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11 easy psychological tricks that you can use them everyday for your advantage, without being noticed. Your thoughts? Reasons to Limit Watching Porn. A story of porn addiction and recovery (Noah B.E. Church at The Mystery Box Show) За живота на програмиста (камера) Tell Me Who You Spend Time With, And I Will Tell You Who You Are. Who do you spend time with? How do they make you who you are? James Altucher calls this your ‘scene.’ As Jim Rohn put it, you are the average of the five people you spend the most time with. As my dad told me once as a kid, “Ryan, you become like your friends.” Or as Goethe famously said it better and earlier (about 170 years before any of them), “Tell me with whom you consort with and I will tell you who you are.”

“Choose someone whose way of life as well as words, and whose very face as mirroring the character that lies behind it, have won your approval. The fact is, the people we surround ourselves with help set the baseline for what we think is ok, what we think is possible and what we’re exposed to. I remember very vividly a moment in college when I joined the school’s newspaper. It’s not that I’d been around bad influences before, but they just hadn’t been taking me anywhere.

Now’s the time. For me, this accounting has rippled through my life. It doesn’t stop there. How To Get Flat Abs, Have Amazing Sex And Rule The World In 8 Easy Steps. The covers of most men’s and women’s magazines have similar headlines: get great abs and have amazing sex. From the looks of it, these two issues have been recycled over and over (with some other stereotypically gender relevant articles thrown in) on every Men’s Health, Maxim, Cosmo and Glamour cover since the dawn of time.

In fact, I’d bet that if we could get a better translation of cave drawings, they would read something like “Grok get flat belly; make girl Grok moan with joy.” And we keep buying them. We keep buying this lie that these things will make us happy. I’ve had washboard abs (past-tense) and I’ve had some pretty phenomenal sex. We chase this idea of “I will be happy when…” I will be happy when I have a new car.

If you can read this, your life is pretty awesome. Setting aside our first world problems and pettiness, if you are online reading this, you have both electricity and wifi or access to them. You are alive. Because you are alive, everything is possible. 1. 2. 3. 4. 5. 10 Difficult Realities You’ll Continually Face Until You Learn How To Accept Them. 1. You are not excluded from the human condition. You feel hopeless? You feel like you’re on the brink of tears every other hour? You hate who you were and you are afraid of who you won’t become?

You’re experiencing a very real, very difficult part of what it means to be human. But thinking such suffering is abnormal and unavoidable is what will be most painful– resisting it, running from it. You can’t seamlessly execute your life with grace and charisma at all times, if ever really, and it’s in comparing whatever you are to that infallible ideal that you’ll hurt yourself the most. 2. 3. 4. 5. 6. 7. 8. 9. 10. How You Forget You’re Worth Loving. A few weeks ago, I met a man. He was nice in a way that gives considerable depth to the word “nice”. We had a million things in common, and found an easy way with each other immediately. He had a fulfilling job doing work he loved, lived nearby, and had ended a serious relationship long enough ago to be in just the right place to start a new one. There was chemistry. We talked, and exchanged contact information, which he availed himself of after a respectable few days.

He wanted to meet for coffee, which I found a reason to decline; I was busy, or working, or something. Within days, I quickly found myself rejecting his calls, and neglecting to reply to his texts and emails until I forgot to respond at all. I live with my ex-boyfriend. Around the same time I met Lame Not Lame Guy, my ex broke up with the girl he had been dating for several months. But my words of encouragement weren’t heard. But that’s not what this was. Maybe this is how things get better. You Should Fall For Someone Who Doesn’t Love You.

It occurred to me the other day that there might be people in this world who have never known unrequited love, have never fallen for someone who didn’t fall too. I know it’s rarer than a solar eclipse, but it seems likely that some have managed it; people who married their high school sweetheart, who got it right on the first try, who were seemingly born with enough innate confidence to walk right up to the object of their affection and say, “I think you’re great, would you like to go on a date sometime” and whose confidence was rewarded with a resolute, “Absolutely, I’d love to” and a Happily Ever After. The rest of us would be inclined to murder a couple like this if we ever came across them, but I maintain that they are the ones who are missing out. Everyone should fall for someone who doesn’t love them back at least once. People who don’t love you can be found in many places. This has to be more than a crush, more than just a fleeting attraction.

