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Habit Hack: The Science Behind How A Habit Is Formed. “Starting next month, I will run three times a week” “After Christmas, I will only eat ice cream once a week maximum” How many of you have tried to start a new habit and failed? Forming a new habit is not an easy task, yet we all know that in order to improve ourselves, creating a new habit (or breaking a bad one) is crucial and unavoidable. As people who love to learn new ways to “hack” our lives, i believe that we need to break down the mechanic of how a habit is created in order to successfully create a new habit.

Charles Duhigg (a Pulifzer-prize winning reporter) wrote a very good book that breaks down the mechanics of habit creation, it is titled “The Power of Habit” (Published in 2012). He argues that habit creation involves three components: 1. The cue is the trigger behind the behavior. What do you do next? The reward is, you get a feeling of relief / satisfaction (and no more anxiety), because you are no longer curious who send the email and what is the email about.

A. B. Raising a Moral Child. Photo What does it take to be a good parent? We know some of the tricks for teaching kids to become high achievers. For example, research suggests that when parents praise effort rather than ability, children develop a stronger work ethic and become more motivated.

Yet although some parents live vicariously through their children’s accomplishments, success is not the No. 1 priority for most parents. Despite the significance that it holds in our lives, teaching children to care about others is no simple task. Are some children simply good-natured — or not? Genetic twin studies suggest that anywhere from a quarter to more than half of our propensity to be giving and caring is inherited. By age 2, children experience some moral emotions — feelings triggered by right and wrong. Many parents believe it’s important to compliment the behavior, not the child — that way, the child learns to repeat the behavior. But is that the right approach? Continue reading the main story.

Jason Fried: Why work doesn't happen at work | Talk Video. Top 5 Reasons Why 'The Customer Is Always Right' Is Wrong | Alexander Kjerulf. One woman who frequently flew on Southwest was constantly disappointed with every aspect of the company's operation. In fact, she became known as the "Pen Pal" because after every flight she wrote in with a complaint.She didn't like the fact that the company didn't assign seats; she didn't like the absence of a first-class section; she didn't like not having a meal in flight; she didn't like Southwest's boarding procedure; she didn't like the flight attendants' sporty uniforms and the casual atmosphere.Her last letter, reciting a litany of complaints, momentarily stumped Southwest's customer relations people. They bumped it up to Herb's [Kelleher, CEO of Southwest at the time] desk, with a note: 'This one's yours.'In sixty seconds Kelleher wrote back and said, 'Dear Mrs.

Crabapple, We will miss you. Love, Herb.'" However, I think businesses should abandon this phrase once and for all -- ironically, because it leads to worse customer service. 1: It Makes Employees Unhappy. 29 Foods You Didn't Know You Could DIY. The 10 Most Important Wedding Planning Steps Any Couple Needs To Know. You’ve just gotten engaged and are in a headful of bliss, excited about the future and what it brings. But really, you’re more excited about the lovely wedding you’ve been dreaming about for years. Either that or you’re in tears at the insane amount of planning and money required. Regardless, planning out one of the biggest starting financial commitments of your relationship needs to be thought out well.

Our new wedding experts, The Wedding Scoop, share some insights with us on what is really important: Congratulations! You’re deep in the heady bliss of being engaged and it’s time to take some first steps towards planning a beautiful celebration that reflects you as a couple. Joseph and Joanne’s Shabby Chic Wedding at Nosh, photo by Ivan Tan Photography. We’re very lucky to have spoken with Caroline, the expert planner from The Wedding Stylist, who shared some advice about how to get the initial process rolling. 1. 2. Caroline: The million dollar question is really about the budget. 3. A Better Way to Say Sorry | cuppacocoa.

March 30, 2014 This post is part of my series on How to Shape Children’s Behavior. “Say sorry to your brother.” “But he’s the one who–” “Say it!” He huffs, rolls his eyes to the side and says flatly, “Sorry.” “Say it like you mean it,” you demand. “Sorrrrry,” he repeats, dragging out the word slowly with bulging eyes and dripping insincerity. You sigh in defeat and turn to #2, “Now tell him you forgive him.” “But he doesn’t even mean it!” “Just say it!” “iforgiveyou…” he mutters, looking down to the side dejectedly. “Now be nice to each other.” Harumphy silence. This scenario might sound all too familiar– if not from your experiences as a parent, then at least your own experiences as a child.

