The Importance of Holding Space. Photo by Patty Cousins “Holding space” is something we often first encounter in our yoga community.
It’s hard to describe. What it Really Means to Hold Space for Someone. When my Mom was dying, my siblings and I gathered to be with her in her final days.
None of us knew anything about supporting someone in her transition out of this life into the next, but we were pretty sure we wanted to keep her at home, so we did. While we supported Mom, we were, in turn, supported by a gifted palliative care nurse, Ann, who came every few days to care for Mom and to talk to us about what we could expect in the coming days. She taught us how to inject Mom with morphine when she became restless, she offered to do the difficult tasks (like giving Mom a bath), and she gave us only as much information as we needed about what to do with Mom’s body after her spirit had passed. The author with her mother. The Importance of Holding Space. Everything Doesn't Happen For A Reason — Tim Lawrence. I emerge from this conversation dumbfounded.
I've seen this a million times before, but it still gets me every time. I’m listening to a man tell a story. A woman he knows was in a devastating car accident; her life shattered in an instant. How People Learn to Become Resilient. Norman Garmezy, a developmental psychologist and clinician at the University of Minnesota, met thousands of children in his four decades of research.
But one boy in particular stuck with him. He was nine years old, with an alcoholic mother and an absent father. Each day, he would arrive at school with the exact same sandwich: two slices of bread with nothing in between. At home, there was no other food available, and no one to make any. This isn’t a Bucket List; it’s a F**k-it List. Life can end in an unpredictable instant.
The degree of separation between people is estimated to be around 4.74. This is why we’ve all heard about the friend of a friend who was murdered, the local car accident with multiple fatalities or the fire which ended the lives of several we knew in our community. 5 Facts Everyone Gets Wrong About Depression. I was diagnosed with clinical depression about two years ago.
Sadly, this didn't lead to me beginning a wacky romance with a free-spirited girl who taught me to embrace life and love myself for who I am. I just started taking prescription drugs, made a few lifestyle changes, and felt smugly justified about listening to Joy Division. Campus Suicide and the Pressure of Perfection. Photo Kathryn DeWitt conquered high school like a gold-medal decathlete.
She ran track, represented her school at a statewide girls’ leadership program and took eight Advanced Placement tests, including one for which she independently prepared, forgoing the class. The Silent Graduation: Depression & the Weight of Success. Photo by TyreeBP I recently graduated from the University of Southern California with my master’s degree in Professional Writing.
I wrote about my journey to getting accepted and the uncertainty that followed, but have been rather silent on the matter since then. Now that I’m on the other side, I feel compelled to speak publicly about my experiences through one of the most difficult times of my life. As the Facebook likes, cards, and congratulatory comments continue to roll in, I can’t help but to reflect on the pain that preceded this moment. After a few weeks of much needed rest and reflection, it is imperative that I share the side of success that no one likes to acknowledge. Guest opinion: Keep Calm and Parent On. By Adam Strassberg, M.D.
Two weeks ago, I had the privilege of being a lunchtime speaker during Career Week at Palo Alto High School. I love my profession, I have a son at Paly right now, and there is a severe national shortage of people who do what I do -- so I was excited to see nearly 150 students crowd into the hall. I am a psychiatrist. Specifically, I am a private practice outpatient adult psychiatrist in our local community. I studied and trained at Stanford and have spent the entirety of my near 20-year career practicing right here in Palo Alto. 8 Ways to Stop Over-Thinking and Find Peace in the Present Moment. We all do our best to stay positive, but occasionally we can slip into negative thinking patterns that can wreak havoc on our lives.
We might worry about our past mistakes or current stresses, and how these could lead to negative outcomes in the future. We might obsess about or over-analyze regular experiences and interactions, reading into them things that aren’t actually there. We might find that as soon as one bad thing happens, we associate it with all the other bad things that have happened in our lives and begin to feel miserable. We might feel anxious in the present, having a hard time getting out of our own heads as we worry and obsess about the things that could go wrong. Studies Link Social Anxiety To Empathetic Ability, High IQs, & Sentinel Intelligence. ?action=click&contentCollection=N.Y. Photo Life, Interrupted Suleika Jaouad writes about the challenges faced by young adults and her experiences with cancer.
