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Your Princess Is in Another Castle: Misogyny, Entitlement, and Nerds. I was going to write about The Big Bang Theory—why, as a nerdy viewer, I sometimes like it and sometimes have a problem with it, why I think there’s a backlash against it. Then some maniac shot up a sorority house in Santa Barbara and posted a manifesto proclaiming he did it for revenge against women for denying him sex. And the weekend just generally went to hell. So now my plans have changed. With apologies to Big Bang Theory fans, this is all I want to say about The Big Bang Theory: When the pilot aired, it was 2007 and “nerd culture” and “geek chic” were on everyone’s lips, and yet still the basic premise of “the sitcom for nerds” was, once again, awkward but lovable nerd has huge unreciprocated crush on hot non-nerdy popular girl (and also has an annoying roommate).

This annoys me. This is a problem. Because, let’s be honest, this device is old. We (male) nerds grow up force-fed this script. This is, to put it mildly, a problematic attitude to grow up with. Before I went on Jeopardy! Overcome Your Programming And Be A Better Man | The Chris Gethard Show. Garance Doré Boils Down French Style. Photo Credit: Courtesy of Getty I'M A FRENCH WOMAN. This can be an intimidating idea—to me. You know, so many things are said about us: that we're stylish, beautiful, skinny, and great mothers. There is a whole category of books about French women. I've even bought a few of them. I wouldn't want to disappoint. The truth is, we come in every color, shape, and size. The same goes with beauty.

This pursuit begins in our 20s, a time to experiment. The 40s are when we grow into our real beauty, which is what we've earned by allowing ourselves to not worry too much about our appearance. And maybe that's the ultimate French beauty secret: We don't freak out too much about age. Ooh la la! What George Eliot Teaches Us about the Life-Cycle of Happiness and the Science of Why We’re Happier When We’re Older.

Mentally Strong People: The 13 Things They Avoid. Mentally Strong People: The 13 Things They Avoid. 10 Life Lessons To Excel In Your 30s. A couple weeks ago I turned 30. Leading up to my birthday I wrote a post on what I learned in my 20s. But I did something else. I sent an email out to my subscribers (subscribe here) and asked readers age 37 and older what advice they would give their 30-year-old selves. The idea was that I would crowdsource the life experience from my older readership and create another article based on their collective wisdom. The result was spectacular. I received over 600 responses, many of which were over a page in length.

So first of all, a hearty thank you to all who contributed and helped create this article. While going through the emails what surprised me the most was just how consistent some of the advice was. Below are 10 of the most common themes appearing throughout all of the 600 emails. 1. “I spent my 20s recklessly, but your 30s should be when you make a big financial push. There were a few categories this advice fell into: Gee whiz!

2. We all know to take care of our health. 3. 4. 5. 6. 7 Habits of Highly Emotionally Intelligent People. Editor's Note: This is one of the most-read leadership articles of 2014. Click here to see the full list. It has increasingly become accepted that emotional intelligence is an important factor in our success and happiness, not only at work, but in our relationships and all areas of our lives. So what sets emotionally intelligent people apart? Here are seven habits that people with high EI have: 1. They Focus on the Positive While not ignoring the bad news, emotionally intelligent people have made a conscious decision to not spend a lot of time and energy focusing on problems. 2. People with a lot of emotional intelligence don’t spend a lot of time listening to complainers and tend to avoid negative people.

Emotionally intelligent people spend time with others that are positive and look upon the bright side of life. 3. Although their friendly, open nature may make them appear as pushovers to some, people with high EI are able to set boundaries and assert themselves when needed. 4. 5. 6. 7. 30 Things to Stop Doing to Yourself. #10 Is An Absolute Must.

Scared Of Failing? Ask Yourself These 6 Fear-Killing Questions. [Editor’s note: The following is the first in a three-part series of posts adapted from Warren Berger’s new book, A More Beautiful Question (Bloomsbury), for which he spoke with top designers, tech innovators, entrepreneurs, and leading creative thinkers to explore the art (and innovative potential) of asking the right questions.] *** Here’s a question: What would you attempt to do if you knew you could not fail?

If that question seems familiar, it should. One of the hallmarks of a powerful question is that it gets passed around, and among innovators I spoke with in the tech industry, this one has been making the rounds perhaps more than any other--quoted by everyone from Google’s Regina Dugan to Sebastian Thrun at Udacity and Airbnb co-founder Joe Gebbia. Interestingly, the question did not originate in Silicon Valley.

