The Unstable Narcissist The Unstable Narcissist Frequently Asked Question # 32 Dependent on and addicted to fluctuating narcissistic supply, the narcissist’s life and mood are volatile. The classic narcissist maintains an island of stability in his life while the other dimensions of his existence wallow in chaos and unpredictability. The borderline narcissist reacts to instability in one area of his life by introducing chaos into all the others. Read more and buy the book(s) Click HERE to Watch the Video By: Dr. Malignant Self Love - Buy the Book - Click HERE!!! Relationships with Abusive Narcissists - Buy the e-Books - Click HERE!!! READ THIS: Scroll down to review a complete list of the articles - Click on the blue-coloured text! Question: Is the narcissist characterised by simultaneous instabilities in all the important aspects of his life? Answer: The narcissistic personality is unstable in each and every one of its dimensions. An example of this kind of behaviour: Short-term memory is perfectly normal. I. II.
Narcissistic Personality Disorder Excerpts from the Archives of the Narcissism Li... Excerpts from the Archives of the Narcissism List - Part 51 Listowner: Dr. Sam Vaknin Malignant Self Love - Buy the Book - Click HERE!!! Relationships with Abusive Narcissists - Buy the e-Books - Click HERE!!! READ THIS: Scroll down to review a complete list of the articles - Click on the blue-coloured text! HealthyPlace Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD) Community Case Studies on the Psychopath and Narcissist Survivors Support Group Ask Sam on the Psychopath and Narcissist Survivors Support Group Ask Sam on the Narcissistic Abuse Recovery Forum 1. The narcissist can and will sustain any kind of behavior – good or bad – as long as it yields him Narcissistic Supply. 2. Antisocial (psychopathic) narcissists never run out of lies, manipulations, and victims. 3. It is tough enough to try to truly understand what makes NORMAL people tick – how do you expect to comprehend WHY she, a pathological narcissist (and histrionic) behaved the way she did? 4. (continued below) 5. 6. 7. 8. Copyright Notice
Malignant Self Love - Narcissism Revisited - Th... The World of the Narcissist (Essay) (Fifth, Revised Impression, 2003) Narcissism, Pathological Narcissism, The Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD), the Narcissist, and Relationships with Abusive Narcissists and Psychopaths By: Dr. Click HERE to Watch the Video Malignant Self Love - Buy the Book - Click HERE!!! Relationships with Abusive Narcissists - Buy the e-Books - Click HERE!!! READ THIS: Scroll down to review a complete list of the articles - Click on the blue-coloured text! The narcissist is typically born into a dysfunctional family. Dysfunctional families are often reclusive and autarkic (self-sufficient). This monastic attitude is sometimes applied even to the extended family. Constant aggression and violence are permanent features of such families. Trying to rationalise and intellectualise its unique position and to justify it, the dysfunctional family emphasises some superior logic it allegedly possesses and its efficiency. Moreover, the narcissist always generalises.
Narcissism List Archive - Number 04 Excerpts from the Archives of the Narcissism List - Part 4 Listowner: Dr. Sam Vaknin Malignant Self Love - Buy the Book - Click HERE!!! Relationships with Abusive Narcissists - Buy the e-Books - Click HERE!!! READ THIS: Scroll down to review a complete list of the articles - Click on the blue-coloured text! 1. I "invented" another category between NPD and HPD which I call "somatic narcissists". Click here to read the DSM IV-TR definition of the Histrionic Personality Disorder. 2. If by "depression" we also mean "numbness" then most narcissists are simply numb, emotionally absent, non-existent. 3. Narcissists are so abnormally self absorbed because: They are constantly in pursuit of narcissistic supply (fishing for compliments, for instance). 4. If your friend is a narcissist - you can never get to really know him, to be friends with him, and ESPECIALLY to be in a loving relationship with him. Narcissists home in on potential supplies like cruise missiles with the most toxic load. 5. 6. 7. 8.
