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Toxic Couple Relationships – Five Protective Neural Patterns & Role Scripts (1 of 4) Love that turns toxic is neither healthy nor genuine, though the intentions of each partner are often well-meaning.

Toxic Couple Relationships – Five Protective Neural Patterns & Role Scripts (1 of 4)

A couple relationship can be described as toxic when, due to emotional reactivity and defensive reaction patterns, it no longer promotes, and instead harms the mental, emotional and, or physical health, well-being and growth of each partner. The relationship is increasingly off balance, a factor that is affected by and directly affects the individual inner sense of balance, health and safety of each partner. In contrast, genuine love is an empathic connection that recognizes the authentic other and self as separate and unique beings, even encouraging the individuality of each as essential to the formation of healthy intimacy in a relationship. Perhaps nowhere is the toxicity of this pre-conditioned reactivity more intensely evident, however, than the couple relationship. Toxic Neural Patterns – Scripted Roles In a toxic relationship, relating is off balance. 1. 2. 3. 4.

Six Things Happy Couples Do Differently than the Rest (Based on Research) Happy couples do specific things that ensure satisfaction.

Six Things Happy Couples Do Differently than the Rest (Based on Research)

Here Are 4 Ways We’re Accidentally Teaching Kids That Consent Doesn't Matter. [music] Paige: We all want our kids to learn about consent.

Here Are 4 Ways We’re Accidentally Teaching Kids That Consent Doesn't Matter

Parenting Approaches. Quit the Matrix - Build the Ark. Julian Rose, Contributing WriterWaking Times Once one has got a reasonable handle on ‘what’s wrong’ the next step involves putting into place something ‘that feels right’.

Quit the Matrix - Build the Ark

Not so easy. 30 Things to Stop Doing to Yourself. 25 Quotes That Will Inspire You To Be A Fearless Writer. 13 Small Choices That Can Change Your Life In Great Ways. While practicing neuropsychiatry and studying neuroscience for 40 years, my interest expanded from the human brain to include evidence of mind throughout nature—in animals, plants, microbes, and other cells.

13 Small Choices That Can Change Your Life In Great Ways

Amazingly, even plants and cells have intelligence, which means that science isn't all we've been taught to believe. From my decades of research, there are simple important things that I wish everyone knew. Some of these small choices and new ways of looking at the world could change your life in great ways. 1. Get plenty of sleep. Sleep is more important than most people realize. 2. Napping can increase memory and creativity. 3. Memory is not fixed. 4. If there is one magic bullet for increased body and brain health, including increased memory, it is sensible regular exercise. “Inner Beauty Doesn’t Exist” Oh lawdy lawd.

“Inner Beauty Doesn’t Exist”

Ok, many of my blog posts are often prompted by people being assholes, and me explaining exactly what about their behavior makes them crappy human beings. Osmel Sousa, the president of the popular Miss Venezuela beauty pageant, pretty much takes the trophy for crappy human being of the day (because there’s always a new one tomorrow). The following video, produced by the NY Times, is only about 5 minutes long, but if you don’t feel like watching it, Sousa’s opening statement pretty much sums it up: “Inner beauty doesn’t exist,” he claims, “it is something that unpretty women invented to justify themselves.”

(He says this with a really creepy smile on his face, then laughs.) The first issue with this statement was summed up really well by Erika Nicole Kendall, another blogger whom I admire very much: Props to Kendall for calling this guy out on what he’s really trying to say: If a woman is not physically beautiful, then she doesn’t have any value. Look Up. Love Your Kids. Leave Them Alone: The Art of Radical Parenting. ~ Kristin S. ... I was driving home with my two daughters, then four and six years old, when my cell phone rang.

Love Your Kids. Leave Them Alone: The Art of Radical Parenting. ~ Kristin S. ...

I glanced at it, knowing what I was in for if I picked it up. The moment I turned my attention away from them they would suddenly become boisterous and probably pick a fight with each other. How to turn your kids into bookworms. Books can become an expensive habit, but you need to have a lot around, and get new ones regularly or even an avid reader will eventually tire of the same stories.

How to turn your kids into bookworms

The first and cheapest solution is, of course, Public libraries Go to the library, hand out there to read or take the books home. In the hot summer days, libraries are particularly nice places to hang out. 10 Ways To Talk To Your Kids About Sexual Abuse. (Content Warning: Sexual abuse, sexual violence) The idea of someone molesting your child is terrifying for any parent (unless the parent is the child molester, which is 37% of the time).

10 Ways To Talk To Your Kids About Sexual Abuse

The pain, fear, and trauma they may experience at such a young age are frightening to consider. It’s enough to make any parent freak out and want to never ever think about it again. And then we hope it will just never happen to our own child. Except your daughter has a 1 in 4 chance and your son has a 1 in 6 chance of being molested before the age of 18.

I know you don’t want to hear it or believe it. And these statistics are too high for any parent to risk staying uninformed about the reality of child sexual abuse and not talking to their child about it. On top of that, the majority of children never report sexual abuse when it’s happening. Now, you can never protect your child fully from ever being molested.