This Is The Big Difference Between Arousal And Pleasure. Goop: What Women Need to Hear About Desire, Esther Perel. Sexuality expert and therapist Esther Perel has a way of re-conceptualizing ideas that feels like a massive paradigm shift, every single time.
We got to see her in action at In goop Health (you can watch her behind-the-scenes here), and she also co-hosted an intimate dinner with GP and Lisa Rubin for the female-directed and led Gypsy, out from Netflix now. The all-women dinner, which revolved around sex, relationships, and the owning of desire, inspired the Q&A below. Her answers urge us not only to change the conversations we have with our partners, but the internal ones we replay constantly in our mind. “If you don’t want to make love to yourself,” Perel asks, “why would you welcome somebody else to do so?” Are You the Subject of Your Own Desire? The Naked Truth of Desire: Beyond Gender. Erotic Mindfulness A Core Educational and Therapeutic Strategy i.
43 Unspeakable Sexual Fantasies People Actually Have. How To Share Your Sexual Fantasies With Your Partner - BetterSexEd Episode 2 - Better Sex Ed. Sexual fantasies… we’ve all got them!
Yet, just because we all have fantasies doesn’t make it easy to talk about them with a partner. One of the reasons we seldom talk about fantasies is because they are often taboo and irrational in nature. They are difficult to understand and makes sense of, which makes the “why” around what we find arousing about them hard to explain to others. When we are able to share and discuss what turns us on deep down, however, it can bring us closer to our partners. It can also add another layer of intimacy to the relationship, deepen our appreciation for our partner, and even lead to sexy adventures! Join us as we discuss different approaches to sharing your fantasies with your partner and helping them feel comfortable sharing theirs. – Keeley & Nikita Subscribe to our YouTube channel here. Get a copy of The Erotic Mind here.
Further reading: Sexual Fantasies – A Beginner’s Guide What’s Your Core Erotic Theme? Fantasy vs. Like this: Like Loading... Sexological Bodywork : The Erotic Mind review. Joseph Kramer, Ph.D.
I first heard of psychologist Jack Morin in Andrew Holleran’s 1978 novel, Dancer from the Dance where there is a short mention of a group of men in San Francisco doing anal therapy together. That was Jack. Probably more than any single person, Jack counseled and coached me through the pitfalls of graduate school to my exalted status as a Ph.D. in human sexuality. Jack Morin has written three books. In Men Loving Themselves, he has photographed, in black and white, twelve men naked and masturbating. Morin’s book on masturbation inspired and encouraged this writer during the making of my instructional DVD: Evolutionary Masturbation–A Guide to the Male Orgasm. The Erotic Mind, by Jack Morin.
Written by a sexologist and therapist, this extremely interesting book offers a point of view on sexuality that is quite different from the Tantric approach.
This is one of the reasons why I find it so captivating: it is amazing to see how recurring themes appear in both modern sexology and ancient scriptures, and it is great to learn from the differences of both approaches. Rather than a book on sex, “The Erotic Mind” is really a book on eroticism, in other words a study of what turns people on (or off). The author is not really concerned with describing the different possibilities of sexual interaction, but instead he focuses on the internal workings of sexual arousal. He uses the data collected through a “Sexual Excitement Survey”, in which he asked a group of 350 people of different sexual orientation (heterosexual, bisexual, gay and lesbian) to describe key aspects of their eroticism, particularly focusing on their “peak erotic experiences“.
First, throughout the book Dr. What's Your Core Erotic Theme? Image © Ellen Von Unwerth, view more of her fabulous photos here We’ve mentioned the core erotic theme in other posts.
But what is it, really? And more importantly, how could it improve your sex life? In his book, The Erotic Mind, Jack Morin outlines eroticism as: The interplay of sexual arousal with the challenges of living and loving… Eroticism can be best understood as the multifaceted process through which our innate capacity for arousal is shaped, focused, suppressed, and expressed. In other words, while sex can be “little more than a collection of urges and acts,” eroticism is the process in which sex becomes meaningful. Embracing these complexities and the paradoxes that exist within our own motivations and emotions is important for the erotic mind to blossom. If it’s not obvious what specifically stood out to you about the experience, was there any exchange between what was attractive to you and any obstacles – physical or perceived – that may have been in your way?
– Nikita. Personal Erotic Myth Survey.