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3 Ways My Parents Unintentionally Taught Me That My Consent Didn't Matter. What to Do With Your Pain. Of all the great myths of contemporary life, one of the most toxic is positivity.

What to Do With Your Pain

It says: there are negative and positive emotions, and only the positive ones are worth feeling, having, expressing. Here’s why it’s really, really bad for us. If You Don’t Feel Your Pain, It Will Turn on You If you bury your negative emotions, they don’t magically disappear. Instead of being directed inwards, they are usually just directed outwards. Have a desperate craving to fix the world? Now bigger problems begin. There’s nothing wrong with you or them. You’re stuck on a wheel of suffering. The Purpose of Pain is Transformation. Negative emotions are signals that change is needed.

15 Ways to Get Someone Out of Your Head. By Donna Jackson Nakazawa / psychologytoday.com Have you ever found that you just can’t stop thinking about someone—what they did or said, and how bewildered or hurt you were by their actions?

15 Ways to Get Someone Out of Your Head

When someone hurts us, our children, or someone we love; gossips behind our back; or simply acts crazy in ways that confound us, we can get stuck thinking about it for hours or days. We’re washing dishes, driving, or walking the dogs and we can’t stop thinking about how unkind, untrue and self-centered the things that person said were. Their image, their words, keep resurfacing. Five hours, five days, five weeks later, there they are—we see their face in front of us, even if we haven’t seen them in all that time.

Here's What It Means to Have Healthy Communication in a Romantic Relationship. How Romanticism Ruined Love. 6 Better Ways to Deal With Conflicts in Your Relationship. By Laura D.

6 Better Ways to Deal With Conflicts in Your Relationship

Miller / psychologytoday.com Intimate relationships bring up intense feelings. Conflict with a partner can feel destabilizing, and make it difficult to be articulate and openly expressive. Many people try to avoid conflict through a variety of maneuvers—pretending to always agree, being aggressively stubborn so the other person is too afraid to speak up, or avoiding topics that could bring up disagreement. There are always issues in romantic relationships that really get us going. Having someone recognize your deepest fears and offer reassurance can be extremely reparative. Being able to fight productively often brings a couple closer and strengthens their relationship; here are six ways to do this. 1. Repeat back to your partner what you think you’ve heard him or her say, and ask clarifying questions. Clarify! 2. Can polyamorous hierarchies be ethical? Part 1: The tower and the village - More Than Two. Awhile back, Tikva Wolf, creator of the excellent webcomic Kimchi Cuddles, posted a query on her Facebook page: Can hierarchical relationships ever be ethical?

Can polyamorous hierarchies be ethical? Part 1: The tower and the village - More Than Two

I’ve been chewing on a response to that question for some time, because the answer is not simple. I mean, we spend probably a solid 50 pages in More Than Two trying to tease apart how to make relationship agreements ethical—and we still don’t really answer that question. 3 Reasons Dating, Attraction, and Desire Are Always Political. “He’s nice, but you know you could do better,” my friend told me shortly after meeting the person I had just started dating.

3 Reasons Dating, Attraction, and Desire Are Always Political

I was caught by surprise. The brief introduction had been mutually pleasant, I thought, and definitely nothing egregious enough occurred to prompt such a swift disapproval. She Wouldn't Give Me Up. Dan Gallagher learned to dread the sound of a ringing phone and so did I.

She Wouldn't Give Me Up

The constant calls from her interrupted a quiet night’s sleep and dinner parties and time with my family. In Fatal Attraction, the unanswered telephone becomes an ominous visual motif, more frightening than an abducted small child on a roller coaster or even a boiled bunny. The camera repeatedly pans back to the hallway and bedroom and the shrill ringtone remains insistent with demands: pick up the phone, listen to me, I’m not going away. הרי את משודכת לי - דייט בראשון. האם יש מצב שבו בני זוג אוהבים זה את זה באותה המידה - דייט בראשון. Love Is In Small Things. רק 36 שאלות מפרידות ביניכם לבין אהבת אמת. לא תנסו? אהבה בלי לומר מילה. 9 Signs It's Time to Let Go of a Relationship. “All the art of living lies in a fine mingling of letting go and holding on.” – Havelock Harris Letting go of a relationship that we did (or still do) care about is a very difficult thing for us all.

9 Signs It's Time to Let Go of a Relationship

HEALING OF LOVE - Sex, Partnership and the Village by John Wolfstone. 6 Things I Learned When My Husband Had an Affair. 6 Toxic Relationship Habits Most People Think Are Normal. By Mark Manson / markmanson.net.

6 Toxic Relationship Habits Most People Think Are Normal

There's an Awesome Stage Between "Like" and "Love," and This Is What It's Called. Nine years ago, I was sitting in my college dorm room, thinking of a guy I liked and feeling what I guess some might call "smitten" or "enamored.

There's an Awesome Stage Between "Like" and "Love," and This Is What It's Called

" But those words didn't do it justice. I was on the brink of dizzying, warm, smack-you-in-the-face love. "Hey, you know how the stuff that comes out right before a guy ejaculates is called pre-cum? " I yelled over at my roommate. She nodded.