5 Major Goal-Setting Myths That Keep You Stuck. Steve Mura was a Triple-A baseball pitcher.
He was starting one night in an away game, but he almost lost before leaving the dugout. Why? Courtesy of iStock/SIphotography “I can never win on this mound,” he told his pitching coach and shook his head. For Mura, the game was already over, and he hadn’t even thrown the first pitch! When it comes to making progress towards what matters most in life, there are at least five major myths we need to avoid like quicksand. Over the years, I’ve seen these rob countless people of happiness, success, and significance—me included. Myth No. 1: Your Past Determines Your Future Almost 40 percent of people in their twenties achieve their New Year’s resolutions each year, but not even 15 percent of those over 50 do—even though they probably have far more resources to do so. 9 Things That Will Prevent You From Reaching Your Goals (and How to Avoid Them) As a psychotherapist, I get the honor of helping people tackle their goals.
Some clients are really inspired to change their lives and they just want a little direction getting there. Other clients are feeling a bit more hopeless and discouraged about creating positive changes. Either way, my job is to help them take the steps they need to make their lives better. Over the years, I've learned that no matter what kind of goal someone is trying to reach--health, financial, parenting, relationship, or career--there are some common traps that might keep them from living their dreams.
An Almost Foolproof Way to Achieve Every Goal You Set. What Makes The Difference Between Professionals and Amateurs? I’ve started to notice (partially because of my own failures), that there is one skill that is so valuable that it will make you a standout in any area of life, no matter what kind of competition you face.
Process Improvement: This Coach Improved Every Tiny Thing by 1 Percent. In 2010, Dave Brailsford faced a tough job.
No British cyclist had ever won the Tour de France, but as the new General Manager and Performance Director for Team Sky (Great Britain’s professional cycling team), Brailsford was asked to change that. His approach was simple. Brailsford believed in a concept that he referred to as the “aggregation of marginal gains.” He explained it as “the 1 percent margin for improvement in everything you do.” His belief was that if you improved every area related to cycling by just 1 percent, then those small gains would add up to remarkable improvement. Free Bonus: I’ve put together a list of common habits and actions steps you can take to make your habits 1% better. They started by optimizing the things you might expect: the nutrition of riders, their weekly training program, the ergonomics of the bike seat, and the weight of the tires. But Brailsford and his team didn’t stop there.
Strategies. New Year's Resolutions. The One Quality You Must Develop to Reach Your Goals. What does it take to accomplish your goals?
Some people think it’s mostly about luck, smarts, good looks, and social connections. Nope. Courtesy of iStock/nullplus Researcher Angela Lee Duckworth studied West Point cadets, National Spelling Bee contestants, teachers in tough schools, and sales peoples, asking who would succeed and why. “In all those very different contexts one characteristic emerged as a significant predictor of success,” she said in a popular TED talk. Duckworth defines grit as “passion and and perseverance for very long-term goals … sticking with your future, day in day out.…” The word I use to describe that is persistence.
We’ve all had dreams about the future that haven’t come true. We can. 1. No one perseveres unless they care. That doesn’t mean we always find these goals fun or even that they’re our idea. Think about parenting or getting fit or hitting a major professional goal. But, as another study found, 5 Ways to Finish What You Start (and Why You Often Don't) The Goldilocks Rule: How to Stay Motivated in Life and Business. It was 1955 and Disneyland had just opened in Anaheim, California when a ten-year-old boy walked in and asked for a job.
Labor laws were loose back then and the boy managed to land a position selling guidebooks to visitors for $0.50 a piece. Within a year, he had transitioned to Disney’s magic shop where he learned tricks from the older employees. He experimented with jokes and tried out simple magic routines on the visitors. Soon, he discovered that what he loved was not performing magic, but performing in general. The young boy set his sights on becoming a comedian. Once he entered high school, he started performing in small clubs around Los Angeles. It wasn’t glamorous work, but there was no doubt he was getting better. He spent another decade experimenting, adjusting, and practicing his act. After nearly 15 years of work, he broke through to wild success.