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Photo What would you say if you found out that our public schools were teaching children that it is not true that it’s wrong to kill people for fun or cheat on tests? Would you be surprised? 25 Things a Daughter Needs From Her Dad. As you probably know, I am a first-time author.

25 Things a Daughter Needs From Her Dad

 Scott Dannemiller. Kids Aren’t Expensive, But That Other Thing Sure Is. My husband and I have always wanted a lot of kids.

Kids Aren’t Expensive, But That Other Thing Sure Is

(Of course, “a lot” is a relative term, depending what your social circles look like, but for the purpose of this post, we’re going to call “a lot” more than 3. Ha.) Over the last 6 years, when we’ve made our feelings known, we’ve often been met with one particular phrase: Kids are so expensive!! Well, on the one hand, I suppose they are. Depending on your particular situation – medical bills, dental care, school tuition, etc. all definitely add up. Kids aren’t expensive. How American parenting is killing the American marriage - Quartz. Parenting as a Gen Xer: We’re the first generation of parents in the age of iEverything. The author’s kids — at dinner.

Parenting as a Gen Xer: We’re the first generation of parents in the age of iEverything

(Allison Tate Slater) On the days that I drive the middle school carpool, I purposely choose a route that takes us past a huge river. Some mornings, the water looks like glass; others, it reflects the moody clouds above with choppy waves – either way, it’s gorgeous. Every time we drive past it, I point it out to my car full of 12-year-olds: “Look at the water today. Isn’t it beautiful?” Harvard, Schmarvard; Why Getting Your Kids Into College Should Be the Least of Your Concerns 

It's almost that time of year.

Harvard, Schmarvard; Why Getting Your Kids Into College Should Be the Least of Your Concerns 

I can feel it in the fall air and see it on the faces of parents and seniors everywhere. It's almost college application time and the race begins, as parents and kids vie for the chance to get into their first choice colleges. For some parents, college acceptance approaches the culmination of every single parenting choice ever made. It can seem the ultimate goal, the ROI of parenthood, the final gold award and the epitome of a parenting job well done. It feels like the end game for every AP class, honors class, volunteer opportunity, and sports involvement that you required of your child.

Children Who Never Play. Students in my history of architecture course are amused to discover that the final exam offers a choice of questions.

Children Who Never Play

Some are bone dry (“discuss the development of the monumental staircase from the Renaissance to the nineteenth century, citing examples”) and others deliberately open-ended (“General Meade overslept at Gettysburg and the South has won the Civil War; you are commissioner for the new national capital and must tell us which architects you will choose and what instructions you will give them.”)

In offering this whimsical range of options, I do nothing original; my own professors at Haverford College did much the same in their day. But a peculiar thing has happened. When I began teaching twenty-five years ago, almost all students would answer the imaginative question but year in, year out, their numbers dwindled, until almost all now take the dry and dutiful one. I am hardly the only one to notice the risk-avoidance.

Michael J. I blamed my wife for our messy house, I was wrong for many reasons. Clean house, hard hearts.

I blamed my wife for our messy house, I was wrong for many reasons

Guest Post: Does New Research Prove Kids Do Better with Two Moms? The important thing about yelling. A Better Way to Say Sorry. March 30, 2014 This post is part of my series on How to Shape Children’s Behavior.

A Better Way to Say Sorry

“Say sorry to your brother.” 7 Misconceptions About Moms of Large Families. As a mom of 10, I wanted to attempt to dispel a few myths about us and our large families.

7 Misconceptions About Moms of Large Families

Because we get a lot of questions, and I’m sure even more questions go unasked. So, though not exhaustive, these are a few of the common misconceptions: 1. They are “special.” School ditches rules and loses bullies - National News. Published: 6:31AM Sunday January 26, 2014 Source: Fairfax.

School ditches rules and loses bullies - National News

Motherhood and More. The Funny Little Thing About “Women’s Choice” The Funny Little Thing About “Women’s Choice” “You’re a stay-at-home mom? What do you DO all day?” It’s happened twice in a week, and they were both women. Anyone ought to have more class than this, but women — especially women — should damn well know better. The Meanest Mother in the World. The Meanest Mother in the World My friend is laughing.

I've just told her something that I believe about parenting and being a mum and what it does to you if you do it long enough, and I'm laughing too, but her kids are little and mine are big and I don't know if she knows I really, really mean it.