is So Hard. Motherhood. It's hard, but few understand why.

It's not the day to day tasks, really: caring for children, kissing boo boos, and all of that. It's the giving. The endless giving of yourself. You've never given so much in your life. You give until it hurts and then you give some more. You give until you're scraping the bottom of your giving well and then say to yourself, "I've given everything I have.

You give until it feels like you're cutting off pieces of yourself. You give until you become afraid that there won't be any of you left. You give the little treasures that you tucked far away with lock and a key. You give and give and give. You give at 3AM when you're so tired that you're hallucinating, walking into walls, and putting the remote in the freezer. You cry and scream "I have nothing left" and then you give some more. And then you keep giving while warm tears fall on your cheeks. That's what makes motherhood hard. Cry if you need to. Keep going. Keep giving. This is motherhood. To the mom that feels lost in motherhood - Finding Joy. No one told me that could happen. I think back to all the birthing classes and books and early busy busy years of motherhood and I don’t think that I ever had anyone tell me that it’s easy to lose me in the motherhood story. In fact, I think I was led to believe that the more I gave and the more that I said no and worked and achieved that the better mom I would become and that was the right and noble thing to do.

I get being a good mom. I really do. I get birthdays and streamers from the doorway and preschool and lunches with notes in the lunchbox and sometimes laughing and sometimes crying. I get motherhood. But somehow in that journey I faded just a bit. Not entirely, but a bit. And then then in the last couple of years as I’ve been jolted from normal and what I thought life was I had those times of looking in the mirror and the reflection looking back at me was a bit foreign.

It wasn’t like I intended to lose that bit of me in motherhood. It just happened. Year after year. The kids grew. 15 Things That Don't Define Motherhood - and the One Thing That Matters - Finding Joy. For real. Don’t let these fifteen things take away from your awesomeness. Enjoy. And remember – there is no perfect – just real. 1. Making Mistakes. We all make mistakes. Many of them. 2. 3. 4. 5. 6. 7. 8. 9. 10. 11. 12. 13. 14. 15. And the one thing that matters? Love your kids. Just love them. That matters most. ~Rachel. Mom's Plea: Please Don't Help My Kids | Alameda, CA Patch. Dear Other Parents At The Park: Please do not lift my daughters to the top of the ladder, especially after you’ve just heard me tell them I wasn’t going to do it for them and encourage them to try it themselves. I am not sitting here, 15 whole feet away from my kids, because I am too lazy to get up. I am sitting here because I didn’t bring them to the park so they could learn how to manipulate others into doing the hard work for them.

I brought them here so they could learn to do it themselves. They’re not here to be at the top of the ladder; they are here to learn to climb. If they can’t do it on their own, they will survive the disappointment. In the meantime, they can use the stairs. IKEA Offering Free Repair Kit For Products That Killed Two Children It is not my job — and it is certainly not yours — to prevent my children from feeling frustration, fear, or discomfort. If they get stuck, it is not my job to save them immediately. It is not my job to keep them from falling. Why being a mom is enough. I’m talking about simply being a mom. I’m talking about getting up in the morning, slapping your face with water, looking in the mirror, sighing, brushing your teeth (maybe), and picking up that toddler and wandering into the kitchen and pouring cereal in bowls, rinsing dishes, kissing the top of their head, and waiting for your coffee to brew.

There isn’t much glamour. There is you. You giving of yourself. Minute, by minute, by minute, by minute until those hours add up to create a day which adds up to create a week which adds up to create a month which adds up to create years which add up to create a life. Somehow in this mixed up media world of things to do and places to go and dreams to follow the beauty of simply being a mother is completely lost. Being a mom is enough. It’s enough, I say. Sometimes we want to look to those big things and use them as a grade for success. Do you know what matters? This. The other day my 15 year old came to me and told me she missed me. Little things. Maybe Your Two-Year Old Just Needs You. 7 Things to Ask Your Toddler at Bedtime | Stay At Home Susie. Ahhhh bedtime. It’s some parents worst struggle in the day. And many times I’m one of these struggling parents. It seems like Noella and Eli like to pull some crazy stunts at night, right when my exhaustion levels are kicking in high gear.

Anyone relate? However, I’m going to pull out a positive message here! Bedtime can be a time for connecting with your little one and also setting them up for a good night’s rest too. You can get their little minds flowing with positive questions and even get some giggles in before the end of the day. Check out my list and write a comment with anything you can think of! What was the most fun thing you did today? Who do you want to spend time with tomorrow? Can you think of one person we can help tomorrow? What would be the most yummy breakfast you could have in the morning? How many times do you think you smiled today? What kind of dream do you think you might have? Would you like to join me in a prayer? Positive Parents: 10 Things That Are More Important Than Discipline. Parenting is a very complex task. If we're not careful, we will become too focused on one aspect and let the others fall by the wayside. Many times, I see parents who are intently focused on discipline, and I'm talking about the traditional use of the word here with regard to modifying behavior.

Sometimes we get very caught up in "What do I do when... " or "How do I get my kid to... " and we lose sight of the bigger picture. The truth is that there are many things that are more important in shaping our children than the methods and techniques we use to modify their behavior. Here are 10 things that are more important than any method you choose, in no particular order. 1. In addition to that, our influence comes from a good relationship. 2. Also watch your tone and language. 3. The foundation of a happy family is a strong, loving relationship between the two of you. 4. 5. 6. 7. 8. 9. 10. “If I had my child to raise all over again, I’d build self-esteem first, and the house later.