But what alternative do you have? Actually, you can. I’m sorry for…This is wrong because…In the future, I will… Will you forgive me? It made a lot of sense. 1) I’m sorry for…: Be specific. Wrong: I’m sorry for being mean.Right: I’m sorry for saying that nobody wants to be your friend. 4) Will you forgive me? Why This Is An Excellent Resume. 3 Major Mistakes Speakers and Content Experts Make When Delivering Sales Presentations and Public Speeches. 5 Incredibly Effective Ways to Work Smarter, Not Harder. Regular readers know I definitely believe in the power of hard work. As Jimmy Spithill, skipper of Team Oracle USA, says, "Rarely have I seen a situation where doing less than the other guy is a good strategy. " But we can all work smarter, too. And clearly we all want to, as evidenced by the popularity of this recent post, 5 Scientifically Proven Ways to Work Smarter, Not Harder.

The tips were provided by Belle Beth Cooper, content crafter at Buffer, the maker of a social-media management tool that lets you schedule, automate, and analyze social-media updates. (Cooper is also the co-founder of Exist.) That post was so popular I asked Cooper for more ways anyone can make a workday more productive without putting in extra hours. 1. One of the most counterintuitive but effective methods I've found for increasing my productivity is to limit how many items I add to my to-do list. One way to do this is by choosing one to three most important tasks, or MITs. 2. 3. 4. 5. Quit while you're ahead. Simple Science Fitness. Burn Fat & Build Muscle for Healthy Humans. The perfect home office hub - Howards. Until the day we can finally celebrate the dawn of the paper-free office, keeping control of the hard copy bits and pieces that consume our desktops is just something we have to live with.

In a busy home office, pruning, sorting and storing documents requires discipline. After all, any distraction seems far more attractive than re-arranging office clutter. However, once you’ve learned to tame the paper flow with good habits and great storage, you’ll discover your desktop can actually work for you, not against you. And once that happens, you’ll have more time to mow the lawn – or recline on it in your favourite chair sipping on an afternoon cocktail. Managing paper rule number one Try to handle every piece of paper just once. Managing paper rule number two Ok, there are times when the “handle once” rule really is impossible. Essential references The last thing you want in a small home office is to be swamped by reference material. Desktop accessories that reflect your style. 10 Common Mistakes Parents Today Make (Me Included) | Kari Kubiszyn Kampakis.

When I became a mom, I got lots of advice on how to love my child. But not until a few years ago did someone actually point out that loving a child means wanting what's best for them long-term. When my four daughters were young, long-term didn't resonate with me. Back then it was about survival, meeting daily needs and keeping my head above water. Now that my kids are maturing, however, the fog is lifting. These days, I put more thought into long-term. A while back I came across some interesting articles and books that dig into what psychologists today are seeing: a rising number of 20-somethings who are depressed and don't know why. One reason given is that parents today are too quick to swoop in. One article mentions incoming college freshmen known to deans as "teacups" for their fragility in the face of minor problems.

Here's psychiatrist Paul Bohn's response, as paraphrased in the piece: Why am I sharing this information? Mistake #10: Worshipping our children. Like Us On Facebook | Top 5 ways to get back in shape after Chinese New Year feasting | Fit to Post Health - Yahoo News Singapore. 101 Things That Are More Important Than What Your Body Looks Like. We live in a culture obsessed with the physical. We are more focused on how we appear to be than how we really are; we focus on cultivating a life that other people perceive to be great as opposed to one that genuinely feels that way.

It’s all an issue of being in a society that is caught up in the physicality of things, not the soul of them, and maybe the way we regard our bodies is the final frontier. I think we can all agree that superficial appearances matter very little, whether you’re talking about bodies, situations, relationships, or anything else. Although we know this in theory, actually applying it is difficult because our focus is largely – if not entirely – on our own and each other’s physical components. It’s hard to not feel like the look of our body is vastly more important than the quality of our character.

It’s hard to feel like physical appearance doesn’t take precedence when it’s our chief focus. 1. 2. 3. 4. 5. 6. 7. 8. 9. 10. 11. 12. 14. 15. 16. 17. 18. 19. 20. 21. Why Procrastinators Procrastinate. PDF: We made a fancy PDF of this post for printing and offline viewing. Buy it here. (Or see a preview.) pro-cras-ti-na-tion |prəˌkrastəˈnāSHən, prō-| noun the action of delaying or postponing something: your first tip is to avoid procrastination. Who would have thought that after decades of struggle with procrastination, the dictionary, of all places, would hold the solution.

Avoid procrastination. So elegant in its simplicity. While we’re here, let’s make sure obese people avoid overeating, depressed people avoid apathy, and someone please tell beached whales that they should avoid being out of the ocean. No, “avoid procrastination” is only good advice for fake procrastinators—those people that are like, “I totally go on Facebook a few times every day at work—I’m such a procrastinator!”