And again, and again and again. 17 Things Every Person Deserves To Do For Themselves. 1. Cut ties with people, or so-called “friends,” whom you immediately return to other “friends” and express contempt for. Nobody deserves that — least of all you. 2. Stop settling for relationships, especially the ones in which you’re being settled for. Stop going back to someone who doesn’t value you. It’s okay to be the one who loves more, just don’t be the one who is used because of it. 3. 4. 5. 6. 7. 8. 9. 10. 11. 12. 13. 14. 15. 16. 17. 12 Things That Show You Who You Really Are. 1. What your ugly looks like. There are few times in our lives we are uglier than fresh after heartbreak, so that’s a good place to start. We’re reeling and hysterical and compromising every conversation with the news of our failed romance.

We are selfish and pathetic and quite possibly the worst version of ourselves. Watch yourself when you’re at your ugliest. 2. Do you quietly calm yourself without telling anybody? 3. We’re all kind and generous to the people who can do something for us in return. 4. Notice of what you do, or what you want to do, when nobody is watching… when you’re not trying to live up to someone’s expectations or prove something. 5.

I am so sorry to bring this quote up, but you really do accept the love you think you deserve. You should like Thought Catalog on Facebook here. 6. There is a certain grace that comes with being vulnerable. 7. I know there are some organized religions that believe that all sins, regardless of severity, are equally wrong. 8. 9. 10. 11. More Sex Transmutation Q&A. GENIUS HOME - Reader's Creative Thinking Questions : Sex Transmutation Q&A 2 ... Answering more of your questions on practical sex transmutation Brian wrote to me recently asking me for greater clarity on the practice of Sex Transmutation. (Please refer to my main article Sex Transmutation: Sexual Energy into Genius if this is your first time at this website.)

Here is Brian's question: Hey Wily, I would like for you to give me specifics on using the immense power of sex transmutation. Is it you use sexual fantasy energy built up and then transfer that energy to goals? And here is my reply: Hi Brian, Thanks so much for your email and questions. 1. The creative act is to transpose the idea of sex on to your particular project.

The other part of inspiration is the Muse. I think there are strong parallels with our own biological ancestry needs. To get laid too! 4. Related articles: Additional References: Napoleon Hill Foundation: Become an Alpha Male. 50 Life Secrets and Tips. Memorize something everyday.Not only will this leave your brain sharp and your memory functioning, you will also have a huge library of quotes to bust out at any moment. Poetry, sayings and philosophies are your best options.Constantly try to reduce your attachment to possessions.Those who are heavy-set with material desires will have a lot of trouble when their things are taken away from them or lost. Possessions do end up owning you, not the other way around. Become a person of minimal needs and you will be much more content.Develop an endless curiosity about this world.Become an explorer and view the world as your jungle. Stop and observe all of the little things as completely unique events.

Try new things. Read “Zen and the Art of Happiness” by Chris Prentiss.This book will give you the knowledge and instruction to be happy at all times regardless of the circumstances. Be brave. Even if you're not, pretend to be. No... #random but #inspirational by @koqoo #kkoolook series by @koqoo. Dying Is Scary, Here Are the Top Things People Say They Regret...

Why Be Happy When You Could Be Interesting? Tony Robbins Why Some People Take Massive Action and Others Don't! 19 провокиращи мисълта въпроси… | Вдъхновяваме хората да подобрят живота си. Колко често Ви се случва да се приберете, да седнете на любимия си диван и да се замислите над нещата от живота? Колко често си давате равносметка за това което е истински важно за вас? Напоследък изобщо, нали? И това е напълно разбираемо… Ежедневието и не леката действителност ни налагат да забравяме да поговорим малко по-сериозно със себе си за значимите неща от живота, …и да си отговорим на въпроси, които всъщност определят нашето съществуване…или поне смисъла от него!

Точно затова сега Ви предлагам да се напънете, да поспрете и да си отговорите на: 19 провокиращи въпроса, които да зададете лично на себе си Ако можехте да се изправите пред целия свят и да изнесете 30 секундна реч, какво бихте казали на всички нас? Етикети: вдъхновение, мотивация, щастие. Notes. Dealing with Life.

