IF GENDER DIDN'T EXIST, WOULD TRANS PEOPLE? Is Your Trans Allyship Half-Baked? Here Are 6 Mistakes That Trans Allies Are Still Making. I love me some allies.
As a trans person with very limited energy, nothing warms my heart more than a good ally stepping up to the plate when I’m tired of swinging. That’s why I’m actually really happy to be writing this article. “Hang on, Sam,” you might say. “You said we’re making mistakes. Why are you happy about that?” Mistakes, especially when they come from allies, are opportunities to have really important conversations. Instead of hanging out at the sidelines, you were showing up as an ally. I want you to keep showing up, even if that means you’ll make mistakes.
That kind of commitment – to keep learning and growing – is what really excites me. So let’s bring your allyship to the next level. Here are some common pitfalls that trans allies fall into – and what you need to know to avoid them. 1. Amelia teaches Trans 101: "In reality you have a penis" - entirely amelia. Yesterday, I received the above messages on Facebook and I thought it would make for a great second lesson in the Trans 101 series of posts here.
Typically, questions/messages/comments like this tend to go a certain way. When you’re used to having your identity and humanity questioned and your answers to those questions dismissed, it’s hard to not get defensive when something looks like it’s going in that direction. So, I answered as such, with a stern lecturing tone and quite a lot of snark. My general rule is to try to be open and respectful when teaching, but I do have a point at which I throw all that out the window and respond with the same level of respect I feel I’m being dealt. The response (which I will not share) from this person actually surprised me a lot.
Below is my full, unedited, response. Hmm…okay…where to start here… So, first, that was actually incredibly offensive. Just because *you* have not personally experienced something does not mean it doesn’t exist. Transféminisme 101. L’autrice, ne collaborant plus avec l’Echo des Sorcières aujourd’hui, souhaite prendre ces distances vis à vis de cet article.
Si certains points lui semblent toujours pertinents, comme le refus de la notion de « socialisation » qui justifierait le rejet des femmes trans, elle ne partage plus certaines idées évoquées dans cet article. C’est le cas par exemple de l’inclusion des hommes trans dans les personnes qui devraient être les sujets du transféminisme, et plus largement leur inclusion systématique dans les non-mixités féministes.
Quand j’ai commencé à déambuler dans les méandres des militantismes féministes et lgbt, j’avais déjà lu pas mal de choses sur ces questions, mais je ne m’étais jamais confrontée aux dynamiques de groupe et au monde militant. Je me suis rendue compte que beaucoup de choses qui me semblaient aller de soi n’étaient pas aussi évidentes pour tout le monde. Qu’une grande partie du militantisme lgbt ne veut pas entendre parler de féminisme. Introduction Conclusion. Coming Out To My Exes As A Gay Trans Man.
5 Things Cis People Can Actually Do For Trans People (Now That You Care About Us) Allow me to be more specific: It’s been a heated, daring, tumultuous, graphic, specularizing, aggressive, pointed, contentious, highly fatal, and really, really complicated year for trans people.
Here are a few examples: Kristina Gomez Reinwald, Ty Underwood, Lamia Beard, and many other transwomen of color have been brutally murdered at the hands of lovers, family members, and strangers. Meanwhile, Laverne Cox and Janet Mock have come to fame and exhibited incredible feats of grace, articulation, and poignancy under the gaze of an eager media. Blake Brockington, Leelah Alcorn, Taylor Alesana, and many other transgender youth have committed suicide after enduring endless bullying and systematic brutality. Meanwhile, Jazz Jennings became the new face of Clean & Clear and published a children’s picture book about her life, and teen trans couple Arin Andrews and Katie Hill (best known for “Can You Even Believe They’re Trans?!”
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