Ellen Heed’s Dissertation – Ellen Heed. Healing Birth Trauma. 3 Ways to Unlearn Sexual Guilt. Overcoming sexual guilt, for some, can be a great and daring act of bravery.
Release shame and embrace satisfaction. You (yes, you!) Are worthy of pleasure. Sexual guilt is a struggle, which takes place within ourselves—self-imposed in our own minds. Sexual guilt holds us back from open, spontaneous, and authentic expressions because we hide inside a self-evaluating shell. The emotion of sexual guilt steals intimacy from lovemaking and makes sex impersonal, repetitious, and mechanical. But where does the emotion of sexual guilt come from? None of us were born with the emotion of sexual guilt.
Until one day, an adult made us feel guilty or embarrassed about what we were doing by saying silly things such as: Touching yourself will make you go blind (my mother’s favorite. Resources — Beauty After Bruises. We at Beauty After Bruises know all too well that the current resources available for survivors, supporters, and therapists are few and far between.
It's hard to know who is providing well-researched, trustworthy, up-to-date information; and who may be referencing outdated theories, received inadequate education, or may even be intentionally perpetuating misinformation. While it's part of our mission to broaden the number of resources available, in the meantime we'd like to supply you with resources that we feel pass the test and hold our stamp of approval. However, with that approval, we can't guarantee all content will be without flaw, nor can we endorse the text, treatment methods, or any changes in content or views that may be shared by respective authors. Please use your discretion. These lists will likely be updated frequently as we discover more commendable people and organizations fighting the good fight.
Informational Websites. Trauma Care Audio Guided Meditations Designed to Help You Heal. How to Think More Positively When You’re In Pain. You may know that negative thinking is hard on your body and contributes to pain and illness.
You may even have a doctor or other health care provider who recommends that you “reduce stress” and try to think more positively in order to heal your body. If so, and you’ve tried to think more positively, you probably also know that this is much easier said than done! Nothing triggers stressful, negative, fearful thinking like pain and illness. When you’re health is compromised and you’re experiencing pain or other symptoms that you don’t understand, that hurt a lot, that isolate you and limit your ability to do the things you want to do, and you haven’t found a doctor that can help, it can send your amygdala (or what I like to call your inner lizard) into a tail spin.
The amygdala is the oldest part of the brain, and is often referred to as the reptilian brain (hence inner lizard). The problem is that in your life now, there is most often nothing to run from or physically fight with. Audio/Article: Asexuality and Trauma. This week on the podcast we addressed a listener’s question about how we might go about knowing whether we are on the asexuality spectrum or whether our lack of sexual attraction is due to trauma in our life which perhaps we should address.
In the podcast we unpack a lot of what is meant by both asexuality and trauma, as well as considering the overlaps, and how all of us might address elements of trauma as they surface in our sexual lives. It’s Fine to be Ace We started with a few caveats. Trauma Is Not Your Fault, But Healing Is Your Responsibility. What happened to you was not your fault.
It was not something you asked for, it was not something you deserved. What happened to you was not fair. You were merely collateral damage on someone else’s warpath, an innocent bystander who got wrecked out of proximity. We are all traumatized by life, some of us from egregious wrongdoings, others by unprocessed pain and sidelined emotions. No matter the source, we are all handed a play of cards, and sometimes, they are not a winning hand. Why Trauma Survivors Can’t Just ‘Let It Go’ 465Save It seems the deeper I journey into the healing and recovery process, the more I find that much of our cultural and conventional wisdom does not help trauma survivors.
All the trite platitudes and sayings that might help someone having a garden-variety bad day can actually become giant triggers for someone living with trauma. Let’s assume everyone wants to live a healthy, pain-free, abundant and productive life. Fascia as an Organ of Proprioception and its Relationship to Chronic Pain - DR. RUSSELL SCHIERLING.
Wellcome Images V0008841 "Fascia contains mechanoreceptors and proprioceptors.
In other words, every time we use a muscle, we stretch fascia that is connected to spindle cells, Ruffini and Paccini corpuscles and Golgi organs. The normal stretching of fascia thus communicates the force of the muscle contraction and the status of the muscle regarding its tone, movement, rate of change in muscle length, and position of the associated body part to the central nervous system. "From Dr. Trauma Care Audio Guided Meditations Designed to Help You Heal. DIY video: Ancient anxiety medicine (Irene Lyon) Trauma and How to Overcome It. Psychological trauma can be defined as a negative event so overwhelming that we cannot properly understand, process or move on from it – but, and this is the devilish aspect to it, nor can we properly remember it or reflect upon its nature and its effects on us.
It is lodged within us but remains hidden from us, making its presence known only via symptoms and pains, altering our sense of reality without alerting us to its devilish subterranean operations. Unsurprisingly, a lot of psychological trauma happens in childhood. Children are especially vulnerable to being traumatised, because they are congenitally unable to understand themselves or the world very well – and have to rely to an uncommon degree on parents who are frequently less than mature, patient or balanced. A child may, for example, be traumatised by a parent who – through no particular fault of their own – becomes heavily depressed shortly after childbirth. The leading symptom of having been traumatised is fear. What Happens in the Brain During Trauma? [Infographic] - NICABM. 5 Ways to End Sexual Shame and (Finally) Truly Enjoy Your Body. Childhood Trauma Can Impact Our Gut Bacteria. A Columbia University study has found that adversity early in life is associated with increased gastrointestinal symptoms in children that may have an impact on the brain and behavior as they grow to maturity.
