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How Women Are Pressured into Being Sexy, But Punished for Being Sexual. Source: Everyday Feminism The Internet remains intact in spite of Kim Kardashian’s attempt to break it with shiny, digitally enhanced photos of her bare backside.

How Women Are Pressured into Being Sexy, But Punished for Being Sexual

She did, however, manage to break the ice in an ongoing conversation about the objectification of women in the public eye. As happens when any overexposed celebrity shows skin, people have generally criticized Kim for posing nude as a mother, turned her butt into a short-lived Twitter meme, and vilified her for attempting to use sex appeal to garner attention and wealth.

The feminist response was to point out the problematic racial implications of the photo shoot, distance themselves from her, or — more rarely — praise her bravery and willingness to be sexually open. Whether it’s Kim Kardashian, Beyoncé, Rihanna, or any other woman crafting a sexualized public image, the public’s response tends to focus on the individual actions of the women at hand. Where It All Starts Hair. Dealing With Rejection as a (Fat) Feminist. Trigger warning for fatphobia.

Dealing With Rejection as a (Fat) Feminist

5 Great Reasons Modern Women Should Celebrate the Death of Chivalry. Valentine's Day typically triggers a series of think pieces on where all the good men have gone.

5 Great Reasons Modern Women Should Celebrate the Death of Chivalry

The one-two punch of slutty millennial hookup culture and the PC police have knocked the manners right out of our generation, it seems, leaving us with a bunch of "boorish men" who have doomed women to a hellish lifetime of unopened doors and splitting the check. But if chivalry really is dead, we should be saying good riddance. In the Middle Ages, the chivalric code referred to helping anyone in need, regardless of gender. But as far as our generation is concerned, the term typically refers to men's preferential treatment of women. Now, fun as it might sound to live in a world that constantly handles you with kid gloves, this sort of benevolent sexism actually doesn't benefit anyone — men or women.

On Chivalry (or as I like to call it, Sexist Microaggressions) – Ashley N. Robinson. For the most part, I do not encounter active, conscious sexism on a regular basis.

On Chivalry (or as I like to call it, Sexist Microaggressions) – Ashley N. Robinson

Most people will acquiesce that social equality is a pretty good idea. It’s rare for me to encounter folks (especially in my age group) who voice or act on obvious and explicit sexist attitudes. But I still experience sexism all the damn time. Which means it’s the nasty, hidden, pervasive kind. The kind that perpetrators (and victims) usually don’t recognize, name, or give credence to. Why Chivalry Is Dead, From A Man's Perspective. In the hookup culture we now live in, it’s pretty obvious that chivalry is completely dead.

Why Chivalry Is Dead, From A Man's Perspective

Maybe my parents were old fashioned, maybe growing up in a tight knit Italian family resulted in different values, but I was always preached the value of chivalry and etiquette from the women in my life. From my grandmother to my mother, you better believe I learned my lessons, either verbally or via the wooden spoon. WHY PEOPLE HATE TESS MUNSTER (AND OTHER HAPPY FAT PEOPLE) Unless you're someone who refuses to use social media, I'm sure you're aware that plus-size model Tess Munster/Holliday has rocked people's worlds by becoming the first model 'of her size' signed to an agency.


Her size being: 5'5" and a size 22, which is a far cry from the industry's standard of having traditionally hourglass-y figures that are a size 10. Plus models never wear above a 16/18, and are usually 5'8" or taller. Guys... Tess is super short and super fat and breaking all the motherfucking rules like the superhero she is.But changing the status quo is anything but easy. Dave Barry Learns Everything You Need to Know About Being a Husband From Reading 50 Shades of Grey. Seeking Arrangement: On My Brief & Failed Attempt at Becoming a Sugar Baby. I signed up with Seeking Arrangement in 2010, when I was living in Brooklyn, NY and—due to rent, road trips and too many visits from the weed delivery service—somewhat cash-strapped.

Seeking Arrangement: On My Brief & Failed Attempt at Becoming a Sugar Baby

But more than that, I was curious. Single for more-or-less the first time since age 17, this was the same time period when I first began blushingly perusing the Craigslist casual encounters ads. I wanted adventure. I wanted money. This seemed like a good way to satisfy both needs. Being Thin Didn't Make Me Happy, But Being "Fat" Does. I'm going to let you in on a little secret.

Being Thin Didn't Make Me Happy, But Being "Fat" Does

This girl, the one on the left, she's me. In the flesh, me. La « vie quotidienne » : une analyse féministe. Les hommes les plus beaux sont aussi les plus égoïstes, selon une étude. Madonna, Annie Lennox and 'Acting Your Age'  It's far too common to pit women in popular music against one another.

