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On a tous grandi à Hétéroland. Je viens d’un pays qui s’appelle Hétéroland.

On a tous grandi à Hétéroland

Les hommes et les femmes ne poussent ni dans les choux, ni dans les roses, mais dans de petites cases bien calibrées. Ces hommes et ces femmes grandissent et se font des bisous, avant de se marier et de pondre des bébés dans des cases, à leur tour. Ce pays n’est pas toujours ouvertement hostile aux gens qui ne rentrent pas tout à fait dans ces cases. Il parle de plus en plus, dans son infinie bonté, de les « tolérer ». Les Hétérolandistes ont toutefois régulièrement des accès de violence envers les marginaux, ou tout simplement, leur dispensent des microagressions (« Tu n’as pas rencontré le bon homme » « Elle est trop belle pour être lesbienne » « Tu es juste misandre »).

Mais ce qui me frappe le plus, ce qui m’a le plus marquée, quand j’y repense, c’est l’invisibilisation. Christine Boutin déclarait ce matin sur RMC qu’on ne voit plus une seule série sans couple homosexuel, que c’est l’overdose. The Danger at the Intersection of Street Harassment and Compulsory Heterosexuality. The first time I learned about street harassment, I was taught that only I could prevent it.

The Danger at the Intersection of Street Harassment and Compulsory Heterosexuality

This was about the same time that Smokey the Bear was telling me that only I could prevent forest fires and Captain Planet told me that the power was mine to save the Earth. The world was sure entrusting a lot to seven-year-old me. The aforementioned logic about street harassment taught me that street harassers targeted only “sluts and whores.” This overwhelmingly male population that felt the need to humiliate women were never referred to harassers, assailants, or even bullies, but instead regarded as some sort of moral authority that reminded women when they were demeaning themselves. My job was simple: if I had the self-respect or dressed properly and carried myself with dignity, my friendly neighborhood Hemline Police and Cleavage Monitors would not have to encourage me to cover myself up with their lewd comments and unwarranted advances. No One is Born Gay (or Straight): Here Are 5 Reasons Why. This post has been elaborated here. 1.

No One is Born Gay (or Straight): Here Are 5 Reasons Why

Just because an argument is politically strategic, does not make it true: A couple of years ago, the Human Rights Campaign, arguably the country’s most powerful lesbian and gay organization, responded to politician Herman Cain’s assertion that being gay is a choice. They asked their members to “Tell Herman Cain to get with the times! Being gay is not a choice!” They reasoned that Cain’s remarks were “dangerous.”

Cynthia Nixon (right) and wife Christine Marinoni (left) The problem with such statements is that they infuse biological accounts with an obligatory and nearly coercive force, suggesting that anyone who describes homosexual desire as a choice or social construction is playing into the hands of the enemy. Yes, it’s true that straight people are more tolerant when they believe that lesbian and gay people have no choice in the matter. 2. 3. Why I identify as bisexual and not pansexual. Awesome question.

Why I identify as bisexual and not pansexual

I think about it all the time. Here’s my story: I identify very strongly as bi, though for a few years I also used to identify as pan along with it. Throughout those years, I went through a long process with both those words, at the end of which I dropped “pansexual” and stuck only with “bisexual”. I’ve identified as bi since I was 13. And yet I never gave up on bisexuality as an identity. Once the binary issue started dissipating, it started being okay for me to ‘return’ to bisexuality and examine why I liked it so much. Reflexions queers - Pourquoi je me définis comme bi. La biphobie, ma réalité. « When we speak we are afraid our words will not be heard or welcomed.

La biphobie, ma réalité.

But when we are silent, we are still afraid. So it is better to speak. » Audre Lorde « Quand nous nous exprimons, nous avons peur que nos mots ne soient pas entendus, qu’ils ne soient pas les bienvenus. Mais lorsque nous gardons le silence, nous avons toujours peur. Dans ce cas, autant s’exprimer. » (Merci _Vi pour la piqûre de rappel implicite.) Alors voilà, j’inspire un bon coup et je vous le dis, je suis bisexuelle et je ne me sens pas légitime. Je vous rassure tout de suite, il ne s’agit même pas de moi dans cet article. Il y a quelques mois, j’ai assisté à la projection privée d’un documentaire sur les lesbiennes à Montréal, suivie d’une discussion ouverte. Les gens pestent, grognent, huent mon amie. Bisexualité et Pansexualité — M to BMO. Why You Need To Quit Calling Homophobes Closet Cases. A comment over at The Journal: Homophobia is often a symptom of latent homosexuality.

Why You Need To Quit Calling Homophobes Closet Cases.

Homophobes need to be encouraged to accept their orientation. I quote it because it’s so common. We hear this all the time. Someone expresses wildly homophobic views, and the response is that they must be closeted themselves. Yeah.