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No Offense, But I Was Just Kidding: Dealing with Mean Jokes. “When girls say ‘just kidding,’ what percentage of the time are they really joking?” It’s one of my favorite questions to ask girls, and I rarely hear numbers in double digits. That’s because “just kidding,” and its cousin, “no offense,” are phrases girls (and guys, though less frequently) use to hurt each other without having to own up.

The phrases seem fairly innocuous, cute little jabs that aren’t supposed to leave a mark. They allow you to say something mean and still appear to be a likable Good Girl. To be sure, not every instance of “just kidding” should raise our hackles. To understand this more clearly, consider that every act of aggression can be divided into two parts: intent and impact. This logic is dangerous for two reasons. If you’re a girl with a friend who makes mean jokes, try this: Ask her to respect your feelings.

Ask her what’s really bothering her. If you’re a parent or teacher and have a “just kidding” epidemic at home or in your classroom, try this: Modern Socio Paths. Wholly Being. All in the Telling. WORLD VIEWS. Giving. ALL Behaviours Begin at Home. WORLD VIEWS. Etipedia Home. Happiness Alliance home of The Happiness Initiative & GNH Index - Home. Statement of beliefs of the Ontario Consultants on Religious Tolerance (OCRT) About this website Sponsored link. The importance of faith/belief statements: We feel that every denomination, para-church organization, religious group, and religious web site should consider creating a statement of belief or faith and displaying it prominently.

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It doesn’t matter who had the better argument or was just plain right, rock paper scissors triumphs over all. The rules are basic: make a fist with one hand and make a flat place to slam your fist against with the other. Say “rock, paper, scissors” and on scissors you must make your final move. When my littlest brother was first learning these complicated rules, the best 2 out of 3 was lost on him. Luckily my family is now older, wiser, and more mature. Like this: Like Loading...

#956 Using Rock-Paper-Scissors to settle anything. While traveling on a road trip across the US last year, my friends Ty, Chris, and I ended up staying at a hotel that had two beautiful double beds cordoned off in private rooms, and one thin piece of felt spread over a hard metal frame in the middle of the common area. Clearly, there were two good places to sleep and one joke of a pull-out bed that came with a free Day Full Of Back Pain at no extra charge.

So we stood in the front hallway and surveyed the situation, bags in hand, stern looks on our faces. We knew decisions needed to be made, and quick. After sleeping in basements and on motel floors for a week, we all finally had a chance at getting a good night’s sleep. We had to settle it. Well, first of all, we ended up giving Chris one of the rooms, since he actually found the place and we were driving his car. It was a gift and Chris took it immediately, without a word, leaving Ty and I to fight over the remaining room. Quickly, we took care of logistics. And so it began. Essays | The Daily Opium. Just days ago, the Social Weather Stations (SWS) survey found out that the number of unemployed Filipinos increased in the last quarter of 2013 to a dismaying 12.1 million. The […] Read Article → “Suppose there is an evil that justice cannot bring down. What would you do? Would you taint your hands with evil to destroy evil?

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And they were confident these stories could change lives, both within the community and around the world. In late 2008, the concept was first tested when one of the friends went to South Sudan and gave cameras to kids at an orphanage. The photos that returned were remarkable. In a hard place that most would call hopeless, these images told a different story: one full of life, hope, and joy. Our four friends wanted to share the stories of these kids with their friends. With the success of these events and encouragement from family and friends, 100cameras officially incorporated in Spring 2009. Four years, 36 students and $36,000 later, the 100cameras team has proven their concepts works. Quilt As Art - Accomplishments. Africa Experience 2012 Our purpose in going to Africa was to provide young women and men with a skill they could use to earn a living.

Africa is known for its beautiful fabrics, but they only use these fabrics to make garments or sell as is. Most tourists don’t sew, or wear African garments at home, so we felt that if we could teach how to make quilted items from their fabrics, they would be able to sell them to the tourists that visit their country each year. I was the lead teacher for this adventure that took us to Tanzania. There were seven of us, including four teachers, Hope Edwards, Vicky Mulkey, Elizabeth Kruger, and myself; two husbands, Ernie McCraw and James Mulkey, and Nell Matthews, the coordinator of the trip who had lived in Tanzania.

We first visited the Angaza Women’s Center which provides an education for rural girls and women in a number of different areas--nutrition, food services and sewing to name a few. Our second visit was to the Usa River Rehabilitation Center. Marriage Math. In the world of relationships, the most important numbers to learn are: five to one. That is the ratio of positive interactions to negative ones that predicts whether a marriage will last or become one of the sad statistics of divorce. It isn't that you can't argue with your spouse. But the couples that make it also manage to deliver positive emotional messages even when they don't see eye to eye. "When the masters of marriage are talking about something important, they may be arguing, but they are also laughing and teasing and there are signs of affection because they have made emotional connections," says psychologist John Gottman, Ph.D., who has developed a mathematical model of relationships.

"But a lot of people don't know how to connect or how to build a sense of humor, and this means that a lot of fighting that couples engage in is a failure to make emotional connections. The Masters of Marriage is Gottman's term for the long-term happily married. Spirituality, Political Engagement, and Public Life — Programs. Home — Social Science Research Council. Reimagining Psychiatry in Rural India - Christie Thompson. By bridging physical and cultural divides to meet the needs of drastically underserved populations in India, advocates may end up creating a model for the rest of the world. A mobile telepsychiatry clinic [Thompson] Sathya, a 25-year-old woman from a rural village outside Chennai, India, was 18 when she started throwing stones at worshippers going to pray at the temple next door to her home.