“You are being deported,” a surgeon announced to me last fall. That’s a scary thing for a child of two immigrants to hear. Medicating Women’s Feelings. Photo WOMEN are moody. By evolutionary design, we are hard-wired to be sensitive to our environments, empathic to our children’s needs and intuitive of our partners’ intentions. This is basic to our survival and that of our offspring. Getting Grief Right. By the time Mary came to see me, six months after losing her daughter to sudden infant death syndrome, she had hired and fired two other therapists. She was trying to get her grief right. Mary was a successful accountant, a driven person who was unaccustomed to being weighed down by sorrow. She was also well versed in the so-called stages of grief: denial, anger, bargaining, depression and acceptance. 8 Signs You May Be an Outgoing Introvert.
There are introverts, extroverts, and then there’s you - falling somewhere in between. How Introverts Interact With The World Differently Than Extroverts. I think it’s easy to discount the differences between introverts and extroverts, but the differences are truly night and day. Psychologists have nailed down some of the clear differences that introverts display. “Shyness is about fear of social judgment,” Said Susan Cain in her 2012 TED Talk, The Power Of Introverts. “Introversion is more about how do you respond to stimulation, including social stimulation.
So extroverts really crave large amounts of stimulation, whereas introverts feel at their most alive and their most switched on and their most capable when they are in quieter, more low-key environments.” For starters, introverts simply shut down when they get their alone time. Interestingly enough, introverts hate talking on the phone. Self-Mutilation and Pharmacotherapy. The 5 Stages of Grief and Other Lies That Don't Help Anyone
Beyond Carb-Cutting: Resolutions After A Trauma — Sleep, Play, Love. Resentment Test Description. So what I really meant... "Annika" by Mimi Stuart Live the Life you Desire Resentment is the feeling of bitterness, anger, or hatred resulting from a real or imagined wrong. The key difference between resentment, anger and contempt stems from how a person perceives the status of the wrong-doer. Living with an Angry Partner. Living with a Resentful or Angry Partner The biggest challenge of living with a resentful or angry person is to keep from becoming one yourself. Emotional Abuse in Marriage: Why Marriage Counseling Failed. (From Love without Hurt: Turn Your Resentful, Angry, or Emotionally Abusive Relationship into a Compassionate, Loving One) By the time most of my clients come to see me, they have already been to at least three marriage counselors, usually with disastrous results, nearly as bad an anger management class or anger control course.
So what I really meant... 10 Steps to Letting Go of Resentment. Resentment refers to the mental process of repetitively replaying a feeling, and the events leading up to it, that goads or angers us. 10 Fears You'll Inevitably Have to Face (And Some You Likely Already Have) Living with an Angry Partner. 15 Things That Emotionally Strong People Don't Do. Should Suicidal Students Be Forced to Leave Campus? 10 Amazing Things That Will Happen When You Learn to Enjoy Being Alone. 8 Ways To Tell if You’re A Truly Compassionate Person.
Using College Mental Health Services Can Lead To Students Getting Removed From Campus. 14 Truths about Being an Introvert (That Mainly Introverts Will Understand) The Effects Of Negative Emotions On Our Health. Overcoming Chronic Resentment and the Abuse It Causes. The toxic (and intoxicating) effects of resentment. 22 Struggles All Emotionally Unavailable People Will Understand. How to Deal With a Codependent Family Member: 7 Steps. A New Normal: Ten Things I've Learned About Trauma - Catherine Woodiwiss. Depression Part Two.
Repression - Psychotherapy Treatment And Psychotherapist Information. Schools Fall Behind In Helping Students With Mental Health Issues. Campus News. How Colleges Flunk Mental Health. How a College Roommate Can Affect Your Child.