Hedgehog's dilemma. Both Arthur Schopenhauer and Sigmund Freud have used this situation to describe what they feel is the state of individual in relation to others in society. The hedgehog's dilemma suggests that despite goodwill, human intimacy cannot occur without substantial mutual harm, and what results is cautious behavior and weak relationships. With the hedgehog's dilemma, one is recommended to use moderation in affairs with others both because of self-interest, as well as out of consideration for others. The hedgehog's dilemma is used to explain introversion and isolationism. Schopenhauer[edit] The concept originates in the following parable from the German philosopher Arthur Schopenhauer's Parerga und Paralipomena, Volume II, Chapter XXXI, Section 396:[1] A number of porcupines huddled together for warmth on a cold day in winter; but, as they began to prick one another with their quills, they were obliged to disperse.
Freud[edit] Social psychological research[edit] References[edit] Generic Love. Some years ago I was having dinner with my girlfriend, Liz; among other items on my plate was a heaping mound of mashed potatoes. When Liz noticed I had finished eating all of my potatoes, she instantly ladled another scoop onto my plate, without asking. She had done this before, and I felt I needed to say something: "Please don't automatically give me more food without checking first to see if I want more. " "Oh. Sorry. " It was a short-lived but friendly relationship, and about six months later she was living happily with a new man, one of my housemates, Steve. Meanwhile, I was formulating a theory about love: it's nothing personal. I began to reflect on my previous relationship, with Cathy.
Again, I got it: love is generic. My personal idiosyncrasy in love is that I like for both of us to have the same cute little pet name for each other. With Noodles, it eventually became clear that our generic love styles really didn't match. "Who is it? " "Rochel, the shoemaker's daughter. " "Rochel? The Top 10 Psychology Studies of 2010. The end of 2010 fast approaches, and I'm thrilled to have been asked by the editors of Psychology Today to write about the Top 10 psychology studies of the year. I've focused on studies that I personally feel stand out, not only as examples of great science, but even more importantly, as examples of how the science of psychology can improve our lives.
Each study has a clear "take home" message, offering the reader an insight or a simple strategy they can use to reach their goals , strengthen their relationships, make better decisions, or become happier. If you extract the wisdom from these ten studies and apply them in your own life, 2011 just might be a very good year. 1) How to Break Bad Habits If you are trying to stop smoking , swearing, or chewing your nails, you have probably tried the strategy of distracting yourself - taking your mind off whatever it is you are trying not to do - to break the habit. J. 2) How to Make Everything Seem Easier J. 3) How To Manage Your Time Better M. J. Get Anyone to Like You – Instantly – Guaranteed.
Get anyone to like you - Instantly - Guaranteed If you want people to like you, make them feel good about themselves. This golden rule of friendship works every time - guaranteed! The principle is straightforward. If I meet you and make you feel good about yourself, you will like me and seek every opportunity to see me again to reconstitute the same good feeling you felt the first time we met. The simple communication techniques that follow will help you keep the focus of the conversation on the person you are talking to and make them feel good about themselves.
The Big Three Our brains continually scan the environment for friend or foe signals. Eyebrow Flash The eyebrow flash is a quick up and down movement of the eyebrows. Head Tilt The head tilt is a slight tilt of the head to one side or the other. Smile A smile sends the message "I like you. " Empathic Statements Empathic statements keep the focus on the other person.
Example 1 George : I've been really busy this week. Example 2 Flattery. Color Psychology. By David Johnson Like death and taxes, there is no escaping color. It is ubiquitous. Yet what does it all mean? Why are people more relaxed in green rooms? Why do weightlifters do their best in blue gyms? Colors often have different meanings in various cultures. And even in Western societies, the meanings of various colors have changed over the years. Black Black is the color of authority and power. White Brides wear white to symbolize innocence and purity. Red The most emotionally intense color, red stimulates a faster heartbeat and breathing. The most romantic color, pink, is more tranquilizing. Blue The color of the sky and the ocean, blue is one of the most popular colors. Green Currently the most popular decorating color, green symbolizes nature. Yellow Cheerful sunny yellow is an attention getter.
Purple The color of royalty, purple connotes luxury, wealth, and sophistication. Brown Solid, reliable brown is the color of earth and is abundant in nature. Colors of the Flag Food for Thought. Psychology stuff. Self Development. BUSINESS TIPS. Steve Jobs and the Seven Rules of Success. Innovators push the boundaries of the known world. They're change agents who are relentless in making things happen and bringing ideas to execution. Steve Jobs' impact on your life cannot be overestimated. His innovations have likely touched nearly every aspect -- computers, movies, music and mobile. As a communications coach, I learned from Jobs that a presentation can, indeed, inspire. For entrepreneurs, Jobs' greatest legacy is the set of principles that drove his success.
Over the years, I've become a student of sorts of Jobs' career and life. 1. 2. Related: Steve Jobs' Surprising First Business Venture 3. 4. 5. Related: 10 Things to Thank Steve Jobs For 6. 7. There's one story that I think sums up Jobs' career at Apple. Related: Remembering Apple's Steve Jobs Carmine Gallo is the author of TALK LIKE TED: The 9 Public Speaking Secrets of The World's Top Minds.
10 Business Skills Creative Professionals Need to Succeed. Approaching your job as a writer, designer or photographer with a little business acumen can give you more time to ply your craft, more brain power to fuel your creativity and more money in your bank account. The following tips can help build your business expertise. Hit the Books Don’t just sharpen your creative skills; feed your brain with knowledge applicable to all industries. James Nolen, lecturer at the McCombs School of Business at the University of Texas at Austin, suggests taking at least one basic business course from a community college or continuing-education program. “Learn about business models and business jargon,” Nolen says.
Then you can speak the same language as the people you support. Understand the Market and the Brand Do your homework. Aim for the Bottom Line The goal may be to increase sales in a certain area or deflect attention from, say, negative news coverage. Network Building your network can help build your net worth. Communicate Effectively Know Your Numbers. Promoting Your Freelance Design Business with Social Media. With the many privatized design agencies it’s common to see freelancers growing in numbers. Illustrators and digital artists are among the most prominent with freelance graphics and design work. It requires a skilled artisan to juggle project works with freelance time management and business ethics. Marketing is possibly one of the biggest considerations when first launching your own business. Whether working alone or with a few partners you won’t be advancing anywhere without some startup clients and referrals.
And although it seems difficult these days to land work I’ve added a few tricks for marketing on the viral web for social media newbies. As the Internet has expanded to include all cultures of people the audience has been growing. Build Your Presence The first step before any other is to make sure your brand is out there. This means find a branding and stick to it like glue. Examples of these are included below in no particular order.
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