The thing that neither the dictionary nor fake procrastinators understand is that for a real procrastinator, procrastination isn’t optional—it’s something they don’t know how to not do. It’s a mess. 22 Absolutely Essential Diagrams You Need For Camping. How To Master Your Time. The secret to time management is simple: Jedi time tricks. Imagine you were a Jedi master called Bob (your parents, whilst skilled in the ways of the force weren’t the best at choosing names).

The love of your life – Princess Lucia – is trapped in a burning building as you hurry to save her. You might think of Lucia as the embodiment of your dreams, your aspirations – she is your most important thing. Unfortunately, before you can reach her an army of stormtroopers open fire. The incoming stream of lasers demand your attention – if you fail to dodge them, you’re dead. You might think of them as an urgent distraction from saving your princess.

We all know how a hero resolves this dilemma. And so it is with your life. The secret to mastering your time is to systematically focus on importance and suppress urgency. Look at what you spend your day doing. Say no. Schedule your priorities. One final lesson from the Jedi: they’re heroes. 7 Crippling Parenting Behaviors That Keep Children From Growing Into Leaders. Training the Brain to Listen: A Practical Strategy for Student Learning and Classroom Management. Image credit: iStockphoto Editor's note: This post is co-authored by Marcus Conyers who, with Donna Wilson, is co-developer of the M.S. and Ed.S. Brain-Based Teaching degree programs at Nova Southeastern University. They have written several books, including Five Big Ideas for Effective Teaching: Connecting Mind, Brain, and Education Research to Classroom Practice.

During the school year, students are expected to listen to and absorb vast amounts of content. But how much time has been devoted to equipping students with ways to disconnect from their own internal dialogue (self-talk) and to focus their attention fully on academic content that is being presented? Listening is hard work even for adults. Explicit instruction on cognitive strategies that can help students learn how to learn may have a positive impact on both academic performance and classroom management by emphasizing that students are in charge of their own behavior and learning.

The Anatomy and Psychology of Listening. 19 Scientific Reasons Why You Should Take More Naps. 20 Things To Let Go Of Before The New Year. How much stress are you carrying around? Do you feel burdened by life’s circumstances and emotional issues? Becoming more grounded and happy starts with letting go of worry and stress. I learned this in my own journey, through overcoming drug addictions, healing myself from depression, and walking away from a career in corporate to follow my heart and be a successful writer and life coach. In the process, I had to let go of a lot of things to become the person I am today.

Physically, spiritually and emotionally, I had to learn how to let go of the person I thought I should be in order to be the person I really wanted to be. Letting go of my worries and stress made a difference for me; of course I still dip in and out of some of my stress jar from time to time, but I’ve found this list a good reminder of what I need to strive for each day in order to reach unlimited happiness. Here are 20 things to let go of in order to reach unlimited happiness. 1. 2. 3. 4. 5. 6. 7. 8. 9. 10. 11. 12. 13. These Diagrams Are Everything You Need To Plan Your Wedding. 10 Ways To Guide Children Without Punishment. "The reason a child will act unkindly or cause damage is always innocent.

Sometimes she is playful and free spirited, and other times, when aggressive or angry she is unhappy or confused. The more disturbing the behaviour, the more the child is in pain and in need of your love and understanding. In other words, there is no such thing as bad behaviour in children. Instead there is a child who is doing the best she can and we don’t understand her.” – Naomi Aldort Parents are often surprised to hear that I don’t believe in most of what we think of as discipline (spankings, consequences, timeouts) because it keeps kids from becoming responsible, self-disciplined people. “How will my child learn how to behave?” They ask. My answer is that children learn what they live. Even timeouts – symbolic abandonment -- give children the message that they’re alone with their big scary feelings just when they need us most, rather than being an opportunity to learn how to manage their emotions. 1. 2. 3. Simple Science Fitness. Burn Fat & Build Muscle for Healthy Humans.

The Food Pyramid That Works Please note that corn is a grain and peas are legumes, not vegetables. Also, peanuts are legumes, not nuts. The suggested food pyramid is a common sense approach to consuming healthy whole foods instead of processed or refined foods. Plant and animal sources are supplemented with side sources such as dairy, nuts & seeds, whole grains, and legumes, along with spices, herbs, cocoa and honey for nutritional palatability.

It's A Lifestyle Maintaining a healthy diet shouldn't be temporary and should be a lifestyle. Food Intolerances and Allergic Reactions Food intolerances, which include heartburn, cramps, and diarrhea, are commonly found in corn products, dairy, and wheat gluten. Cholesterol and Sodium Despite the controversy cholesterol and sodium receives, they are not problematic. For Health and Lean Mass The healthiest foods are primarily from plants and animals since they are nutritionally dense. Note on Grains The Metabolic Syndrome and Obesity Explained. Simple Science Fitness. Burn Fat & Build Muscle for Healthy Humans.