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WHAT? Origins of the word positivity. What it Really Means to Hold Space for Someone. Confrontation & Keeping Mouth Shut. HBITS. Adult children. Toxic People. How You Can Help Someone in a Controlling Relationship. By Lisa Aronson Fontes, PhD, Special to Everyday Health Do you have a friend or family member who is controlled by a spouse or partner — isolated, degraded, and micromanaged?

How You Can Help Someone in a Controlling Relationship

Whether or not the relationship includes physical violence, he or she may be a victim of a type of abuse that is called “coercive control.” It is hard to watch someone you care about suffer at the hands of a controlling partner or ex-partner. You may feel like rescuing the victim. You may feel like killing the abuser. Don’t give up. Isolation poses the greatest risk in coercive control. Controlling relationships have their ups and downs. However, there are some things you can do: Let the victim know your concerns in a nonjudgmental way. When loved ones are completely under their partners’ control, there may not be much we can do other than to stay connected and gently help them see those times when the abusers’ words and actions do not match. Confused about helping women abused by male partners? Stage 3.

STAGE 1 How to help women abused and controlled by male partnersSTAGE 2 Feeling bemused about helping women abused by male partnersSTAGE 3 Confused about helping women abused by male partners?

Confused about helping women abused by male partners? Stage 3

STAGE 4 Helping women who are refusing to be abusedSTAGE 5 Women mentally bruised by male partners: How to help When women start to develop a determination to prepare for seeking change it does not mean it becomes easy for friends and family to know how to support her. At this third stage in women’s process of making sense of one-sided power and control by a male partner, Dienemann and colleagues (2007) suggest women are considering change and looking at their options. Confusion is really starting to set in for women at this stage Being confused means women may stop blaming themselves, while at the same time still make excuses for their partner’s abuse, but start to realise he is choosing to do this to her as she has given him many opportunities to change and stop.

References: Burman, Sondra. (2003).


Confessions. 2012 Las Vegas, NV Interactive gallery installation in The Cosmopolitan that invites people to anonymously share their confessions and see the confessions of the people around them in the heart of the Las Vegas strip.


Amidst casinos, restaurants and bars, Chang invited passersby to write confessions on wooden plaques in the privacy of confession booths. Chang arranged the anonymous plaques on the gallery walls like a Shinto shrine prayer wall, painted select responses on 4’x4’ canvases, and orchestrated the space with an original score by Oliver Blank. The project explored the design of safe spaces for anonymity, vulnerability, understanding, and consolation. Inspired by Japanese Shinto shrines, Post Secret, and Catholicism. 2012, Las Vegas, NV. Recipes for Creativity, Soul Growth, Writing and Life… Einstein’s Secret to Amazing Problem Solving (and 10 Specific Ways You Can Use It) Einstein is quoted as having said that if he had one hour to save the world he would spend fifty-five minutes defining the problem and only five minutes finding the solution.

This quote does illustrate an important point: before jumping right into solving a problem, we should step back and invest time and effort to improve our understanding of it. Here are 10 strategies you can use to see problems from many different perspectives and master what is the most important step in problem solving: clearly defining the problem in the first place! The Problem Is To Know What the Problem Is. 6 Steps to Discover Your True Self. “Knowing yourself is the beginning of all wisdom.”

6 Steps to Discover Your True Self

―Aristotle To truly know yourself is the most important skill you can ever possess. The Ten Golden Rules on Living the Good Life. Kaizen. Kaizen (改善?)


, Japanese for "improvement" or "change for the best", refers to philosophy or practices that focus upon continuous improvement of processes in manufacturing, engineering, business management or any process. It has been applied in healthcare,[1] psychotherapy,[2] life-coaching, government, banking, and other industries. When used in the business sense and applied to the workplace, kaizen refers to activities that continually improve all functions, and involves all employees from the CEO to the assembly line workers. It also applies to processes, such as purchasing and logistics, that cross organizational boundaries into the supply chain.[3] By improving standardized activities and processes, kaizen aims to eliminate waste (see lean manufacturing).

Kaizen was first implemented in several Japanese businesses after the Second World War, influenced in part by American business and quality management teachers who visited the country. Overview[edit] History[edit] See also[edit] 5 Tibetans Energy Rejuvenation Exercises. We've been practicing, teaching and recommending the 5 Tibetan Energy Rejuvenation Exercises since 1998.

5 Tibetans Energy Rejuvenation Exercises

Print Version - Five Tibetan Rites. By Mary Kurus Copyright Mary Kurus 2001, All Rights Reserved Background In 1985 a book called The Ancient Secret of the Fountain of Youth written by Peter Kelder was published which for the first time fully described an exercise program for "youthing". This is an exercise program used by Tibetan monks to live long, vibrant and healthy lives. In fact, this book states that many have lived longer than most can imagine by following the program often called the "Five Tibetan Rites". Letters From the Gulag : Victim or Warrior? CHOOSE or Shut up. Few of you have understood when I have chided you for the use of the language of a victim.

Letters From the Gulag : Victim or Warrior? CHOOSE or Shut up.

Do you yet know the difference between a Victim and a Warrior? I had the discussion with Chris Shipler of Liberty's Thunder Radio fame, two plus years ago about his incessant victimhood language, which is self-defeating. Top 10 Traits That Separate A Warrior From A Victim. Boris Vallejo During my mental strength coaching over the past 5+ years I have observed certain traits that people exhibit.

Top 10 Traits That Separate A Warrior From A Victim

To generalize, they fall either into the “warrior” category, or the “victim” category.