The study was published online March 28 in the journal Development and Psychopathology. “One common reason children show up at doctors’ offices is intestinal complaints,” said Nim Tottenham, a professor of psychology at Columbia and senior author on the study. “Our findings indicate that gastrointestinal symptoms in young children could be a red flag for future emotional health problems.” Scientists have long noted the strong connection between the gut and brain. Codependency, Trauma and the Fawn Response. The East Bay Therapist, Jan/Feb 2003 In my work with victims of childhood trauma (I include here those who on a regular basis were verbally and emotionally abused at the dinner table), I use psychoeducation to help them understand the ramifications of their childhood-derived Complex PTSD (see Judith Herman’s enlightening Trauma and Recovery).
I help them understand that their extreme anxiety responses to apparently innocuous circumstances are often emotional flashbacks to earlier traumatic events. Sometimes a current event can have only the vaguest resemblance to a past traumatic situation and this can be enough to trigger the psyche’s hard-wiring for a fight, flight, or freeze response. A fourth type of triggered response can be seen in many codependents. How Our Bodies Remember Trauma. Source: Taojones/Pixabay Our bodies remember trauma and abuse — quite literally. They respond to new situations with strategies learned during moments that were terrifying or life-threatening.
Our bodies remember, but memory is malleable. The therapeutic practice of somatics takes these facts — and their relation to each other — seriously. article continues after advertisement Imagine yourself surfing. In the words of Staci Haines, a leader in the field who trains practitioners, somatics is "resilience-based.
" We Remain Stuck At The Age When We Received The Least Of Love - Conscious Reminder. How Our Childhood Shapes Every Aspect of Our Health with Dr. Gabor Maté. Traumatic stress physiology has an unpredictable response. - Irene Lyon. Trauma & The Psoas: An Interview with David Berceli. Kink And Trust: How Some Trauma Survivors Find Healing Through BDSM. As a survivor of sexual violence, I’ve found that exploring my kinks with partners I trust is a truly cathartic experience. It gives me a chance to reclaim my body as a source of pleasure—instead of anxiety or depression or trauma.
I have complete control over how hard I want to be flogged and what sensations I want to experience with the other person. Through this, I’ve learned how to better communicate for myself and understand my desires. BDSM (bondage, dominance, sadism, and masochism) is a powerful act that’s practiced for many different reasons. It can be a sexual practice, about power dynamics, or experiencing pain as pleasure. This is all to say that BDSM is a healthy and consensual form of expression—in fact, the current BDSM 4C Consent Model is based around caring, communication, consent and caution. Intro to NARM.
The NeuroAffective Relational Model™ [NARM] Mindful Self-Regulation in Clinical Practice In recent years the role of self-regulation has become an important part of psychological thinking. The NeuroAffective Relational Model™ (NARM) brings the current understanding of self-regulation into clinical practice. This resource-oriented, non-regressive model emphasizes helping clients establish connection to the parts of self that are organized, coherent and functional. It helps bring into awareness and organization the parts of self that are disorganized and dysfunctional without making the regressed, dysfunctional elements the primary theme of the therapy. Why Do Women Put Up With Painful Sex?
How Trauma Lodges in the Body. March 9, 2017 Krista Tippett, host: The psychiatrist Bessel van der Kolk is an innovator in treating the effects of overwhelming experiences on people and society. Our Obsession with Releasing is Hurting Us. Get elephant's newsletter Language around “release” and “letting go” pervades the movement and healing world, but what do we mean by these words? When language become habitual, our wisdom should guide us to step back and examine it carefully. According to the Oxford Dictionary, the definition of release is: “allow or enable to escape from confinement; set free.” But before we focus on releasing tension, we need to understand why the tension, pain, or restriction is there in the first place. Brené Brown on The Armor We Use to Protect Ourselves and Why It Doesn’t Serve.
Why Are So Many Adults Today Haunted by Trauma? Sixty percent of adults report difficult childhood experiences, including drawn-out divorces, violence, and abuse. The effects of trauma are long-lasting, ranging from anxiety to post-traumatic stress disorder to physical illness. Therapy Tools for Sexual Trauma. Psoas trauma release. 3 Reasons Why You May Be Having Painful Sex. The Three Faces of Victim – An Overview of the Drama Triangle. By Lynne Forrest. Brené Brown: Listening to shame. Part 2: CPTSD, Poly-Vagal Theory and Falling in Love. Ppl often stay in abusive relationships bc of something called 'trauma bonding' — here are the signs it's happening to you. Echo Parenting & Education. Loss of safety: The world becomes a place where anything can happen. Genital Body Armoring. When I began practicing Tantra back in 2008, I could have one clitoral orgasm with a vibrator or my finger.
Published Articles - Freedom From Pain Institute. Published Articles. The Science of How Our Minds and Our Bodies Converge in the Healing of Trauma. Trauma, Van der Kolk notes, affects not only those who have suffered it but also those who surround them and, especially, those who love them. Fixing Rape Culture is a Big Project. Here's Step One. Supporting Your Partner in Their Healing from Sexual Trauma.
5 Simple Self Care Steps to Heal Shame. Shame is that silent cringe that ties your power up in a knot. It is that crippling energy that dampens the pleasures of life. We’ve all had moments of shame, maybe you said something mean in a heated moment, maybe you didn’t honor a commitment you made, or maybe something just happened that you felt responsible for and it didn’t go well.
RELEASING PAIN. Directed by Matt Holwick. Rhythm of Breathing Affects Memory and Fear – Neuroscience News. How Doctors Take Women's Pain Less Seriously. How to Overcome Sexual Repression ⋆ LonerWolf. Shame – The Scary but Rewarding Journey of Working Through Your Shadows – Mariah Freya. Why Your Vagina Isn't Broken + How Trauma Affects Sexual Response. The Effect Of Stress And Trauma On Female Sexuality. 7 Unique Ways to Transform Sexual Trauma into Orgasmic Bliss.