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The Relief of Being Abandoned. The Relief of Being Abandoned By: Dr.

The Relief of Being Abandoned

Sam Vaknin Click HERE to Watch the Video Malignant Self Love - Buy the Book - Click HERE!!! Relationships with Abusive Narcissists - Buy the e-Books - Click HERE!!! READ THIS: Scroll down to review a complete list of the articles - Click on the blue-coloured text! When the narcissist’s spouse, girlfriend, or intimate partner gets to know him better, warts and all, she recoils and withdraws: first sexually and then, to avoid further hurt, emotionally. The dissolution of the abuser's marriage or other meaningful (romantic, business, or other) relationships constitutes a major life crisis and a scathing narcissistic injury. All abusers present with rigid and infantile (primitive) defense mechanisms: splitting, projection, Projective Identification, denial, intellectualization, and narcissism. The Masochistic Avoidant Solution The abuser directs some of this fury inwards, punishing himself for his "failure".

The Delusional Narrative Solution (continued below) The False Modesty of the Narcissist. Narcissist's Cycles of Ups and Downs. Narcissist as Eternal Child. Narcissist as Compulsive Giver. Narcissist Grooms Vulnerable Sources of Narcissistic Supply: Exploits Tragedy, Crisis, Misfortune. Schizoid and Paranoid Narcissist. Narcissist's Beloved Paranoia. Recluse Narcissist. Lonely, Schizoid Narcissist. Narcissist: Socially-anxious, Schizoid. Grandiosity and Intimacy - The Roots of Paranoia.

Grandiosity and Intimacy: The Roots of Paranoia By: Dr.

Grandiosity and Intimacy - The Roots of Paranoia

Sam Vaknin Click HERE to Watch the Video Malignant Self Love - Buy the Book - Click HERE!!! Relationships with Abusive Narcissists - Buy the e-Books - Click HERE!!! READ THIS: Scroll down to review a complete list of the articles - Click on the blue-coloured text! Paranoid ideation - the narcissist's deep-rooted conviction that he is being persecuted by his inferiors, detractors, or powerful ill-wishers - serves two psychodynamic purposes. Grandiosity Enhancing Paranoia Being the target of relentless, ubiquitous, and unjust persecution proves to the paranoid narcissist how important and feared he is.

The paranoid delusions of the narcissist are always grandiose, "cosmic", or "historical". Alternatively, the narcissist feels victimized by mediocre bureaucrats and intellectual dwarves who consistently fail to appreciate his outstanding - really, unparalleled - talents, skills, and accomplishments. Intimacy Retarding Paranoia. The Green Eyed Narcissist-imitation. The Green-Eyed (Envious, Jealous, Spiteful) Narcissist By: Dr.

The Green Eyed Narcissist-imitation

Sam Vaknin Click HERE to Watch the Video. Reconditioning the Narcissist. Reconditioning the Narcissist Frequently Asked Question # 63 The narcissist can curb his antisocial and self-destructive behaviors by developing self-awareness and a regime of conditioning and reinforcement via self-parenting.

Reconditioning the Narcissist

Read more and buy the book(s) Click HERE to Watch the Video By: Dr. Narcissistic Allocation - The mechanism behind the cycles of over-valuation and devaluation in the narcissist's life. Narcissistic Allocation: Over-valuation (Idealization) and Devaluation Frequently Asked Question # 44 Narcissists idealize potential new sources of narcissistic supply and later devalue and discard them.

Narcissistic Allocation - The mechanism behind the cycles of over-valuation and devaluation in the narcissist's life

Read More and Buy the Book(s) Click HERE to Watch the Video By: Dr. Malignant Self Love - Buy the Book - Click HERE!!! Relationships with Abusive Narcissists - Buy the e-Books - Click HERE!!! READ THIS: Scroll down to review a complete list of the articles - Click on the blue-coloured text! Question: What is the mechanism behind the cycles of over-valuation (idealization) and devaluation in the narcissist's life? Answer: Cycles of over-valuation (idealisation) followed by devaluation characterise many personality disorders (they are even more typical of Borderline Personality Disorder than of the Narcissistic one, for instance). The quality and reliability of Narcissistic Supply are, therefore, of paramount importance. The fall is inevitable. But what is the mechanism behind this cycling?