Narcissism List Archive - Number 19 Excerpts from the Archives of the Narcissism List - Part 19 Listowner: Dr. Sam Vaknin Malignant Self Love - Buy the Book - Click HERE!!! Relationships with Abusive Narcissists - Buy the e-Books - Click HERE!!! READ THIS: Scroll down to review a complete list of the articles - Click on the blue-coloured text! 1. The personality disordered are usually hated. They employ the primitive defence mechanisms of splitting and projection augmented by the more sophisticated mechanism of projective identification. In other words: They "split off" from their personality the bad feelings of hating and being hated - because they cannot cope with negative feelings. Then, they project these feelings unto others ("He hates me, I don't hate anyone", "I am a good soul, but he is a psychopath", "He is stalking me, I just want to stay away from him", "He is a con-artist, I am the innocent victim"). At this stage I will feel vindicated - not realizing MY contribution to this recurrent pattern. 2. (continued below) 3.
Narcissism List Archive - Number 10 Excerpts from the Archives of the Narcissism List - Part 10 Listowner: Dr. Sam Vaknin Malignant Self Love - Buy the Book - Click HERE!!! Relationships with Abusive Narcissists - Buy the e-Books - Click HERE!!! READ THIS: Scroll down to review a complete list of the articles - Click on the blue-coloured text! 1. The exposure of the False Self for what it is - False - is a major narcissistic injury. Rather than endure its assault and its frightening outcomes - he redirects the aggression, transforms it and hurls it at others. What form his aggression assumes is nigh impossible to predict without knowing the narcissist in question intimately. 2. Yes, it could. The ability to influence other people, to induce feelings in them, to manipulate them emotionally, to make them do something or refrain from doing it is what counts. The receipt of NS releases libido (increases the sexual drive) - see my 3. 4. a. b. 5. Would you wish to be liked by your television set?
Excerpts from the Archives of the Narcissism Li... Excerpts from the Archives of the Narcissism List - Part 46 Listowner: Dr. Sam Vaknin Malignant Self Love - Buy the Book - Click HERE!!! Relationships with Abusive Narcissists - Buy the e-Books - Click HERE!!! READ THIS: Scroll down to review a complete list of the articles - Click on the blue-coloured text! HealthyPlace Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD) Community Case Studies on the Psychopath and Narcissist Survivors Support Group Ask Sam on the Psychopath and Narcissist Survivors Support Group Ask Sam on the Narcissistic Abuse Recovery Forum 1. The longer the relationship with a Secondary Source of Narcissistic Supply and the bigger the number of common "possessions" (children included) - the more vigorously the narcissist's attempts to reinstate the relationship and the more firmly the former source is included in the narcissist's stable of default sources (to whom he turns in dry spells). 2. What is done with these potentials is up to us. 3. On the contrary: 4. 5. (continued below) 6.
Narcissism List Archive - Number 22 Excerpts from the Archives of the Narcissism List - Part 22 Listowner: Dr. Sam Vaknin Malignant Self Love - Buy the Book - Click HERE!!! Relationships with Abusive Narcissists - Buy the e-Books - Click HERE!!! READ THIS: Scroll down to review a complete list of the articles - Click on the blue-coloured text! 1. Graphic descriptions aside, Narcissism has long been thought to be a form of paraphilia (sexual deviation or perversion). I raised the possibility that incest was AUTO-EROTIC and, therefore, narcissistic in: In other words: When a father makes love to his daughter - he is making love to himself because she IS 50% himself. Homosexuality is NOT a sexual perversion. 2. I hate holidays and birthdays, including my birthday. I feel that their happiness is false, fake, forced. And then I do my best to destroy their mood: I bring bad news. And when the other person is sour and sad, I feel relieved. It's back to normal. Now if she does cheer up - it is REAL.