Madonna, Annie Lennox and 'Acting Your Age' 

And, after Madonna and Annie Lennox delivered their respective performances on the 57th Grammy Awards on Sunday, that's exactly what happened. As both these strong female trailblazers came to prominence in the 1980s, many in the cyber sphere wanted to admonish one over the other. But, first off, comparing Annie Lennox and Madonna musically is a false equivalence. They are, generally, two different types of artists, popular for different reasons, each with separate skill sets: one is a rock, blue-eyed soul vocalist about big vocal performances, the other is a dance-pop, self-proclaimed "show girl" with a talent for theatrics, messages, dancing and spectacle. Laughing at My Nightmare: Strangers Assume My Girlfriend Is My Nurse  I was recently out on a dinner date with my lovely girlfriend, Anna, when a stranger approached to have a friendly conversation.

Laughing at My Nightmare: Strangers Assume My Girlfriend Is My Nurse 

He said he was a huge fan of my column about life and disability. He turned to my girlfriend and asked, "Are you his sister? " Now, there is nothing inherently wrong with his question, but if I saw two young people out having a nice meal together, I would probably assume that they were dating. This, however, does not seem to be the assumption people make when you throw a wheelchair into the picture. Mutiny! - Berfrois. Photograph by Internaz by Heather McRobie In her latest book, ‘Unspeakable Things’, journalist Laurie Penny dissects the structural violence ripping through the most intimate parts of all of our lives: suffocated by rigid gender roles, policed by the sexual counter-revolution, and corroded by austerity – and charts the dynamics between these controlling forces in our lives.

Arguing that feminism must be braver in dismantling the power structures that work in tandem to crush both solidarity and desire, the book manages to hold and navigate a persistent tension in feminist writing: to both demand that we view social injustice as structural, not as a series of discrete phenomena, and also recognise how injustices and inequalities are intimately stitched into the flesh-and-blood of all of our lives. In an email interview, she elaborated: “decoy feminism has always been with us. 3 Ways to Rethink Masculinity as a Newly Masculine-Presenting Person. How Men's Rights Leader Paul Elam Turned Being A Deadbeat Dad Into A Moneymaking Movement - BuzzFeed News.

11 choses qui rendent instantanément un homme sexy  Bérengère Krief : cinquante nuances de DSK. Cette semaine, Dominique se retrouve sur le banc des accusés et Christian Grey sur nos écrans. Le premier est accusé de proxénétisme, le second est le héros d'un conte de fées moderne où la baguette n'a plus rien de magique, mais retrouve sa fonction originelle punitive. Violeur au-delà du périph’, séducteur en deçà. Dans le traitement médiatique du « troussage de domestique », les journalistes français ont, pour les moins personnellement affectés d’entre eux, voulu faire preuve de « retenue ».

Ainsi, le Conseil supérieur de l’audiovisuel (CSA) a-t-il, dès le 17 mai, engagé les télévisions à ne pas diffuser d’images de l’accusé menotté, conformément à une présomption d’innocence médiatique dont ne jouissent que trop rarement les inculpés de banlieue. Selon donc que vous soyez un jeune Noir de cité ou un vieux politicien blanc, les jugements médiatiques vous rendront sans la moindre retenue odieux violeur ou – « avec retenue » – séducteur malheureux.

Dans ce partage raciste des violences sexistes, il est également sous-entendu que seuls les hommes de la première catégorie détestent les femmes, de façon innée (chez ces gens- là) ou acquise (à cause de leur culture et de leur religion). 11 Things That Instantly Make A Man Hot  Recently someone who follows my Instagram posted this question on one of my photos: "What is the first thing you notice in a man? " I thought about it for a moment. Did I notice eyes? Hair? Smile? Amanda Palmer - Dear Daily Mail, at the Roundhouse 12th July 2013. Mise au point. Bonjour à tous, Your First Time: A Sexual Guide for Non-Binary People Working Through Trauma. Author’s Note: I admit that this guide leans more toward trans men or gender non-conforming people who were assigned “female” at birth (AFAB) because that’s what I know. I’d never want to try and talk about things I haven’t experienced, but it’s my hope that at least some of my tips will nonetheless prove helpful and/or reflective to anybody else out there.

I’m a trans guy. I’m also a complete slut. But I didn’t used to be that way. There was a time — roughly the first 25 years of my life — that I was petrified of having anybody touch me. So I understand the worries of vulnerability and nudity and gender identity and triggers and orgasms and penetration and societal standards and being read and being misread and all of that other stuff. When you feel you can’t have (or don’t want) anybody to touch you, it’s bittersweet.

Well, that’s how it was for me, at least. And it took a solid four years of hard work for me to emerge from cowering (no, really, cowering) around physical contact. 1. Do Happy Couples Masturbate? “I have an important question about married life, which remains incomprehensible to me, but I am trying to understand,” I Gchatted my childhood friend Vanessa last week. She’s been with her husband for a decade. “When the hell do you masturbate?” If a hobby is an activity pursued for pleasure, then masturbation is perhaps the hobby most of humanity shares. Though the prevalence of masturbation varies by age, most men and women in all age groups say they do it, and the majority of Americans of both genders continue to indulge at least up to age 60. But contrary to what you might think about handsy adolescents, today’s most frequent masturbators are between the ages of 25 and 29 — a group very much in the relationship stage of their lives. Calling BS on Our ‘Plus Size’ Obsession.

