Self-esteem. History The identification of self-esteem as a distinct psychological construct is thought to have its origins in the work of philosopher and psychologist, William James (1892). James identified multiple dimensions of the self, with two levels of hierarchy: processes of knowing (called the 'I-self') and the resulting knowledge about the self (the `Me-self').
9 Signs of Healthy Self-Esteem - Tina Gilbertson. What do you think of a person who always speaks well of others?
Does she have high or low self-esteem? You could argue that in order to speak well of others, one must think highly enough of oneself not to be threatened by other people’s excellence. Such a person could be thought to enjoy healthy self-esteem. On the other hand, you might say that a person who always speaks highly of others is a people-pleaser who suffers from low self-esteem. So which is it? A single trait or behavior by itself isn’t a good indicator of self-esteem. 1. I’m not talking about sex. Sharing ourselves with others feels dangerous if we fear we won’t measure up.
Are You a Self-Esteem Junkie? The Unexpected Dark Side. Of course we all want to feel good about ourselves!
Striving for success, accomplishing goals, feeling appreciated are all a part of a healthy life well lived. But is there a point at which the pursuit of subjective self worth can trip us up? Like anything in excess, self-esteem can have a dark side, and it may not be exactly what you think! Do You Outsource Your Self-Esteem to Relationships? Why You Have to Love Yourself First. Bruce Lee on Self-Actualization and the Crucial Difference Between Pride and Self-Esteem. “Real self-esteem is an integration of an inner value with things in the world around you,” Anna Deavere Smith wrote in her invaluable advice to young artists.
But how does one master the intricacies of that integration? That’s what legendary Chinese-American martial artist, philosopher, and filmmaker Bruce Lee (November 27, 1940–July 20, 1973) explores in one of the pieces collected in Bruce Lee: Artist of Life (public library) — the invaluable compendium of his never-before-published private letters, notes, essays, and poems that also gave us the origin of his famous metaphor for resilience.
In an essay titled “The Passionate State of Mind,” Lee writes: Our lack of self-awareness, Lee argues, makes us look to others to tell us who we are. (Learning not to do that is one of life’s hardest, most important lessons.) We have more faith in what we imitate than in what we originate. Self Esteem vs Self Compassion.
Life can be hard. And who is usually hardest on you? Yourself. There’s that negative voice in your head criticizing you. And sometimes you can’t shut it up. So the answer is to boost your self-esteem, right? But it’s had some negative effects on the world too — like an epidemic of narcissism. Via Self-Compassion: This emphasis on high self-esteem at all costs has also led to a worrying trend toward increasing narcissism. Oh, and there’s one other teensy weensy little problem with trying to boost self-esteem to deal with that critical voice… It doesn’t work. Self-Esteem Ain’t The Answer This focus on improving self-esteem got to the point where the State of California started a task force and gave it $250,000 a year to raise children’s self-esteem. They expected this to boost grades and reduce bullying, crime, teen pregnancy and drug abuse. Guess what? What?!? Three Common Mind Traps that Sink Happiness. There’s a funny print cartoon that shows a man and woman sitting on the couch staring at a TV screen, and the caption reads, “It’s 12 o’clock, do you know where your mind is?”
As time goes on and we grow from children to adolescents to adults, for many of us, somewhere along the way life begins to become routine. Day in and day out, whether we’re walking, driving, talking, eating, going to the grocery store, or spending time with our families, our minds get kicked into auto-pilot and continue to develop their habitual ways of thinking, interpreting, expecting, and relating to other people. However, these habits also include habits of the mind that can keep us stuck in stress, anxiety, depression, or even addictive behaviors.
Here are a few habits of the mind and a mindfulness practice to help you break out of auto-pilot and gain more control over your life. Three Common Habits that Sink Happiness: