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How to Heal Emotional and Spiritual Blockages. HJ: The only thing keeping you from having what you want — particularly the life, happiness and fulfillment you want — are emotional and spiritual blockages.

How to Heal Emotional and Spiritual Blockages

Emotional states create outcomes. Your emotional state determines what you are capable of doing and becoming. A severely depressed person will constantly be struggling with themselves and hence experience the reflection of that in their lives. Someone happy and motivated will produce the opposite results of the depressed person. High level coaches and high achievers know that at the end of the day, it’s all about state management. One of the most important things for us to learn how to do is emotional processing. Emotional processing is not something that we have to do consciously because it occurs naturally when we focus on growth. Emotional Processing Dissolves The Ego The ego itself is the result of unprocessed energies and emotions. The ego (what is ego?) There are two levels of emotional processing. Everything my partner does irritates me. Finding everything your partner does irritating can be stressful, worrying and frustrating.

Everything my partner does irritates me

It can make you feel like your relationship is a burden instead of a positive thing in your life. Once you get to the point where you no can no longer enjoy your partner’s company, solving any existing relationship issues becomes much more difficult, as you may find you’re unable to talk about anything without it turning into an argument. Letting things go. Can 36 Questions Make You Fall in Love — With Anyone? Find a comfortable spot, and start answering!

Can 36 Questions Make You Fall in Love — With Anyone?

(Photo: Getty Images) One lab. Two people. Forty-five minutes. Thirty-six questions. Admittedly, it sounds like a ridiculous recipe for falling in love. In a new New York Times “Modern Love” essay, University of British Columbia writing professor Mandy Len Catron recalls having heard about the 1997 research of Aron, who successfully threw 52 sets of male and female strangers and 19 sets of all-female strangers together in a lab and caused them to grow significantly closer by way of the equation noted above. The method was simple: Over the course of 45 minutes, Aron had his subjects ask each other 36 questions (full list below!). Related: The One Universal Secret To A Lasting Marriage At the end of the session, Aron had each pair stare into each other’s eyes for four minutes. Which brings us back to Catron. Catron, of course, remembered Aron’s research and the weird effect of creating conscious connection with another person.

How to Break Up Gracefully. There may be 50 ways to leave your lover, but some are better than others.

How to Break Up Gracefully

Learn the dos and don'ts of ending a romantic relationship. It's not you, it's me ... or is it? Just about all of us have heard -- or even said -- this line as a way of ending a romantic relationship. The problem is that it often leaves the dumpee thinking the exact opposite. Recommended Related to Sex & Relationships 7 Awesome Erogenous Zones By Hayley Krischer There are plenty of reasons to bypass "boring" body parts and focus on the sweet spots when you’re canoodling. Read the 7 Awesome Erogenous Zones article > > How To Get People To Like You: 7 Ways From An FBI Behavior Expert. Before we commence with the festivities, I wanted to thank everyone for helping my first book become a Wall Street Journal bestseller.

How To Get People To Like You: 7 Ways From An FBI Behavior Expert

To check it out, click here. Meeting new people can be awkward. What should you say? How can you make a good impression? How do you keep a conversation going? Research shows relationships are vital to happiness and networking is the key to getting jobs and building a fulfilling career. But what’s the best way to build rapport and create trust? Robin Dreeke can. Robin was head of the FBI’s Behavioral Analysis Program and has studied interpersonal relations for over 27 years. Robin is the author of the excellent book, It’s Not All About “Me”: The Top Ten Techniques for Building Quick Rapport with Anyone. I gave him a call to get some answers.

What's Love Got To Do With it? Why you shouldn’t (and should) be monogamous. By Tauriq Moosa Why should you only have sex with the person you are in a relationship with?

Why you shouldn’t (and should) be monogamous

After all, there exist many successful relationships involving people having passionate interactions, of whatever kind, with people other than their primary partner. This is done with their primary partner’s knowledge and consent and, presumably, consenting to their primary partner doing the same. Whatever name we use - polyamory, ethical or consensual nonmonogamy – it is important to recognise such relationships exist, are fulfilling and successful. Many assume that a relationship can only exist if it is monogamous: in the sense that you can only have sexual relations with one person, with whom you probably share a deeply personal relationship.

As with any idea, thinking carefully about why we accept (or don’t accept) monogamy has important advantages for us: either we strengthen our view regarding the idea, in this case monogamy, or we realise it is found wanting. Trust Betrayal.