Ammar al-Awlaki’s Facebook page has it all: an alleged assassination attempt, Disney movie fandom, a meeting with a spy—and Awlaki’s older brother, the notorious al Qaeda recruiter. The past month has been murder in Yemen. The country is without a president or cabinet after a coup led by the Houthi minority. How Tall Women in Heels Demolish Misogyny. Making Sex Normal: Debby Herbenick at TEDxBloomington. CLIQUE STORY: I’ve slept with 1,000 men. Got A Vagina? Here's A Song Worth Listening To (For Your Vagina's Sake). La religion, une affaire privée. More Than Two: Examining the Myths and Facts of Polyamory. Reese Witherspoon Started Her Own Company Because Women 'Deserve Better' From Hollywood. Elisa, 23 ans : « Le sexe, c’est juste une façon de s’amuser quand il pleut » Sophie, 24 ans, fausse sage, entre « gentils garçons » et « double cunni »

HumanAgency.pdf. 7 Tired Phrases That Marginalize Trans People – And What to Use Instead. Lesbians Explain Sex To Straight People. Un corps, deux sexes - - émissions - 36.9° Stop Asking Already: 6 Reasons Why Intimate Partner Violence Survivors Stay in Their Relationships. Saved by the bell hooks. La féminité, le seul Dieu valable. Men's rights activists have missed the point of feminism entirely. How My Scars Changed The Way I See Beauty  " Prendre Corps " The New Documentary That Shows How Our Obsession With Masculinity Is Destroying Young Men. How Rape Has Become a Staple of American Culture. Jessica Williams On Dating While Feminist: 'I Look For A Man Who Respects My Womanhood' How It Really Feels To Be An 'Unintentional Virgin' In Your 20s And 30s. Hey Girl: Study Suggests Men Are More Open to Feminism When Learning It From Ryan Gosling.

She Calls Her Rarely Seen Body Type 'The Model Of The Future,' And It's Redefining What's Sexy. Découvrez le discours de Judith Butler, faite Chevalier dans l’Ordre des Arts et des Lettres. Here's Why the Latest Weight Watchers Commercial is a Triggering, Shame-Inducing Fail - xoJane. How Mainstream Feminism Continues to Perpetuate Ableism (And How We Can Change That) Short Hair: A Love Story. Fat Men Are a Feminist Issue. We Need to Stop Making Assumptions About Why Women Wear Make-Up. How I Survived Domestic Violence. Why Make-up Is a Waste of My Time — Everyday Feminism. Why It Can Be Hard To Say “No” And How To Do It Anyways. Curvy is the New Skinny, Thanks to Photoshop Phoniness. I'm A Victim-Blamer (But Only When The Victim Was Me)! #BeThatGuy: 7+ Everyday Ways Men Can Transform Masculinity. Large Bodies Don't Need Your Metaphors to Be Beautiful.

This Will Change The Way You Watch ‘Fight Club’ Plus-Size Model Tess Holliday Wants To #EffYourBeautyStandards. How to Gauge Your Compatibility So You Don't End Up in a Sexless Relationship - xoJane. Gay Dads Respond With Love After School Sends Homophobic Rejection Letter / Queerty. 6 Things That Definitely Don't Make You a Bad Feminist  Still Think Rape Jokes Are Harmless Fun? Yes, Men Struggle With Body Image Issues Too. Here's My Story. Yes, Men Struggle With Body Image Issues, Too: Here's My Story  How Men And Women Process Emotions Differently. Straight Women May Only Strive For Thinness If They Think Men Prefer It, Suggests Depressing Study. Letter to the Nice Girls  What Having a BDSM Sugar Daddy Taught Me About Relationships - xoJane. Plus Size Model And Blogger Tess Munster Has Officially Been Signed To Milk Management — And My Heart Is Filled With Joy.

Powerful Photos Fearlessly Redefine What It Means to Be LGBTQIA+ Grandma's Experiences Leave Epigenetic Mark on Your Genes. Julianne Moore, Jennifer Aniston & Reese Witherspoon Say No to Mani Cam. La Famille Savage. Une éducation. 4 Uncomfortable Thoughts You May Have When Facing Your Privilege. Lettre de Madame Churchill : « J’en suis venue à la conclusion qu’il faudrait se débarrasser des femmes » 4 Uncomfortable Thoughts You May Have When Facing Your Privilege. Confession: I'm A Feminist Who's Flattered By Catcalling  Yes, I've Been the “Crazy Girl” in a Relationship, but Let's Talk About What That Really Means - xoJane. Men And Women Prefer Egalitarian Relationships. Kaley Cuoco-Sweeting apologizes for saying she's not a feminist. Confession: I'm A Feminist Who's Flattered By Catcalling 

What Does It Mean When a Boy Says He Loves You? A Plus-Size Model Takes You Behind the Curtain. This Is What Masculinity Really Means To Men. The Discouraging Link Between Depression And Women In Power.