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Overcoming hopelessness: Nick Vujicic at TEDxNoviSad. Големия Тони Робинс хаква живота ни с 11 урока за постигане на успех | Вдъхновяваме хората да подобрят живота си. Напоследък доста често ми се мярка името на Тони Робинс, когато сърфирам из нета. Реших да се разтърся и да открия нещо повечко за него. Оказа се че е изключително популярен и то не само сред обикновените хора, но и сред много световно известни личности. За съжаление доста от материалите на Антъни са видео и не са преведени, но въпреки това попаднах на една статия, чийто автор е Робинс и, която доста ме впечатли и реших да я споделя с вас. От краткото ми запознаване с биографията на тази доста мотивираща личност разбрах, че има много какво да се научи от него, а освен това се занимава и с НЛП, което е друга моя любима тема. Така, да си дойдем на темата. Тези промени могат да бъдат разделени общо взето в 2 категории: първата от тях е свързана с нашите чувства към обкръжаващия ни свят-когато искаме да придобием увереност в себе си, да преодолеем страховете си, да се отървем от безсилилието, по лесно да възприемаме неприятните ситуации в живота си.

Урок 1: Чувствате се депресирани? Tony Robbins on What Holds People Back. Кое от тези 7 убеждения ме притиска до стената? Съществуват редица мисловни модели, които непрекъснато ни възпират да се развиваме, пораждат страх от това да вървим напред, пречат ни да бъдем щастливи… …и да постигаме това, за което мечтаем. Веднъж усвоили ги още от детството си, след това е доста трудно да ги премахнем, тъй като те се превръщат в траен навик. Но рецептата за успешното справяне с тях започва на първо място с тяхното осъзнаване и определяне. Истината е, че трябва да ги посочим с пръст: ето точно това ме спира, вече знам с какво да се боря, за да успея! В тази статия ще посочим най-популярните ограничаващи мисловни процеси, които влияят непрекъснато на поведението и на резултатите ни, играейки ролята на ръчна спирачка – винаги опъната до край.

Така че следващите редове се надявам да Ви помогнат да осъзнаете кое всъщност ви стопира да сте “успялата личност” и да Ви помогнат да започнете борба против това. В най-добрия случай ограничаващите убеждения скрили се в съзнанието ви ще са най-малко две! 1. 2. 3. 4. 5. 6. 7. 7 ключови фактора, които движат съзнанието на успешните хора! В тази статия съм Ви подбрал седем ключови перспективи установили се трайно в главата на хората, които са щастливи, здрави и имат високи постижения.

Това са 7 принципа, които неизменно трябва да набием и в нашите глави ако искаме да имаме шанса да постигнем нещо, ако искаме да имаме психика работеща само и единствено в наша полза, а не мозък, който да ни саботира. Запомнете, убеждението не е нищо повече от гледна точка – прозорец, през който гледаме на света. Така че нека да го отворим, да го настроим на честотата на мислене на успешните хора! Когато избирате да гледате света през прозорец с не просто с позитивни, а с реални перспективи, създавате по-ползотворна гледна точка и можете да направите пробив в живота си незабавно.

Не се тревожете дали това, което действително мислите за нещата е истина или картина в мозъка ви – просто живо си представете сега какъв би бил животът ви, ако знаехте това: 1. Учуден, съседът попитал: „Защо тогава ги търсиш тук?” 2. 3. 4. 5. 6. Кога се проваляте? 7. Nine Things Successful People Do Differently - Heidi Grant Halvorson. Learn more about the science of success with Heidi Grant Halvorson’s HBR Single, based on this blog post.

Why have you been so successful in reaching some of your goals, but not others? If you aren’t sure, you are far from alone in your confusion. It turns out that even brilliant, highly accomplished people are pretty lousy when it comes to understanding why they succeed or fail. The intuitive answer — that you are born predisposed to certain talents and lacking in others — is really just one small piece of the puzzle. In fact, decades of research on achievement suggests that successful people reach their goals not simply because of who they are, but more often because of what they do. 1.

Get specific. To seize the moment, decide when and where you will take each action you want to take, in advance. 3. Fortunately, decades of research suggest that the belief in fixed ability is completely wrong — abilities of all kinds are profoundly malleable. 7. 8. 9.