The Joy of Missing Out. I was flying to a mindfulness conference recently when I looked down to my tray table.
My Macbook formed the base of a neat pyramid of trendy technologies, with my iPad on top of the laptop, and my iPhone resting on the iPad. It took a moment before I realized the absurdity: I’m off to talk about the importance of staying in the moment and have no less than three gleaming Apple products sitting in front of me just to get through one cross-country flight? Sure, it was funny, but my next impulse was to take a picture and share the moment online. There’s nothing inherently bad or good about technology. Technology just is. I’ve heard it said that a thinking mind can be our most powerful servant or our most terrible master. Our devices hold out the false promise that there is something more important, more urgent, more interesting than our present-moment experience. Sherry Turkle, who writes about technology says “If we don’t teach our kids to be alone, we will teach them to be lonely.”
Remedies for Your Anxious Mind. On a bad day—and those can come one after another—every little thing can drive us to distraction.
We’re itchy, antsy, pulling our hair out, too jumpy to even meditate. Next time your brain gets knotted up, consider these suggestions. 1. First, slow down When we are anxious EVERYTHING speeds up—our thoughts race, our heart pounds, our breathing accelerates. 2. Anxiety lives in our minds and often manifests in the body. 3. Life is full of simple tasks: walking, eating, answering emails, gardening, drinking water, cooking. 4. Anxiety often stems from fear about events that haven’t taken place. 5. Not only is anxiety painful enough, but we often get hit with a second round of self-critical thoughts. Don’t Fall into the Self-Esteem Trap: Try a Little Self-Kindness.
The great angst of modern life is this: No matter how hard we try, no matter how successful we are, no matter how good a parent, worker, or spouse we are—it’s never enough.
There is always someone richer, thinner, smarter, or more powerful than we are, someone who makes us feel like a failure in comparison. And failure of any kind is unacceptable. What to do? One response has come in the form of the self-esteem movement. Over the years there have been thousands of books and magazine articles promoting self-esteem—how to get it, how to raise it, and how to keep it. But the need to continually evaluate ourselves positively comes at a high price. The quest to raise one’s esteem at the expense of others is a phenomenon that underlies many societal problems, such as prejudice, social inequality, and bullying. One of the most insidious consequences of the self-esteem movement over the last couple of decades is the narcissism epidemic. But what is self-compassion exactly? 10 Ways to Be More Mindful at Work. Mindfulness may seem like a great idea, but how do you become more mindful in the context of a busy work day?
You may have emails, phone calls, meetings, and presentations to deal with. And, of course, your own work! In the middle of all that, how can you apply the principles of mindfulness so that you feel more alive and present, as well as being productive? Here are a few popular and other more radical ways to be mindful at work. 1. Mindfulness is, above all, about being aware and awake rather than operating unconsciously. Here are some ideas to help you stop being mindless and unconscious at work and more mindful and consciously present: Make a clear decision at the start of your workday to be present as best you can. 2. Mindful exercises train your brain to be more mindful. 3. Single-tasking is doing one thing at a time. Here are a few ways to kick the multi-tasking habit and become a mindfulness superhero: Keep a time journal of what you achieve in a block of time.
Slow Down to Get Ahead. Time.
It’s our most coveted resource because of its scarcity. In an effort to falsely gain time during the day we rush through tasks, projects, and our lives. But we cannot be fully present to life or to our craft when we rush. We can lose our vision and clarity for success. In reactive mindsets, goals blur. Rushing hinders our capacity to be intellectually and emotionally available, and capture the opportunities that surface in the present moment.
The Cost of Rushing Chronic rushing through a never ending to-do list feeds anxiety and heightens stress levels. When you need to do work two or three times over because you did not do it right the first time, you begin to see the value of patience and the cost of rushing. Research from a publication in 2015 titled “To Multitask or Not, That is the Question” notes that multitasking can reduce effectiveness of even the most refined brains. Being Gets Lost in Becoming.