She grew angry, refused to help her mother with chores, and would often wander away. Earlier that year, Sathya had been raped by a classmate. After years of angry behavior, Sathya's mother sought treatment from a Hindu healer for 10,000 rupees (roughly $180). Last year, treatment came to them. "No one will marry a mentally ill girl. " The RV was a mobile telepsychiatry clinic, a project of the Chennai-based nonprofit Schizophrenia Research Foundation (SCARF).

But Indian mental health advocates say simply training more psychiatrists isn't the answer. Mckaysavage/Flickr "[Medication] is an easy option. About | frequencies. Frequencies | a collaborative genealogy of spirituality. The Center for Evidence-Based Mentoring. Partners MENTOR/National Mentoring Partnership For more than 20 years, MENTOR: The National Mentoring Partnership (MENTOR) has been the lead champion for youth mentoring in the United States. MENTOR helps children by providing a public voice, developing and delivering resources to mentoring programs nationwide and promoting quality for mentoring through standards, cutting-edge research and state of the art tools. MENTOR works closely with State Mentoring Partnerships and more than 5,000 mentoring programs and volunteer centers throughout the country, serving more than three million children in all 50 states. MENTOR serves young people between the ages of 6 and 18, and its work over the last two decades has helped millions of young people find the support and guidance they need to build productive and meaningful lives.

UMass Boston. Etiquette | Etiquette Scholar. The Third Teacher" How to Not Suck at Meetings. Path to Freedom Urban Homestead. Weapons of Influence in the War of Ideas. HOME | Guyland: The Perilous World Where Boys Become Men. List of rampage killers. This is a partial list of rampage killings. It is further divided into several subsections.

This list shall contain every case with at least one of the following features: Rampage killings with six or more dead (excluding the perpetrator)Rampage killings with at least four people killed and a double digit number of victims (dead plus injured)Rampage killings with at least a dozen victims (dead plus injured) In the tables that follow, the "W" column indicates the weapon, or weapons, used. Details are listed in the Annotation section.

Africa and the Middle East[edit] Only the first 15 entries are shown here. This section contains cases that occurred in Africa and the Middle East. Americas[edit] Only the first 15 entries are shown here. This section contains cases that occurred in the Americas. Not included are school massacres, workplace killings, hate crimes or familicides, which form their own categories. Asia[edit] Only the first 15 entries are shown here. Europe[edit] Workplace killings[edit] Our Partners. Someone you know ill? Watch what you say, and to whom. (Illustration by Wes Bausmith…) When Susan had breast cancer, we heard a lot of lame remarks, but our favorite came from one of Susan's colleagues. She wanted, she needed, to visit Susan after the surgery, but Susan didn't feel like having visitors, and she said so. Her colleague's response? "This isn't just about you. " "It's not?

" Susan wondered. The same theme came up again when our friend Katie had a brain aneurysm. YEAR IN REVIEW: 10 tips for a better life from The Times' Op-Ed pages in 2013 This woman loves Katie, and she said what she did because the sight of Katie in this condition moved her so deeply. Susan has since developed a simple technique to help people avoid this mistake. Draw a circle. Here are the rules. Everyone else can say those things too, but only to people in larger rings.

When you are talking to a person in a ring smaller than yours, someone closer to the center of the crisis, the goal is to help. Comfort IN, dump OUT. Most of us know this. And don't worry.  Bioethics. Bioethics established itself in the late 1960s as a field concerned with the ethical and philosophical implications of certain biological and medical procedures, technologies, and treatments. Early issues included end-of-life decision-making, organ donation, and human experimentation.

Human biotechnology became a concern when the first bioethics institutes were established in the early 1970s. This attention skyrocketed in 1990 when the U.S. Human Genome Project earmarked 3% to 5% of its $3 billion federal budget to the Ethical, Legal, and Social Implications (ELSI) research program, making its activities the world's largest bioethics program. Bioethics initially represented diverse ethical philosophies.

This shift has been unfortunate for the public's understanding. The role of bioethics has been further compromised by its increasing financial and professional ties to the biotech industry. ELSI - Human Genome Project. Center for Engineering, Ethics, and Society (CEES) Areas of Interest: Ethics Project Type: NAE Program Latest Update: February 3, 2014 The Center for Engineering, Ethics, and Society (CEES) focuses the talents of the nation on addressing the ethical and social dimensions of engineering, as both a profession and an agent of innovation. Addressing Issues CEES activities address ethically significant issues that arise in engineering and scientific research, education, and practice.

Sharing Knowledge CEES manages the Online Ethics Center (OEC), a popular electronic repository of resources on science, engineering, and research ethics, for engineers, scientists, scholars, educators, students, and interested citizens. Expanding Perspectives For further information on CEES and its origins, see the history page. Ethical, Legal, and Social Issues --Genome Research. This page is an archive, the contents of which provide a snapshot in time--describing potential societal concerns arising from increased knowledge of our personal DNA as described and studied during the HGP (1990-2003). The content of this page is as it was at the close of the project with the exception of minor repairs such as the removal of broken links. The U.S. Department of Energy (DOE) and the National Institutes of Health (NIH) devoted 3% to 5% of their annual Human Genome Project (HGP) budgets toward studying the ethical, legal, and social issues (ELSI) surrounding availability of genetic information.

At the time, this represented the world's largest bioethics program, and it become a model for ELSI programs around the world. To learn more about the ELSI research funded by DOE HGP, see the ELSI Research page. Also, NIH NHGRI continues to fund ELSI research. Who should have access to personal genetic information, and how will it be used? Who owns and controls genetic information? Societal Gumbo. Seriously? Issues. Family Matters. Ethos of Us. Agree Ability. Genderealization. Biology. Genomics. Biological Health. New Ethics. Neo Eco Ethica.