“If you really ask yourself this question,” Dugan told the TED audience, “you can’t help but feel uncomfortable.” So by asking What if I could not fail? Marilyn Monroe’s Unpublished Poems: The Complex Private Person Behind the Public Persona. By Maria Popova “Only parts of us will ever touch only parts of others.” Did you ever begin Ulysses? Did you ever finish it? Marilyn Monroe did both. She took great pains to be photographed reading or holding a book — insistence born not out of vain affectation but of a genuine love of literature. But her private poetry — fragmentary, poem-like texts scribbled in notebooks and on loose-leaf paper, published for the first time in Fragments: Poems, Intimate Notes, Letters (public library) — reveals a complex, sensitive being who peered deeply into her own psyche and thought intensely about the world and other people.

Only parts of us will ever touch only parts of others – one’s own truth is just that really — one’s own truth. Life – I am of both of your directionsLife Somehow remaining hanging downward the most but strong as a cobweb in the wind — I exist more with the cold glistening frost. In her 1955-1956 Italian diary engraved in green, she writes: Images courtesy of FSG // thanks, Sean. A Simple Exercise to Increase Well-Being and Lower Depression from Martin Seligman, Founding Father of Positive Psychology.

By Maria Popova You’ll need pen, paper, and a silencer for cynicism. “When [a man] has fair health, a fair fortune, a tidy conscience and a complete exemption from embarrassing relatives,” Henry James wrote in his diary, “I suppose he is bound, in delicacy, to write himself happy.” More than a mere philosophical contemplation, however, James’s observation presages the findings of modern psychology in the quest to reverse-engineer the art-science of happiness. No one has addressed the eternal question of what begets happiness with more rigor and empirical dedication than Dr. Martin Seligman, founding father of Positive Psychology — a movement premised on countering the traditional “disease model” of psychology, which focuses on how to relieve suffering rather than how to amplify well-being. Close your eyes. This somewhat self-consciousness-inducing exercise, Seligman promises, will make you happier and less depressed a mere month from now.

He then offers his empirically tested antidote: Love in the Age of Data: How One Woman Hacked Her Way to Happily Ever After. By Maria Popova Reverse-engineering the algorithms of romance, one picky data point at a time. The question of how love works has bedeviled writers and scientists for centuries. But how do the dynamics of romance differ in the age of online dating? In Data, A Love Story: How I Gamed Online Dating to Meet My Match (public library; UK), digital strategist and journalist Amy Webb — one of the smartest people I know — takes us on her unexpected journey to true love, in which she sets out to “game the system, using math, data, and loopholes” to find the man of her dreams.

Amy writes in the introduction: I realized that we’ve all been going about finding our matches the wrong way. After a series of bad dates following a major heartbreak, mathematically-driven Amy decided to take a quantitative approach to the playing field and started systematically recording various data points about her dates, revealing some important correlations. Amy writes: Donating = Loving Share on Tumblr. How To Overcome Self-Doubt And A Lack of Motivation. This morning I didn’t feel like doing anything. It’s a combination of overtiredness from a few days of hard work, and a lack of sleep last night. I couldn’t motivate myself to do anything important this morning, which is a rare thing for me.

And I just felt bad in general. I started to doubt myself, and wonder whether anything I do is worthwhile. I sat here in this funk and wondered how to get out of it. Should I just forget about today? Should I just give up what I do, because I’m not as good at it as I thought I was? That was definitely what I was considering. Here’s what I did that worked, in hopes that it might help you if these feelings ever come up.. 1. I think we all have the tendency to put ourselves at the center of the universe, and see everything from the viewpoint of how it affects us. 2. We all have this picture of ourselves, this idea of what kind of person we are. 3. I only have so many days left on earth. 4. It can be hard to get moving when you are stuck. The Very Best Love Advice on Yahoo Answers. Let's say it straight: Yahoo Answers can be a little, well, inane at times.

It's a spelling and grammar disaster area that would send your Language Arts teacher heading for the hills. All technicalities aside, there is something special about the Yahoo Answers community — its users really care. Navigating the stormy seas of the heart is no easy task, and these users are there to share their expertise and provide solace for the broken-hearted. And if they have no answers, they're right behind you with a "hey girl, he doesn't deserve you. " Sometimes that's all you need. See below for the most insightful, heartwarming relationship advice from the Yahoo Answers community. 1. 2. 3. 4. 5. 6. 7. 8. 9. 10. 11. 12. 13. 14. 15. 16. 17. 18. 19. 20. 21. 22. Images courtesy of Yahoo Answers.

