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What is stopping you from getting what you want in life? Your friends? Your family? A sense that failure – or success – might change your life and that feeling uncomfortable? A sense that the people around you might disapprove of you aiming for what you want, of you succeeding or failing. Essentially it boils down to fear.
Disclaimer: As someone who has indulged in some pretty horrific displays of self-loathing in the recent past, the following advice has my name written all over it. Possibly, it has your name written all over it. What follows is not a holier-than-thou critique, but a much-needed dose of tough love. This is a safe place, self-loathing friend.
According to Love Twenty , women in their twenties are supposed to read diet books and novels about shopping. I disagree. Here are my suggestions for novels you should read if you’re a woman in your twenties. 1. The Awakening
1. Go to the beach, duh! Beaches and summer go together like fashion and anorexia; you really can’t have one without the other. Spend a day frolicking in the ocean and laying in the sand with a mindless book. (I suggest Most Talkative , Andy Cohen’s light and ultimately forgettable memoir, if only for the embarrassing “I’m gay in the 80s!”
1. Bugs Bugs suck. They look like scary little aliens who want to kill us and eat our remains, and they’re dirty/gross. But they’re everywhere, and there’s nothing we can do about it.
1. Don’t feel the need to respond to every text message, phone call, and email the second it reaches you. Once upon a time, it took longer than a minute to reach someone. People used stamps and envelopes; they had answering machines they didn’t check for hours, sometimes days. No one will die if you don’t immediately respond to every message you receive.
1. Realize that your problems are everyone’s problems. It’s easy to work yourself into an insane kind of paranoia/depression about the current state of affairs. You have a lot of debt, jobs are really hard to find, you’re not getting paid enough, you might have to move in with your parents, you feel lied to by every authority figure to ever come into your life from the age of five. Guess what, though? So does everyone else.
My parents’ house has always been a repository for things, a sort of free storage space. My brother and I would leave our stuff there during our “in between” stages of life; when we were in college, or traveling, or out of college and living in apartments too small to actually fit things in. Clothes we haven’t worn for years but might later, old furniture, physics notes from high school that could come in handy someday, art prints our exes left us, Polaroids. Stuff. Just stuff you accumulate along the way and never get around to throwing out. But: my mother recently got this flash of inspiration to do some renovating or vague home-improvement thing and informed me I can’t keep my stuff there anymore.
1. “Wear sunscreen. If I could offer you only one tip for the future, sunscreen would be it.
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A moving collection of iconic photographs from the last 100 years that demonstrate the heartbreak of loss, the tremendous power of loyalty, and the triumph of the human spirit. Warning: Some of these will make you weep. Earthrise: A photo taken by astronaut William Anders during the Apollo 8 mission in 1968. Phyllis Siegel, 76, left, and Connie Kopelov, 84, both of New York, embrace after becoming the first same-sex couple to get married at the Manhattan City Clerk’s office in 2011. John F.
1. ”Put your hand on a hot stove for a minute, and it seems like an hour…..” – Albert Einstein 2. ”When you can’t smoke” – Rory Sutherland 3. ”Death does not concern us…” – Epicurus 4. ”I think it’s better to have ideas.” – Chris Rock 5. ”You gotta be able to smile…” 6. ”Thousands of candles can be lit from a single candle…” – Buddha
"How strange is the lot of us mortals! Each of us is here for a brief sojourn; for what purpose he knows not, though he sometimes thinks he senses it. But without deeper reflection one knows from daily life that one exists for other people -- first of all for those upon whose smiles and well-being our own happiness is wholly dependent, and then for the many, unknown to us, to whose destinies we are bound by the ties of sympathy. A hundred times every day I remind myself that my inner and outer life are based on the labors of other men, living and dead, and that I must exert myself in order to give in the same measure as I have received and am still receiving... "I have never looked upon ease and happiness as ends in themselves -- this critical basis I call the ideal of a pigsty. The ideals that have lighted my way, and time after time have given me new courage to face life cheerfully, have been Kindness, Beauty, and Truth.
post written by: Marc Email When you stop chasing the wrong things you give the right things a chance to catch you. As Maria Robinson once said, “Nobody can go back and start a new beginning, but anyone can start today and make a new ending.”