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The One Thing Men Want More Than Sex. How To Slow Sex Down & Bring Sensuality Back To A Longterm Relationship. We’re always hearing that we could be having better sex, a better orgasm, or a better relationship.

How To Slow Sex Down & Bring Sensuality Back To A Longterm Relationship

But how often do we hear the nitty-gritty of how we can actually better understand our deepest desires and most embarrassing questions? Bustle has enlisted Vanessa Marin, a sex therapist, to help us out with the details. No gender, sexual orientation, or question is off limits, and all questions will remain anonymous. Please send your sex and relationship inquiries to tips@bustle.com. Now, onto this week’s topic: how to bring slow, sensual sex back into your long-term relationship. Q: My partner and I live together and are in a long-term committed relationship. One other thing — my partner doesn’t have nearly as high of a sex drive as I do. The Powerful Practice Of Eye Gazing. How Can I Heal From Sexual Trauma & Learn To Orgasm? Psalm Isadora is the top tantra expert in the world and a highly sought-after sexuality, relationship, and trauma expert specializing in women’s health and empowerment as well as modern sexual education.

How Can I Heal From Sexual Trauma & Learn To Orgasm?

In this weekly advice column, Psalm brings her expertise to sexual and relationship issues most people face at one time or another. If you want to ask Psalm your questions (anonymously), email relationships@mindbodygreen.com. Question: I have been a victim of traumatic sexual experiences and, while I am trying my best to move past my pain into a more pleasing and enriching life, I still struggle, especially with sexuality. At times I feel very sexy and attractive, but other times not so much. Esther Perel: The secret to desire in a long-term relationship.

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The Opposite of Addiction is Connection. Right now an exciting new perspective on addiction is emerging.

The Opposite of Addiction is Connection

Johann Harri, author of Chasing The Scream, recently captured widespread public interest with his Ted talk Everything You Know About Addiction Is Wrong, where he concluded with this powerful statement: The opposite of addiction is not sobriety. The opposite of addiction is connection. – Johann Harri These sentiments are augmented by a growing number of experts, including addiction specialist Dr Gabor Maté, who cites ’emotional loss and trauma’ as the core of addiction. Compare this ’emotional loss’ to Johan Harri’s idea about lack of connection and it is clear they’re talking about a similar emotional condition. Limbic Resonance. 36 Questions To Help You Fall In Love With Anyone. Asking thirty-six specific questions plus four minutes of sustained eye contact is a recipe for falling in love, or at least creating intimacy among complete strangers.

36 Questions To Help You Fall In Love With Anyone

Creating a close rapport between people who have just met is difficult, especially in laboratory conditions. But psychologist Arthur Aaron of Stony Brook University created a method for doing just this. Recently, the method was tested by writer Mandy Len Catron at the University of British Columbia in Vancouver. After finding Dr. Resolving The Intimacy-Desire Paradox: Is More Intimacy Better? Many couples fail to maintain sexual desire in their long-term relationships.

Resolving The Intimacy-Desire Paradox: Is More Intimacy Better?

Two people who once could not keep their hands off each other gradually lose interest in having sex, at least with their current partner. What distinguishes couples who experience passionate long-term relationships from those who fail to sustain the passion? What is Presence? - Psychosexual Somatics. January 9, 2017 What is Presence?

What is Presence? - Psychosexual Somatics

You hear it a lot in various new age, conscious sexuality or therapy worlds – it’s all about Presence. A woman wants her man to be Present. It’s by being Present that we allow the magic, and so on and so on. What's Sex Got To Do With Mindfulness? If mindfulness can make us happier, healthier, and more compassionate (that is, if the raft of current scientific research is to be believed), what can that same moment-to-moment awareness do for our sex lives?

What's Sex Got To Do With Mindfulness?

Imagine the possibilities. On the face of it, having enjoyable, loving sex seems like the last thing we might be inclined to tune out. But we all know the kind of mind-wandering that can strike even in the midst of great pleasures. From a mental replay of the staff meeting earlier in the day to obsessing about the final luscious peak of the sex you’re having in that very moment, in lovemaking, as in life, tuning out is a part of being human that’s very difficult to turn off. Do Women Want To Be Ravished? Do Women Want To Be Ravished?

Do Women Want To Be Ravished?

As a psychologist and couples counselor, I’ve been asked this question by men, women and couples for the last twenty plus years. Especially since the publication of “50 Shades of Grey” and the upcoming movie version, it’s an even more pressing question for many. Power of Polarity in a Relationship - What Makes Relationships Work? 8 Ways To Get Turned On And Be More In The Moment During Sex — Without Forcing Anything. We’re always hearing that we could be having better sex, a better orgasm, or a better relationship.