Frisson. There's More to Life Than Being Happy - Emily Esfahani Smith. "It is the very pursuit of happiness that thwarts happiness. " Kacper Pempel/Reuters In September 1942, Viktor Frankl, a prominent Jewish psychiatrist and neurologist in Vienna, was arrested and transported to a Nazi concentration camp with his wife and parents. Three years later, when his camp was liberated, most of his family, including his pregnant wife, had perished -- but he, prisoner number 119104, had lived. In his bestselling 1946 book, Man's Search for Meaning , which he wrote in nine days about his experiences in the camps, Frankl concluded that the difference between those who had lived and those who had died came down to one thing: Meaning, an insight he came to early in life.

When he was a high school student , one of his science teachers declared to the class, "Life is nothing more than a combustion process, a process of oxidation. " Frankl worked as a therapist in the camps, and in his book, he gives the example of two suicidal inmates he encountered there. As Anna S. Happiness Means Being Just Rushed Enough. “Everybody knows” that the pace of daily life is speeding up, accelerated by the proliferation of mobile phones, tablets, WiFi and other communication technologies and by fallout from the 2007 economic crisis.

As if anyone needed reminding of this trend, book titles echoing the faster-paced theme include The Overworked American and Busy Bodies in the early 1990s through to Faster, Fighting for Time, and Busier Than Ever. However, despite this broad consensus, and its obvious health and quality-of-life implications, there seems little empirical survey evidence that daily life is truly speeding up.

In that 1965 survey, we found 24 percent of respondents aged 18-64 said they “always” felt rushed, and 48 percent said they had no excess time. When we repeated the questions in the 1990s, these figures had risen to 35 percent “always” rushed and 55 percent with no excess time, where they remained, more or less, until we last asked the questions in a 2004 survey.

20 Things Leaders Should Say More. It’s not always some big, flowery, masterfully delivered declaration that teams need to hear from their leaders. Often it’s the little things–small phrases or statements that can change the tone and feel of your workplace environment. Teams and leaders who are embracing their humanness and therefore working toward building vulnerability-based trust will undoubtedly even sound different from teams and leaders who aren’t. What might that sound like? Here are some things leaders should say more: 1. I was wrong. 2. 3. 4. 5. 6. 7. 8. 9. 10. 11. 12. 13. 14. 15. 16. 17. 18. 19. 20. What others can you think of? How to master your life - Leading a better life - Quora. It’s a game where you lead a person’s complete life with a mouse. Want to talk to that girl right there? Just click on her and pick something: Left to their own devices, your Sim will do whatever they feel like, which is usually strikingly stupid.

(In real life, that may sound familiar). You interrupt your Sim’s autopilot by giving them sage instructions, like “read a book” or “stare at that girl’s butt”.Being successful at The Sims is very easy. It’s just like real life, except without a barrier between what you decide and what you do. Say you want to get fit. In real life you think about getting fit. The second lesson from The Sims is to nurture your state.If your Sim is tired, desperate for company or wetting themselves, they won’t get much done. The third lesson from The Sims is to build selected skills.Almost every action your Sim can take makes them better at something. Don’t work. Be hated. Love someone. - Half & Half.

4 Difficult Ways to Simplify Your Life (That Are Worth It) #2. No One's Keeping Score Getty There's an important distinction I want to make right up front: Earlier this week, my co-worker David Wong explained how you might be accidentally making people hate you because they feel you owe them one. He's right. That sort of thing happens all the time. I'm not trying to contradict him, even though one person believing that another owes them might sound like a score is being kept. That's not what I'm talking about. I'm saying that no one is keeping track of how many times in your life you were right. Photos.com"You were wrong: No Oompa Loompas died filming The Wizard of Oz. I help make this show about people arguing over pop culture at a diner because, before I worked at Cracked, I used to argue over pop culture at a diner with friends of mine.

The '90s were a confusing time. This was before smartphones, so we usually just let the argument die. Totally insufferable. The bottom line? Photos.comAbove: The Universe. #1. Photos.comAka writing with liquor. How to I got over my Fear of Writing | Get Your Head Into It. One Failure a Day… | Get Your Head Into It. 6 Possible Secrets to Happiness, According to Science. Discomfort Zone: How to Master the Universe. 15 Books That Will Help You Prosper and Be Happy in Your Career. 12 Things Successful People Do Differently. You'll Never Forget Your Twenties, Because That's When You Become Who You Are. 10 Things Lucky People Do Differently.

How to Do What You Love. 95 Questions to Help You Find Meaning and Happiness. Nathan Heller: The Twentysomethings Are All Right. Raw Nerve. How to Find Your Purpose and Do What You Love. TED Playlists | What makes us happy? There is only one way in this world to achieve. Making Progress. John McAfee: "The More Ugly The Woman, The Better The Sex" 6 Harsh Truths That Will Make You a Better Person.