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Brené Brown: Listening to shame

Brené Brown: Listening to shame
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Ppl often stay in abusive relationships bc of something called 'trauma bonding' — here are the signs it's happening to you ian dooley / Unsplash People often don't even realise they are in an abusive relationship. It can be hard for others to understand why someone stays with an abusive partner. Those who have never been in an abusive relationship struggle to understand how people remain in one for so long. For survivors, this can be a really tough question to answer. This is because we are conditioned to believe abuse is always physical. According to therapist Shannon Thomas, author of "Healing from Hidden Abuse," psychological abuse is insidious, and it occurs a over time like an IV drip of poison entering your veins. It starts with an off-hand comment here, or an insult there, but often victims brush these moments off. People stay in these relationships partly because they are trying to win back the abuser's affection. It's a bit like becoming addicted to a drug. "You have this back and forth, and the body becomes addicted," Thomas said.

Christopher Donohue: How people treat other peo... What makes a hero? - Matthew Winkler The Hero Archetype in Literature, Religion, and Popular Culture: (along with a useful PowerPoint presentation teachers can download at this URL: ) Maricopa Center for Learning and Instruction (users embark on their own hero's journey): An American Masters Lesson from PBS for Teachers on George Lucas, the Power of Myth, and the Hero's Journey: And an interactive approach to the Hero's Journey: And of course, information about Joseph Campbell's works on the subject, on the Joseph Campbell Foundation site: The Hero With A Thousand Faces The Hero's Journey (semi-biographical film): Challenge the paradigm.

The Impact of Trauma | Echo Parenting & Education Loss of safety: The world becomes a place where anything can happen. Loss of danger cues: How do you know what is dangerous when someone you trust hurts you and this is then your ‘normal?’ Loss of trust: This is especially true if the abuser is a family member or a close family friend. Shame: Huge, overwhelming, debilitating shame. Loss of intimacy: For survivors of sexual abuse, sexual relationships can either become something to avoid or are entered into for approval (since the child learns that sex is a way to get the attention they crave) and the person may be labeled ‘promiscuous.’ Dissociation: Often, to cope with what is happening to the body during the abuse, the child will dissociate (disconnect the consciousness from what is happening). Loss of physical connection to body: Survivors of sexual and physical abuse often have a hard time being in their body.

FourBuckets : Fourbuckets creative workspace... Working backward to solve problems - Maurice Ashley See Maurice Ashley's blog here. He's the international chess grandmaster, and his motto is, "Your passion is your window to the world." In chess, retrograde analysis is a computational method used to solve game positions for optimal play by working backward from known outcomes (e.g. checkmate), such as the construction of endgame tablebases. Here is a list of requirements (the whole handbook, actually) for a chess grandmaster.

Therapy Tools for Sexual Trauma Design Academy Eindhoven graduate Nienke Helder has created a set of sensory objects that can be used to rehabilitate women affected by sexual abuse. Presented at this year's Dutch Design Week, Sexual Healing is designed to help women who are suffering from trauma-induced sexual problems, such as pelvic muscle blockage. According to the designer, current treatment available often focuses on a clinical perspective – putting too much emphasis on physical issues, rather than the psychological aspects of trauma. From her own experience, Helder recognised the frustration this can cause, which prompted her to develop an alternative therapy which focuses more on the emotional aspects of sexual trauma. "I was really frustrated with the way we treat these kinds of issues. "It was totally taking me away from the sexual context; it became really clinical. The first object is an ergonomically shaped mirror that lights up. "If you have a trauma, it can be really difficult to talk about it.

The most popular 20 TED Talks, as of now UPDATED: To see all these talks at one click, check out our updated Playlist: The 20 Most Popular Talks of All Time. As 2013 draws to a close, TED is deeply humbled to have posted 1600+ talks, each representing an idea worth spreading. So which ideas have had the most widespread impact? Some fascinating things to notice on this list, if you’d like to compare and contrast it to the most popular talks in 2012, and to the list we shared back in 2011: Amy Cuddy, Susan Cain, David Blaine and Pamela Meyer are all newcomers to the list, with Cuddy’s talk storming to spot #5 thanks to you sharing it. But what really makes this list so incredible is the fact that it spans so many areas of interest, from education to happiness, statistics to creativity, tech demos to illusions. UPDATED: To see all these talks at one click, check out our updated Playlist: The 20 Most Popular Talks of All Time.