Narcissism List Archive - Number 07 Excerpts from the Archives of the Narcissism List - Part 7 Listowner: Dr. Sam Vaknin Malignant Self Love - Buy the Book - Click HERE!!! Relationships with Abusive Narcissists - Buy the e-Books - Click HERE!!! READ THIS: Scroll down to review a complete list of the articles - Click on the blue-coloured text! 1. Narcissists can rarely be cured. Why fight windmills? I am saying: "I have tendencies that hurt people. 2. I envy you for being able to identify the exact sources and realms of your shame. My shame was all-pervasive. I remember the exact moments and dynamics of overcoming my shame. I still am a believer in the transforming power of shame and in its central role in the formation of personality disorders. I can't discuss the sociological dimensions much. 3. Narcissists are drug addicts and the name of the drug is Narcissistic Supply (NS). 4. Narcissism is partly a reactive formation, a complex of intertwined defense mechanisms, a network of survival tactics. 5. 6. 7. 1. 2. 8. 9. 10. 11.
Narcissism List Archive - Number 35 Excerpts from the Archives of the Narcissism List - Part 35 Listowner: Dr. Sam Vaknin Malignant Self Love - Buy the Book - Click HERE!!! Relationships with Abusive Narcissists - Buy the e-Books - Click HERE!!! READ THIS: Scroll down to review a complete list of the articles - Click on the blue-coloured text! 1. The narcissist analyses (and internalizes) everything in terms of blame and guilt, superiority and inferiority, gain (victory) and loss (defeat) and the resulting matrix of Narcissistic Supply. Thus, the formula is very simple: Shift the blame to yourself ("I don't know what happened to me, I have changed, it is my fault, I am to blame for this, you are constant, reliable and consistent."). Tell him you feel guilty (excruciatingly so, in great and picturesque detail). Tell him how superior he is and how inferior you feel. Make this separation your loss and his absolute, unmitigated gain. Convince him that he is likely to gain more supply from others (future women?) 2. 3. 4. 5. Born Aliens
Narcissism List Archive - Number 15 Excerpts from the Archives of the Narcissism List - Part 15 Listowner: Dr. Sam Vaknin Malignant Self Love - Buy the Book - Click HERE!!! Relationships with Abusive Narcissists - Buy the e-Books - Click HERE!!! READ THIS: Scroll down to review a complete list of the articles - Click on the blue-coloured text! 1. Money stands for love in the narcissist's emotional vocabulary. 2. Treat them as you would children. 3. I HAD amnesia of myself. I knew nothing. Are labels self-fulfilling prophecies? It is not working. And maybe not. The worst part is when you are no longer able to tell the healthy from the sick, your self from your invented self, your will from the dynamics of your disorder. 4. I would tell him that we are all shaped in our early childhood by people: parents, teachers, other adults, our peers. 5. Narcissists HATE happiness and joy and ebullience and vivaciousness and, in short, life itself. First, there is pathological envy. Then there is narcissistic hurt. (continued below) 6. 7. 8.
Narcissism, Narcissistic Pathologies, the Narci... Narcissism, Narcissistic Pathologies, the Narcissistic Personality Disorder And Other Mental Health Disorders: (Co-Morbidity and Dual Diagnosis) Schizoid and Paranoid Personality Disorders; Histrionic Personality Disorder) and Somatic Narcissism; Depression; Dissociative Identity Disorder; Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder; Bipolar Disorder; Asperger's Disorder; Generalized Anxiety Disorder; Borderline Personality Disorder; Schizotypal Personality Disorder; Psychosis; Antisocial Personality Disorder (Psychopathy); Neuroses; Masochism; Sexual Perversions; Munchausen and Munchausen by Proxy Syndromes (Factitious Disorders) Frequently Asked Question # 82 Click HERE and HERE watch the videos By: Dr. Read more and buy the book(s) Malignant Self Love - Buy the Book - Click HERE!!! Relationships with Abusive Narcissists - Buy the e-Books - Click HERE!!! READ THIS: Scroll down to review a complete list of the articles - Click on the blue-coloured text! Narcissists and Depression - click HERE! I. V.