8 Ways To Get Turned On And Be More In The Moment During Sex — Without Forcing Anything

But how often do we hear the nitty-gritty of how we can actually better understand our deepest desires and most embarrassing questions? Bustle has enlisted Vanessa Marin, a sex therapist based in San Francisco, to help us out with the details. No gender, sexual orientation, or question is off-limits, and all questions will remain anonymous. Please send your sex and relationship inquiries to tips@bustle.com. Now, on to today’s topic: how to feel more turned on during sex. Q: I’d love some tips on how to get aroused and stay aroused during sex. 10 Erotic New Year's Resolutions For Those Bored With Sex. There is nothing more boring than people complaining about sexual boredom.

10 Erotic New Year's Resolutions For Those Bored With Sex

That is so ordinary, lackluster and, quite frankly, rather lazy. When we decide to actively nurture our sexuality, we are taking a stand for living a vibrant and pleasure filled life. Re-charging your sexuality takes big action and consistency. 7 ways to put the sexual spark back in your relationship. It happens to the best of couples. In the beginning, the two of you can’t keep your hands off each other. But over time, especially when life gets tough, that sexy spark can fizzle.

Getty Images stock Experts say there are ways to get the spark back, but first we need to "ditch the myth" that sex should always be spontaneous and easy. Kinsey Institute Researcher Explains Her Work on Love, Lust and the Brain. Perhaps it's no coincidence that it was during the post-romantic coda with Carroll, and her parallel romance, that Fisher formulated the threefold theory of human attraction that was the ruling insight of her 2004 book, Why We Love.

She proposed that lust is a simple craving, our impulse to seize the moment to reproduce; romantic love is a "euphoric madness" that impels us to identify and bond with a mating partner; and companionate attachment permits a union to flourish even after the romance is no longer so euphoric or mad—establishing an ornate connection to another living soul. In Why We Love, Fisher contends that our characteristically human pair-bonding instinct, so rare in the promiscuous and harem-riddled animal kingdom, is not a mere emotional impulse or social convention, but rather a deeply rooted need even stronger than our sex drive. As Fisher puts it, Who ever committed suicide just because they didn't get laid? In this day and age, why do we insist that "sex" still has to be penetrative? During a drunken conversation with a friend recently, she asked how many people I had slept with. I opened my mouth, about to divulge, when she chimed in again: "I mean full sex only.

Other stuff doesn't count. " The Real Reason so many long-term Relationships fail Sexually. Get elephant's newsletter A couple comes into my office seeking better sex. After we make the tea and settle into chairs, the man, often with a pained and baffled expression, inevitably says, “Ever since we had kids…” His wife shifts anxiously in her chair next to him.

Because she knows the end of her sentence: “Ever since we had kids… she doesn’t want to have sex with me anymore.” I understand because I am a mom. I have experienced the post-baby libido meltdown when my sex life crumbled. Erotic Touching: 13 Sexually Enhancing Conversations For Couples. Every sexual act is a journey into yourself and your partner. It’s a continual exploration of sensations, eroticism, and love. Each relationship is a vessel that embodies both security and adventure in a commitment that offers life’s greatest luxuries: time. Marriage is not the end of romance. It’s the beginning! You get years to deepen your connection, experiment, and even to fail and start over. Modern relationships are the melting pot of opposing feelings: safety and transcendence. But given sufficient attention, couples can bring the passion back. Willfully engaging in eroticism is an ongoing resistance to the message that marriage is serious; that it’s more work than play.

The feeling of passion floods the early days of a relationship. One of the largest playgrounds of the human body is our skin. But as I started exploring my partner’s entire body, I realized she had a really sensitive spot on her left leg right above her knee. Sexually Enlightened R&B Song. Tantra Is The Opposite Of Porn – Learning How To Actually Be Intimate – Collective Evolution. We're creating a positive news network. Give me a kiss to build a dream on — down to there. Casual Sex: Everyone Is Doing It. Zhana Vrangalova had hit a problem. The 5 Biggest Problems Sex Therapists Hear About From Couples. All sorts of problems can drive a couple to go to a sex therapist, but professionals tend to see certain issues come up time and time again. So, I asked sex therapists what the most common sexual problems they encounter are and how to deal with them.

According to Dr. How to Choose a Lover.