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20 mental barriers you should let go of. Photo by admitchell08 You are in an imaginary hot air balloon. It’s just you and all of your belongings in the wicker basket. Something went wrong and you are losing altitude fast. You will hit the ground in less than ten minutes if you don’t come up with something quick.

The only immediate solution is to get rid of excess weight and throw off at least half of your belongings. This happens to all of us in less dramatic circumstances. Our mental life follows the same fate. Some of them are useless ideas that drag us down considerably. So if you were in the hot air balloon situation, which of these mental barriers should we let go? 1. 2. 10 Little Habits that Steal Your Happiness. 10 Things To Stop Caring About Today. 15 Things You Should Give Up To Be Happy. Here is a list of 15 things which, if you give up on them, will make your life a lot easier and much, much happier.

15 Things You Should Give Up To Be Happy

We hold on to so many things that cause us a great deal of pain, stress and suffering – and instead of letting them all go, instead of allowing ourselves to be stress free and happy – we cling on to them. Not anymore. Starting today we will give up on all those things that no longer serve us, and we will embrace change. Ready? Here we go: 1.

There are so many of us who can’t stand the idea of being wrong – wanting to always be right – even at the risk of ending great relationships or causing a great deal of stress and pain, for us and for others. 2. Forget Stress. Post written by Leo Babauta.

Forget Stress

Follow me on Twitter. The prevailing way of living in our Western societies is to plan out our lives, both for the long term and on a day-to-day basis. We have planners and digital calendars that map out our lives, sometimes to the minute. We feel we’re in control, with plans like this. But it’s an illusion, as I’ve said before. We cannot control our lives to this degree, no matter how we try. And what happens when the plans go wrong? Think about how often your days actually go according to plan, exactly — it’s pretty rare, because we have no way of predicting the future. So if plans will almost always go wrong, and when they do we get stressed out, isn’t all the time we spend creating the plans a bit of a waste? But what’s the alternative? Don’t plan. And now for the dos: 30 Things to Stop Doing to Yourself.

When you stop chasing the wrong things you give the right things a chance to catch you.

30 Things to Stop Doing to Yourself

As Maria Robinson once said, “Nobody can go back and start a new beginning, but anyone can start today and make a new ending.” Nothing could be closer to the truth. But before you can begin this process of transformation you have to stop doing the things that have been holding you back. Here are some ideas to get you started: Stop spending time with the wrong people. – Life is too short to spend time with people who suck the happiness out of you. Update: Read our follow-up to this post: 30 Things to Start Doing for Yourself Photo by: Rob Brucker Related. Facebook use linked to depressive symptoms. The social media site, Facebook, can be an effective tool for connecting with new and old friends.

Facebook use linked to depressive symptoms

However, some users may find themselves spending quite a bit of time viewing Facebook and may inevitably begin comparing what's happening in their lives to the activities and accomplishments of their friends. According to University of Houston (UH) researcher Mai-Ly Steers, this kind of social comparison paired with the amount of time spent on Facebook may be linked to depressive symptoms. Steers' research on the topic is presented in the article, "Seeing Everyone Else's Highlight Reels: How Facebook Usage is Linked to Depressive Symptoms" published in the Journal of Social and Clinical Psychology.

"Although social comparison processes have been examined at length in traditional contexts, the literature is only beginning to explore social comparisons in online social networking settings," said Steers, a doctoral candidate in social psychology at UH. The Elements of Change. ‘Without accepting the fact that everything changes, we cannot find perfect composure.

The Elements of Change

But unfortunately, although it is true, it is difficult for us to accept it. Because we cannot accept the truth of transience, we suffer.’ ~Shunryu Suzuki Post written by Leo Babauta. Change can be a difficult thing. I’m happy to report that after years of studying it, I’ve become fairly good at it (though happily failing all the time). What have I learned from my changes? It can be incredibly difficult, or it can be wonderfully joyous. My Recent Changes I’ve made dozens of changes over the last few years (read My Story for a partial list), but here’s a short list of a few I’ve made just this year: Lost over 40 lbs since last year.

Again, this is a short list — there are others that are less noteworthy, and probably a few I’m forgetting.